Sorry, long. And I'm probably being a bit bridezilla-ish, but anyway.
I'm getting married next year. My closest old friend (call her A) got got CP'd last year to a lovely lovely woman. Let's call BFF's wife B. I love them both to bits and see them all the time.
When I got engaged at Christmas, my first impulse was to ask the two of them to be my bridesmaids. But since them I've had second thoughts about B. A is my absolute best friend in the world, B is a good friend but a recent one (only knew her since she got together with A). I also have another great friend, C, who I was at uni with along with A.
I'm a bit worried that as B is a recent friend, I may not be able to rely on her with the whole wedding planning business: also she can be quite moody and unpredictable, and (I'm realising) isn't that into girly wedding-planning type stuff. She's more the sporty, no-nonsense type, and had little to do with planning the wedding with A.
I'm now starting to realise that I want A and C as bridesmaids, as they are BFFs of old old standing, and are just more into that kind of event planning than B. However, as B is married to A, and I've already asked both A and B, I am worried that I may upset both A and B if I ask B to step down in favour of C.
WWYD? Am I being precious here? My hunch is that this is something I need to sort out now (there's about 18 months to go) and be really clear and honest. But I don't want to hurt people's feelings.