to give a 3 year old the following responsibility:

[lovemy2babies]

I'm wondering if I expect too much from my recently turned 3 year old daughter.

She seems to have regressed recently and wants me and DH to do it all for her.

She is also starting to lie when asked if said task has been completed she says 'yes' when in fact she has not.

So DD's responsibilites are:

*Take herself to the toilet when she needs to and pull her pants down and do her business

*Wipe if wee (I will clean if poo).

*Pull up pants, wash hands with soap & dry hands

*Feed herself the food that is infront of her

*lay cutlery on the table

*Place her dirty plastic dishs in the sink,

*Pick up/tidy up toys

*Fetch me somthing I have asked for

So AIBU?

sounds fair lm2b. i think cutting a toddler a bit of slack now and then is kind rather than anything else. i also find with my 3yo when he gets a bit rude and defiant, i just cut the amount of attention he's getting (so i don't argue with him or try and persuade him to do whatever). Sometimes I let it go, if he's clearly overtired and overwhelmed. Usually I just say 'Okay then, tell me when you're ready to do X' and i busy myself with washing up or whatever, and usually in a few minutes he tells me or just starts doing it. There are a few things I'm adamant about (washing hands after toilet) but i try and keep those to a minimum. Good luck! Btw I think it gets easier when the baby is on their feet - my DS2 is 19 months now, and it's easier than when he was 8 months, they keep each other amused more.

my boy is 2 and loves helping out. He always has to say 'thankyou for my lovely food and can i get down from the table', he attempts to make his own bed in the morning, puts his nappys in the bin, helps set the table and helps get food for cooking out. also helps sort and helps hang out the washing. he is only 2 but thinks he is the same age as his much older brother. he wants to do everything by himself and is very willing and independent.

my mum waited on us all hand and foot and this has been very bad in the long term. my brothers wives are expected to play mum now.

I think any chores can be made fun.

My 23 mth DS has been taking his nappies to the bin since he could walk. He can't do an awful lot else apart from tidy up some toys and help me put clothes into the washing machine but it did backfire once when he was helping my DH hang out washing. DH wondered where all his pants/socks had gone to...found them in the bin :)
Can't wait until DS can work the vacum cleaner and make me a cup of tea!

YANBU to be working towards the things on your list, YABU to expect it all to happen every time and to perfection. That may be why the wee lass has started to tell porkies; it's because it's too much and she wants to please you.

At just turned 3, I would be starting to introduce those things. At just turned 4, my DD can do all those things.

In respect to tidying up, I used to bark instructions at DD and she would fetch specfific objects and put them in the box. Now at four, she can be given a simple task such as put away all the barbie toys when she can be arsed.

She was feeding herself with a spoon / fork at 3. At four, she uses a knife and fork (but food is cut up for her).

She can lay the table, so long as you don't mind her dumping the items on the table.

She has been clearing her plate and bowl from the table for a year.