to refuse to let ex take them abroad for 2 weeks

[gordyslovesheep]

In Sept - to Turkey

my reasons are

1. I will miss them too much - espcially DD3 who is only 2

1. He is iffy on maitanance right now due to 'cash flow' issues but can afford the flights? (villa is free)

1. School turns a blind eye to 10days 'off' per year - this uses up the entire allowance in one go meaning I have to take them away in holiday time - which I can;t afford

1. He's taking his GF (who he left me for) (yes that IS unreasonable I know but still...)

1. We agreed in the summer hols we would EACH take 2 weeks leave to reduce childcare costs (£150 a week for holiday club) - this would now not happen

or am I meaning a mean bitch

I meant that it'll save you some money and you could cope better with the maintenance problems

Surely the father has as much right as the mother to take his children on holiday for 2 weeks? Why are her needs greater than his?

I think YANBU at all
A week is a good compromise
Two weeks is too much time out of school and its a definite no if this would mean ExH would then have to go back on the school hol agreement and leave you with a bigger childcare bill.

My DS goes to France for a fortnight every year with her Dad and GF who he left me for. He pays no maintenance at the moment.

Yes, I feel hurt and hate to see her with the OW and yes, I miss her terribly. But I dont then I dont have child care costs to worry about for that fortnight and I have precious time to myself knowing that she is having a high old time with her Dad.

If you are still going to incur costs because he is not free to look after DC during the school holidays then discuss him contributing to holiday club fees etc or him being responsible for finding quality care for them in his absence. Also AK him to be responsible for asking for time off from school just as you would be if you wanted to take them out for a holiday.