to ask if you would use donated breastmilk if it was available rather than formula?

[bubbleymummy]

Inspired by another thread.

I personally would rather use donated milk. If you wouldn't - why not?

My ff nephew sorry. Still not found my glasses.

There are studies that show lots of things. Strangely enough people take on board what they feel is appropriate for their own child.

There are studies that prove that it is better for children to be brought up at home rather than sent to nursery before the age of three, yet we don't question those studies because many women have no choice but to work and so by hammering home that message would make them feel inadequate.

There are studies that show that co sleeping increases the risk of sids. Yet people on mumsnet actively encourage women to co sleep with their babies.

So why should it be any different wrt breast/bottle feeding. We all have access to the research. We can all read. Many of us were formula fed as children and as adults we're past the point where it matters any more anyway.

It would depend on various factors, such as screening, supply, convenience of collection.

Haven't read all the post so apologies ia.

There was a gay couple in America who adopted a baby (twins I believe) and they had breast milk delivered to them on a two-day basis in vacuum packs. Expensive and quite bizarre, but in my view, quite necessary-and good on them for doing all they can to give the babies the right nutrients.

My mum used to donate breast milk to the hospital, but where I live they don't do it as it costs so much to get it screened (I offered when ds was born).

If I couldn't breastfeed and the milk was screened I'd much rather use breast milk from someone else.

yes yes yes yes yes

some of you would rather powder COW'S milk than human? really??????

I would definitely.
I would also donate my own
And I would feed directly someone else's baby my bm if I was asked, and vice versa

Debs, I agree and I would do the same.

'There are studies that show that co sleeping increases the risk of sids. Yet people on mumsnet actively encourage women to co sleep with their babies. hmm '

Yeah exactly, that for instance in other countries co sleeping is the 'normal' way and you would be an exception doing it different.

People do different things and I dont think its going to make that much difference to them when they are older. I really never get the way people feel guilty for not doing certain things. It probably has more of an impact on the child having a nervy, guilty mother who is worrying about these things.

"There are studies that prove that it is better for children to be brought up at home rather than sent to nursery before the age of three, yet we don't question those studies because many women have no choice but to work and so by hammering home that message would make them feel inadequate. "

haha!!! you really dont see those threads on here debting this very topic???

bubbley - that's an interesting question you asked noodle.

When you are told repeatedly that BF has advantages, but then those don't fit with your own experience,(eg , my DS don't have exzema (sp?) asthma, have had very few tummy upsets) AND you can ameliorate the apparent "risks" of FF by later providing them with a good diet, not smoking etc, then it can lead you to think that there is not such a big point in breastfeeding.

Except that it is cheaper and more convenient.

But then that's offset by the fact that other people can feed the baby apart from you, on FF, which is a nice thing for them and you.

So although I think breast probably is be best, I'm not sure it's that much better, in the case of individual households, to get that het up about.

yes those topics do come up but unlike pro bf topics they are shot down instantly..

If you're malnourished as a small child/infant it does have an effect later in life, even if you've eaten healthily otherwise. In NO WAY saying that ff is malnourishment, just that early feeding can matter later.

do you think pro BF topics should be shot down instantly?

yy - Wannabe. It seems it's heretical on MN to criticise co-sleeping or nurseries for under-3s

I am not going off my child I am going off 100s of children I see everyday (I work with babies and children). I just have gone off what I have seen but not just one child and I think everyone should do the same. Its a choice and is up to you imo.

Yes, I would

noodle, my point was that you are biased, just as I am biased. Everyone is biased, and that we should therefore not just go on our own opinions, even of what we think we have noticed.

I'm not sure you can guarantee that you can offset things jlc. You can't compare a child raised on bm directly to itself raised on formula iykwim and say that they turned out the same....

Agree With Jamie Lee, Breast might be better but not THAT much better for a clean, sanitary household in 21st century UK to make a huge difference.

As for co-sleeping, well, I am a heretic, the only person to co-sleep with is your husband/partner. Babies in their own beds, preferably their own rooms too.

OhForBoonesSake - I think what Wannabe meant was that FF shouldn't be shot down instantly.

Am posting from phone so hard to post links but if you google "eats on feets" you will find a worldwide org that enables women to access free donated breastmilk.
I am a member ( wales) and they are also on facebook.
I think this is a fabulous thing and wouldn't think twice about using donated bm instead of formula which is inferior.

bubbley - I don't know. Maybe I'm kidding myself. But I think I'm doing better than a mum who bf but smokes in front of the children.

amother, I second that. My ds was in his own room after 3 weeks (and before that in a Moses basket). I couldn't do co-sleeping, it didn't cross my mind.

Wasn't there a big scientific experiment deciphering the IQ rate of bf babies vs ff? Didn't bf babies win that? (genuine question).

Jamie, I think that weighing up the risks of everything you do is definitely the way to go.

But I don't deny the risks of the things I do, as that wouldn't help anyone, including me.

JLC why bringing in smoking infront of DCS. that isn't comparing like for like.