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Original poster

to be sad at the "Aaargh, half-term" attitudes of some moms?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 18/02/2011 22:33

Why can't they just fecking enjoy a week of just 'being' with their DCs?

I'm probably just judging by my own standards, but I adore having this time with my 4, and every holiday is just too short for our liking. I feel sorry that these people can't just enjoy this precious time, rather than wishing the week away.

Sad

(to clarify, all the moms that have moaned today, either are non-working moms, with no child care needs to worry about, or part-time workers with support from healthy grandparents, so please don't flame me about not understanding the juggling)

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Adversecamber · 18/02/2011 22:48

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BaroqueAroundTheClock · 18/02/2011 22:50

not to mention of course that all of my friends are busy/away doing stuff with their children - so I don't get my brief daily interaction with other adults at the school/nursery gates, and toddlers isn't on during half term so miss out on that afternoon as well.

Thankfully I have a meeting (here at home) mid-week so get some adult interaction then. Half terms I suppose aren't as bad as end of terms - when apart from church on Sundays I don't really speak to anyone else (other than my children) for 2 weeks......

portaloo · 18/02/2011 22:52

Loved the hols with DC1. Enjoyed every minute. Couldn't understand why anyone would dread the hols. Felt exactly like you OP.

Then DC2 arrived. Grin

portaloo · 18/02/2011 22:52

Now I understand!! Grin

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 18/02/2011 22:52

Sorry, I have apologised if I've touched on a sensitive subject, I really didn't think it through.

Honestly, none of the people I've experienced today with this attitude have any circumstances like those outlined on this thread, and I don't think I worded it very well in the OP.

When I said judged by my own standards, I think I meant applied my outlook to their similar situation iyswim?

Again, I'm really sorry if I've hurt anyone's feelings.

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scottishmummy · 18/02/2011 22:53

maybe not everyone has same precious moments time as you.and maybe for them it is sincere aaaahhhhhh moment

CoffeeDodger · 18/02/2011 22:53

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Vallhala · 18/02/2011 22:54

You've not hurt feelings here, Chaos, I;m just arsey knackered already and dreading it all. :)

scottishmummy · 18/02/2011 22:57

no hurt feelings its only words on a screen

Carrotsandcelery · 18/02/2011 22:58

Coffee have you looked around for any holiday activities on in your area during the holidays? You could look in your Post Office, Community Centre/School, Sports Centre, Churches, Town Halls, Libraries etc.
Even if you could get out a few of the days to a space where he can burn off some of his energy and you can get a change of scene then it might help.
Lots of places run clubs during the holidays.

Beamur · 18/02/2011 22:59

CoffeeDodger - that's a shame, my DD has always loved it, but hates being cold so taking her out in the snow can go pear shaped if she's not warm enough.
Some kids, well most really need to let off steam and be active, lets hope for dry weather and maybe even a bit of sunshine!

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 18/02/2011 23:00

Thank you for being gracious.

Smile

I think I'll head off to Chat and do a lighted hearted quiz.

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BaroqueAroundTheClock · 18/02/2011 23:01

for you penance Chaosy you can go and write one of your fabby quizzes and start a sillies thread Wink

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 18/02/2011 23:01

oooooo x posted with you Grin

NormanTheForeman · 18/02/2011 23:02

I'd just like to say I really felt differently when ds was at playgroup. Holidays then were times where the regular stuff wasn't going on, and I struggled to keep him entertained. Now he is older it is very different. But I would probably not enjoy it nearly so much if I had several children, some of who were younger than school age.

I can well see how school holidays are a blessing for some, but a trial for others! And that doesn't just depend on whether you work or not (although that also affects things).

bigbeagleeyes · 18/02/2011 23:07

OP I think you explaned in original post that you understood that others would feel differently. I'm with you, I only have one and he's 15 now but I've always enjoyed his company. And I also live in a small village with no public transport but we've always managed to enjoy our time together during holidays.
Nowadays he sleeps a lot and spends a lot of time in his room but we do meet up sometimes and it's lovely to see him

Quattrocento · 18/02/2011 23:07

yabu

Do you need a visa to visit Cloud-Cuckoo-Land?

TheBolter · 18/02/2011 23:08

YANBU when it's school age children being discussed. I am always amazed at the no of mums who seem to dread holidays. Maybe it's because I'm a working parent, but I can't wait for them!

My children are not angels, but I do enjoy their company, and I think they need holidays to unwind. My two are knackered and have been vile the last two weeks.

YABU when mothers are talking about pre-schoolers though. I found the endless weeks of paused toddler groups, and general life lines, really hard to get through.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 18/02/2011 23:10

I feel quite Ahhhhh about half term, my DS is 3, hes at school nursery in afternoons. He loves it and i know he will be bored with me at home. Was hoping my sis would take him out one of the days but shes busy at work so he will be bored ridged and bouncing off the walls. Think im going to feel sorry for him in holidays, so the ahhhh is very much on his behalf. Sad

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Tigurr · 18/02/2011 23:21

I struggled with school holidays when DD1 was a toddler as all the playgroups & library activities would stop for them.

Now, though, she's at school and I quite enjoy the holidays now. Annoyingly, we don't get 'half term' here - they have 10-11 week terms and then a 2 week holiday before starting the next 10-11 week stretch. It's hard-going as by about week 8 DD1 is knackered and just 'over' it all.

I tend to find that the first few days of the 2 week break are really low-key days while she rests and gets back to normal. I often have her booked in for a couple of holiday-care sessions - normally a 2 hour dance or art thing - and our local library normally runs a few things too.

That said, I'm not totally looking forward to the Easter break as there's a good chance DH will be over in NZ for it - groan

squareheadcut · 18/02/2011 23:21

i'm working through half term so my son will be on a play scheme for half term, i wish i had the luxury to spend a week with him

Tortington · 18/02/2011 23:23

half term suck cock

scottishmummy · 18/02/2011 23:25

shall i take it you suck your own cock halfterm?

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 18/02/2011 23:26

I don't think holidays would be so bad if I were working. The DS's fight after school and a weekends anyhow (well DS2 and 3 do) so that's nothing really extra. It's the added loneliness that I hate during holidays the complete absences of any day to day interaction with adults. Most weeks in a month I only speak to other adults at school/nursery run as it is (and once a week on a Sunday) and that's bad enough. Oh and the no break from the children, they're great (most of the time) but it's really really hardwork when you're lonely and don't get any break at all from them and they're awake for 13 hours a day

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