AIBU to expect my cat-loving friend not to give my cat treats

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I have a friend staying with me for a few days. She is absolutely crazy about cats. She has three of her own and gives them food treats all the time, eg titbits off her own plate. While she's been here, she keeps doing the same with my cat. Apart from the fact that I don't like the cat hanging around the table while we're eating and scrounging food, my cat is an old, old lady with kidney problems. She's on daily tablets and a special diet and is not allowed any other food. I've pointed this out to my friend several times and asked her not to feed the cat but she keeps on doing it. I've pointed out it will make the cat ill but the minute my back is turned, another bit of chicken or cheese or something is sneaked off her plate. Thank goodness friend is going home today. I don't think I'll be inviting her to stay again in a hurry!!!

If she's going home today it won't be a problem any more. If she does come again, be firm, alternatively you could scream as she does it. Hopefully she'll be so shocked she won't do it again.

yep - scream as she does it, and say OMG you are going to kill her!

FWIW, the odd treat wont harm her, but its your cat, your house, your rules x

Oh dear - I can fully understand. We have an old cat with thyroid and stomach problems - so this would drive me mad. Why do people think they are being kind.

If she is going then perhaps keep it under your hat that you are so annoyed. If you want to keep the friendship. But if she comes again - you will have to tell her.

She should know better....

If it wasnt for the medical issues I would say YABU but if it is likely to make the cat ill, then no, she shouldnt be feeding her.

Next time she comes, give her food that the cat wont like :)

Next time she comes, give her cat food so it won't matter if she gives the cat some off her own plate.

I'd give her one polite, comprehensive warning explanation. If she did it again I'd tell her to leave.

I have an epileptic dog who could fit and die through eating foods with additives etc and as a result feel particularly strongly about people feeding others' pets without permission.

I'm sure that you're much nicer than me and won't throw your friend out so maybe ask her if she'd feed nuts to your allergic, anaphylactic child and make her think?

God, it's not hard is it... ? >

I'm sure the odd tiny treat won't do the cat any harm. I do give her a little taste of chicken sometimes or a bit of white fish. Yesterday, though, she gave her chicken, chorizo and cheese!

YADNBU

Our neighbour's diabetic cat died last week (old age), he was a lovely old boy who often popped round to snooze in front of the radiator but was on so many tablets we never fed him treats. The old lady across the road, however, used to give him plates of stuff, saying his medically restricted diet was 'boring'.
She also feeds our overweight cat scrambled egg and sausages. No amount of explaining, pleading or threatening her with the resulting vets bills has any effect :(