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Original poster

to think new posters ought not to be controversial

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buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:37

and then get offended and all 'shake the dust off' when they get a lot of Hmm?

It seems to happen a lot, and the latest is one in chat where someone is questioning friends motives for waiting to have children then getting upset that people are being a bit snotty.

Well, am I? Surely it's a bit more reasonable to take a look about before you start with the controversial stuff? They always seem to surprised to be disagreed with!

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GypsyMoth · 20/02/2011 00:40

Hmmm you sure they are 'new' posters??!

Glitterknickaz · 20/02/2011 00:40

who's new anyway?

A1980 · 20/02/2011 00:40

Do new posters have less right to raise something controversial than you do?

Do they need to go through an initiation ceremony on have a certain number of posts first?

YABU

JaneS · 20/02/2011 00:41

Of course they'll be controversial you twit, they don't realize it's all been hammered out before! Grin

Glitterknickaz · 20/02/2011 00:42

Oooh MN initiation ritual... now that could be fun.

Tortington · 20/02/2011 00:42

i hate it when people fuck about

AgentZigzag · 20/02/2011 00:43

I hardly ever use my Hmm face other than in jest.

Should I be trying harder?

FabbyChic · 20/02/2011 00:44

Ive always been controversial. Fuck it it is only the internet. Im wondering how long before you are a regular, I been here bloody two months now.

piprabbit · 20/02/2011 00:44

I don't have a problem with new (or old) posters being controversial.

I do have a problem with people raising a sensitive subject and then refusing to participate in a discussion or admit that they may need to review their opinion in anyway. They usually stamp their feet for a while and then drop the old chestnut about only having recently joined for support and what a wicked next of vipers we all are, before finally flouncing.

cornslik · 20/02/2011 00:44

who cares?

cornslik · 20/02/2011 00:44

I don't

AgentZigzag · 20/02/2011 00:45

Y'know, put a bit more effort in?

Like you have OP Hmm

(that was actually quite pleasant )

Original poster
buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:45

No, not at all A1980. It's just the surprise they show when others have a problem with what they've said that I'm questioning. I have no issue with anyone raising anything controversial, simply their reaction when they're called on it.

For example 'I've got 7 friends who've left having children too late because they've been on the lash and on nice holidays etc - do women just need to get a grip?'

IloveT no history beyond the last few days and self admittedly new.

Glitterknickaz am I allowed to mention names?

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cornslik · 20/02/2011 00:46

yes mention names

scottishmummy · 20/02/2011 00:46

gie it a rest with post this post dat.you're not editor,nor are you moderator

listen up

all this mn etiquette and rules is prefecty rules is rules - save it for the pony club

the vibrancy and range of posts is fun,that's why all the ole gimmers/not like ole days/manners is manners are bag of shite

Maryz · 20/02/2011 00:46

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:47

That's better agent! A+ for effort.

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cornslik · 20/02/2011 00:51

MaryZ I would love to meet you - please join in the meet up thread!

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buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:52

Was that aimed at me Scottishmummy? It was a little difficult to work out.

I'm not trying to stop anyone saying anything. That's the beauty of forums like this. It was the reaction of the protagonist that I was questioning.

And stuff your inverted snobbery.

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AgentZigzag · 20/02/2011 00:52

This initiation ceremony A1980?

Would it involve any spanking do you know?

(Thanks button, I don't know what criteria your grading system uses, but I like it Grin)

scottishmummy · 20/02/2011 00:53

get back in your box.mn isnt all about you

next

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buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:55

I suggest you hide this topic SM. In fact, why are you here? Most threads start with a personal experience / question. Yet that doesn't mean any of us think it's all about them.

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Maryz · 20/02/2011 00:55

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

piprabbit · 20/02/2011 00:55

I have some buns that I made earlier, feel free to fling them.

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buttonmoon78 · 20/02/2011 00:56

Spanking, agent? That's too much effort now. It's just showing off. Or, being such a gymkhana-ite should I say 'orf'? Grin

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