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To think sleeping without a top sheet is minging?

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RevoltingPeasant · 20/02/2011 20:42

DP likes to sleep with a sheet covering the mattress (obviously) and then just a duvet on top.

I think this is skanky, esp since DP doesn't wash his duvet cover every week (Hmm) and so it gets really sweaty. I also think it's weird and wrong to not have a sheet above and below you.

AIBU?

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RevoltingPeasant · 20/02/2011 22:43

Cheers all, DP says, 'Fantastic, now I like MN better' since it's vindicated him Grin

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Bogeyface · 20/02/2011 22:45

Jollster, how does that work? I have been thinking of a similar arrangment for me and DH because he is a bloody nightmare with the duvet! Do you not end up with half of them on the floor? Or a big wodge in the middle?

Thinking about it, a big wodge in the middle might do away with the need for the vasectomy, but I guess thats another thread.....Wink

Bogeyface · 20/02/2011 22:46

He isnt vindicated for being a minger Revolting I hope you told him that!

Unwashed bed clothes are disgusting, with our without top sheets!

Oh and the Queen uses sheets and blankets apparantly, so you would be alright for a top sheet if you ever get pissed and need to crash at her place :o

2rebecca · 20/02/2011 22:47

YABU. Sheet underneath, duvet on top, if he doesn't wash his duvet cover i don't see how adding a sheet is going to help. It's the smelly duvet cover that's the problem, not the lack of a totally unnecessary sheet.

Bogeyface · 20/02/2011 22:47

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RevoltingPeasant · 20/02/2011 22:48

Yeah, he then slightly spoiled the effect by saying, 'See, loads of crazy women agree with me'.

Hmm I'll tell him about the queen though!

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ilovesprouts · 20/02/2011 22:48

yabu

mamaLou13 · 20/02/2011 22:49

this is without doubt the funniest thread i have read on here to date!! love it! and RevoltingPeasant YABU

randomimposter · 20/02/2011 22:53

bogey don't have that problem? They are lighter weight duvets, maybe that's why? And DP bloody cocoons himself in his "don't want any draughts"... so there's no slack there to encroach on my half Grin...

LDNmummy · 20/02/2011 22:53

My DP uses a top sheet (a habit picked up from his mother), I recently banished it from the bed as it was overly complicated to keep it in line with the duvet (especially as we twist and turn at night and it bunches up) and made me hot and sweaty at night because of the extra layer, which is more minging in my opinion. Besides, would you wash the top sheet daily? Otherwise, there is no difference. I just change my sheets when they are dirty, that might be every two days to once a week minimum depending on factors.

LDNmummy · 20/02/2011 22:55

lol at the vindication!

TheNoodlesIncident · 20/02/2011 23:00

I have a top sheet but I tend to use it as a bottom sheet as it is all soft and snuggly. I did use it as a top sheet to start with, but then I couldn't be arsed bothered.

Not only do I get the yellowing bedding, but the wallpaper behind DH's pillow is also yellowing! (Bleeeugh xmillion) I realise we need to get a headboard but what the hell does it? He does wash his hair every day - is it some sort of evil miasma that infects nearby surfaces?!!!

Bogeyface, I bet the Queen's gaff has the central heating on all night, and the temp doesn't drop below 23 degrees or something like that. (I would, if I were Queen) Then sheets and blankets would suffice easily.

QueenofAllWildThings · 20/02/2011 23:01

I agree with the majority - top sheets are a bit 1980s - my mum always has one but totally pointless IMO. Just more washing to do, and then they get all lost at the foot end of the bed eventually and get tangled up. Ick.

BAN TOP SHEETS, I SAY!

piratecat · 20/02/2011 23:05

if there is a top sheet getting rucked up, don't you get those horrible morning crease marks on your skin. the ones that look like you've had a skin tuck?

i have just remembered, my mum uses top sheets in spain. i don't know why. it is far to hot to have a top sheet and a duvet.

mmsmum · 20/02/2011 23:09

This thread is great fun Grin

My Mum tried to use top sheets when we were little, mine always ended up kicked down to the bottom of the bed, I hated it! But she always put it back on. Eventually I learned to lie on top of it.

Having said that, I did use it for my dd when she was tiny, she had top sheet and blanket before I was comfortable enough and felt that she was old enough for a duvet. I think I still used a top sheet for her though, cuteness factor maybe?

I really am surprised that so many people have never heard of a top sheet, not even in a hotel? That's so odd to me.

To answer the question, forget the top sheet, just have him wash his duvet cover! If you used a sheet to keep the duvet cover clean then you could go mad and use a sheet to keep the sheet clean and where would it end? In madness I tell you, madness!!!

Bogeyface · 20/02/2011 23:47

And DP bloody cocoons himself in his "don't want any draughts"...

Thats me :o I get it just right and he turns over, taking the whole damn thing with him and I get a whacking draught down my back! It doesnt help that he is a big chap anyway, and with me being pg there doesnt seem to be enough duvet for both of us, and we have a King size on a double bed!

randomimposter · 21/02/2011 08:54

bogey, I feel your pain. I'm totally serious, I don't think we'd still be together if we hadn't gone to separate duvets probably 16 (maybe more Hmm) years ago... I mean we do occasionally get under the same duvet Wink, but not for long Grin. I would say on a double bed you might be better with 2 single duvets, 2 doubles might be too much.

iscream · 21/02/2011 10:36

Dh & I have separate duvets as well. No top sheets.

LadyBiscuit · 21/02/2011 10:42

My mother does the top sheet thing on the spare bed so she doesn't have to take the duvet out of its cover so often. I hate it

Nefret · 21/02/2011 11:04

I have never heard of using a top hseet with a duvet, I thought the whole point of a duvet was that you didn't need a top sheet Confused

melikalikimaka · 21/02/2011 11:08

I would hate a top sheet as I twist around a lot during the night, I would get strangled with it. But perhaps in your case (sweaty DP beast)YANBU!

Ormirian · 21/02/2011 11:11

The only time I have ever slept with a top sheet was in B&Bs. I always wondered if that was so they didn't have to wash the duvet cover Hmm

EldritchCleavage · 21/02/2011 11:12

Oh how I miss my top sheet. DH won't have one. It is one of the key compromises I made in my marriage, as I remind hm whenever I want my own way on something.

OP, I don't think you're weird at all. All my family have them.Except me, sob.

QuintessentialShadows · 21/02/2011 11:15

You use a top sheet when you have a blanket on top, and no top sheet if you have a duvet with a cover.

Woodlands · 21/02/2011 11:16

it's funny, the other day after DS had chucked up on our bed at nap time, I said to DH "we need to change the bottom sheet" and he got all confused about why i said bottom sheet instead of just sheet. I think that is a hangover from the days of bottom sheet and top sheet.

in halls at uni we used to have duvets with top and bottom sheets - you could exchange your dirty top sheet, bottom sheet and pillow cases for clean ones each week. however most blokes seemed to have no idea what the top sheet was for and just had the duvet (with its cover unwashed all term) and no top sheet. if they ever changed their sheets at all, that is. i;m thinking of my boyfriend at the time in particular. i did end up marrying him though and he is a bit more hygienic now!

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