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to be shocked by facebook photos

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Nettlerash · 12/02/2011 22:50

I was just reading my news feed and noticed my neice had commented on a few of her friends pictures which were all public content. I had a quick look (me being nosy me!) and I was pretty shocked at what I saw.
This girl was posing in really skimpy clothes, bending over pushing her boobs together so you could see right down her top etc..............I had heard stuff like this happening but didnt realise it was so close to home.

I know I was just being nosy and its none of my business etc etc..........but I was surprised that anyone could just go into her pictures like that.
Is this what we mums of girls have to look forward to?

My neice is 14/15 so this girl is in the same class.

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Nettlerash · 12/02/2011 22:54

sorry can't spell niece tonight!

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bumpsnowjustplump · 12/02/2011 23:01

No way my daughter will not have unsupervised access to either a computer or t internet until she is at least 35.... ANd i am seriously contemplating a chaperone until then as well.. Wink

HairyMclary1979 · 12/02/2011 23:18

it's awfull, a "friend" of mine had pictures of her nude 3 year old son on facebook for all to see as well as pictures of him in the bath with his naked 11 year old auntie. some people really dont have a clue how harfull facebook can be in the wrong hands (i ended up reporting aid photos to facebook as being pornogrophy)

Notalone · 12/02/2011 23:42

Nettlerash - I have seen this so many times and is is very shocking. It seems to be very much the norm for many teenagers to do this but I don't think they realise how many people can see these pictures that were probably taken on their own mobile phones in their own bedrooms. However as it is a friend of your niece there is sadly probably nothing you can do. I would avoid looking at these pictures again if you can and hope they get seen by someone closer to the girl who is able to say something.

HairyMclary. You reported pictures of a 3 year old as pornography ?? Says more about your mind than theirs tbh. This persons profile in all probability was accessible by friends only and not ones that they believed would report photos of their child as porn. I am genuinely shocked you did this Hmm

Spenguin · 12/02/2011 23:47

Notalone - maybe just reported as 'pornography' to be sure they'd get looked into by the appropriate FB admin staff? Rather than not being able to tick the red flag box and having to write 'well, I saw some photos that might be construed as a paedophile's dream. However, they're not technically that. In fact, I'm just worried that they might fall into some total nutjob's hands' etc etc etc

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 00:10

Notalone it wasn't just pictures of a three yr old it was pictures of a nude 3 yr old with everything on show. her profile was accessable to everyone as another friend who wasn't friends with the mother of said three year old could see all her pictures. as far as i am aware Any nudity isn't alowed on facebook let along nudity involving a minor.

TheSecondComing · 13/02/2011 00:24

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didymosity · 13/02/2011 00:33

there is absolutely nothing wrong with showing naked pictures of a 3 year old though FFS. How do you think the mother would feel having pictures of her 3 year old reported as pornography??? i can't believe you reported her. actually makes me sad for the world :(.

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 00:34

sorry Nettlerash i kinda hijacked your thread here.

Memoo · 13/02/2011 00:38

Hairy, can't believe you see a picture of a toddler in the bath as pornography. Your thinking is a bit warpped

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 00:47

i really dont care what she would say to be honest i'm just glad me and my other friend came accross these and reported them, it may seem like hysteria but if it stops them pictures getting into one peadophiles hands then i class myself to have done the right thing. if her album had been private i proberbly wouldn't have done it but this album was available for all to see.

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 00:48

Memoo he was with his also naked 11 year old auntie. or is that allowed as well?

Memoo · 13/02/2011 01:12

It's still not porn!

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 01:16

so what would you class it as?

Memoo · 13/02/2011 01:35

Erm 2 kids playing in the bath. Porn is something that Is done with the intent of sexual pleasure. Surely your not suggesting that is what the mother was intending?

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 01:45

no but with the album being open it could be veiwed by anyone, this is what was concerning me, if it had been private then i would not have had a problem at all as only those she trusted enough to have as friends on there could have seen it but any tom dick or harry could have gained access to these pictures.

cloudydays · 13/02/2011 01:55

the appropriateness of a picture of an 11 year old in the bath is questionable - mainly, in my view, because she's probably old enough to be embarrassed by it - but whether it crosses any lines really depends on what kind of picture it was.

Hairy, you say she was naked in the bath, but if everything from shoulders down was blocked by arms / knees / soap bubbles / 3 year old, and you just knew she was naked because it was a picture of her in the bath, I would think it was very unfair of you to report the photo. If private body parts were visible then that's a different story.

I wouldn't post bath pictures of my dd (certainly not at 11) but if a friend did I wouldn't be bothered unless they were particularly revealing and of a child old enough to be self-conscious about their body. A three-year-old is a baby, adn I see nothing at all wrong with pictures of a naked baby.

cloudydays · 13/02/2011 01:56

I mean if a friend posted pictures of her own child, not mine.

CheerfulYank · 13/02/2011 02:02

There are two ways of looking at it, I suppose. Because a true paedo doesn't need pictures of children in revealing outfits, and now you've got all these parents refusing to let their children walk around in swimsuits b/c someone might be lurking around "having a perv." But on the other hand you've got parents slapping make-up on their toddlers and out on the paegeant stage shaking body parts they won't even have for another decade. And then when people complain that it sexualizes the children the parents shriek "they're just kids having fun and dancing! If you see something sexual, you've got the problem!"

Hmm
HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 02:17

cloudydays the picture of the 11 year old was taken at such an angle you could see everything, there was no bubbles in the bath just plain water and as she was sharing with a small child there wasn't much water in, she had started developing so it was in my eyes inapropriate to be in an album for anyone to see,

the pictures of the three year old one of them was of him sat on a kitchen worktop holding a phone and the picture had been zoomed in and yet again taken at such an angle to show everything, again in an album for all to see.

MrsRhettButler · 13/02/2011 02:39

I can see hairys point totally, mind you, you could have informed the mother first that her photos were not private, some people are quite naïve and don't realise that their profile is open

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 02:51

I guess i just panicked and acted before thinking.

HairyMclary1979 · 13/02/2011 02:51

I guess i just panicked and acted before thinking.

kittya · 13/02/2011 05:34

I'm really going off facebook these days, it potentially leaves us all in vulnerable positions

cumbria81 · 13/02/2011 06:37

Personally I don't see anything wrong with having a naked picture of a 3 year old on the internet. It's certainly NOT porn and very unlikely to fall into the wrong hands (and even if it does, it does, ifyswim).

the 11 year old is different as she is older and could well be embarrassed about it.