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did i do the right thing

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 12:56

I did my usual and checked DS1's facebook
there on his page was a message and a video saying

"Who is cummin prk afta skool amora warn ya tho bring towel n wear own clothes under ya uniform os it gonna be wet we either jumpin or bein pushed in lake"

Now DS1 didn't put this up nor the video but the children hang around together and I don't want him involved.

So I called the school and told them what was happening.

was I wrong/

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waitwhat · 18/02/2011 12:57

Kids cant meet at a lake? Im not getting the bad bit?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 12:58

wait, they are jumping in it or being pushed in.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 12:58

I don't want DS1 involved as he cannot swim.

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solooovely · 18/02/2011 12:58

You didn't want them all jumping in the lake I assume? Were you worried someone would get hurt or drown or it's full of disease and rats . . . eeek!

SenoritaViva · 18/02/2011 12:59

I presume you are talking about them bunking off school this afternoon and doing this?

OffToNarnia · 18/02/2011 12:59

Pushing in bit I guess? How old kids? I'm too old for this texting lark looking at message!

manicbmc · 18/02/2011 12:59

I'd be more worried about the incomprehensible message. Hmm

If his friends are daft enough to jump in a lake then that's up to them. I wouldn't have called the school as it seems like it's something they are doing 'afta skool' Confused

How old is your ds?

northangerabbey · 18/02/2011 13:00

Well, more fool them, tbh.

Unless your ds is really young (in which case he shouldn't be on FB), surely it's up to him whether he does anything as daft as jump in a lake in Feb? TBH, I doubt any of them will actually do it.

Vallhala · 18/02/2011 13:00

Feck, too damn right you did the right thing! (I over-react, admittedly, as I'm s-scared of water!).

I can't think what "lake" in your area they might be meeting at - I can only think of duckponds, canals and the river. Anything "lake" sized would worry the hell out of me.

I don't know what the school might do but I certainly couldn't have just let the children get on with it and ignored the message either.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 13:00

Soloooovely, firstly its cold and secondly the lake is dirty ....very ewwwwwww

Senorita, I am not sure when it was meant to happen just said after school.

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FlamingoBingo · 18/02/2011 13:00

Are you informing the school that they need to up their ante when it comes to teaching English language?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 18/02/2011 13:00

It depends on whether the lake is safe to jump in. Last summer ds2 and ds3 and their friends spent a lot of time at a local spot where they could play in the river. It is reasonably safe, so I was happy for them to do it - it seemed to me to be a good thing for them to be outside in the fresh air, being active rather than at home on the PS2.

Though they were doing it in the summer, in hot weather - it might be a lot less fun in February!

northangerabbey · 18/02/2011 13:01

On a side issue, I'd get him some swimming lessons. Very useful lifeskill imo.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 18/02/2011 13:02

Cross-posted - I hadn't seen that you'd said ds1 can't swim - in that case I would be worried too.

I'm not sure what you think the school can do, though, other than warn the children not to do something dangerous - once school is over and the children have left the premises, they aren't the school's responsibility any more, are they?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 13:03

Vall, you know the park beginning with B opposite Tesco?

They are 12 - 13, DS1 is 12 but very easily led.

Northern there is already a video on youtube of one of them doing just that jumping in, getting out and then being pushed in.

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BooyFuckingHoo · 18/02/2011 13:03

why inform the school though just cause ds cant be involved?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 13:04

Northern he has had numerous lessons and has just about grasped the doggy paddle.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 13:04

Booy because the lake is dangerous as well.

It is not just DS I am concerned about.

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justcarrots29 · 18/02/2011 13:05

Yeah I think you did the right thing. Sounds a bit dangerous. The water will be freezing and obviously the parents won't know about it. You would have felt awful if you said nothing and someone died. YANBU

RumourOfAHurricane · 18/02/2011 13:06

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BooyFuckingHoo · 18/02/2011 13:06

but it's nothing to do with the school if they do it after school. if you are worried, tell tehir parents. teh school cant do anything.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 18/02/2011 13:07

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TheLadyEvenstar · 18/02/2011 13:07

Shine, he knows to come straight home,before calling the school i didn't know if they finished early with it being the last day.

As I am on good terms with the head I mentioned what was happenening.

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HowBleddyRude · 18/02/2011 13:08

I'm guessing that the OP doesn't want it on her conscience if a child got hurt, or worse.

You'd have that nagging feeling of "if only I'd said something"

Confused

Think I would have just stopped my son from going and possibly warned any parents who I knew personally.

Definitely sort out swimming lessons.

manicbmc · 18/02/2011 13:09

So they might not do it today if school intervenes but could all go and do it tomorrow.

Wouldn't it be more useful to teach them a bit of common sense? I did all kinds of daft things at that age but my parents didn't have the luxury of checking my facebook to find out what I was up to.

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