to think that people on here are not rescuers and that they get far too involved?

[wannaBe]

I've just read a thread where a poster has said that if she had the money she would hire a private detective to track someone down to make sure she was ok.

I am constantly baffled by the lengths that some posters seem to think it is their right to go to to get involved in someone else's problems they've posted online.

In the years I've been here I've seen posters call ambulances/the police/social services/ask mn to track people down etc.

Apart from the fact that most drama threads are trolls, why is it that people seem to think that they have the right to get so personally involved in someone else's life without being asked to, purely because the person has posted about it on here? The whole aim of mn is that it's anonomous, surely?

Tbh it's like competitive do-gooding.

And that's before we get to the possibility of a poster being a troll and someone getting seriously hurt one day...

In that formula in the night thread, imagine woman alone with 3 kids, semi rural location, strangers coming to the door who she does not know from adam, most probably legit, but you have to be careful.

Some people are kind and just want to help though ,thats up to them to make that judgement ..I'm just an old cynic though and it makes me feel uncomfortable with the posters who try and track down posters etc

but its their choice really. I don't invest enough of me in MN iyswim

You just have to think though before helping in RL, people as you were in RL meeting someone from the internet.

I agree usual its their choice and they have to excercise caution when doing so. Its nice that there are people out there if you have noone. Most of us MN are legit and are perfectly nice, promise

agree with usual - bet on another more elite site you would do the same huh

StrawberryCake - that sort of help is fantastic.
That isn't what the OP is talking about.

But people do choose to be anonymous on here. Outing yourself to some degree to ask for donated old clothes, or for someone to help you out with something specific, is quite different from finding that someone has made a judgment about you and followed you all over the internet trying to work out who you are.

I'm really not too comfortable with the latter, especially in the case of people who may be too upset to have realized how much personal information they're letting out.

I would get very if I was called a troll, that I am not lol, even though I have posted some contentious subjects int he past and have had a flaming for it, and cries of 'troll' wont do that again

I know that pigletmania ..its nice if some people want to help others I haven't got a problem with people offering online support

Yes some people can offer some great advice that one would not have thought of, I have benefited from some fantastic support on her after my 2 MC and upset about not being able to concieve a 2nd dc.

I do want to put more pictures of me on here but really have trouble uploading them on here, dont know why

Yanbu wannabe.

And Blu is spot-on, too.

It is nice that people are naieve. But at the same time unwise and possibly even, sadly, dangerous.

Just because we are adults does not mean we are not at risk from people we do not know.

YANBU.

I am constantly baffled by the lengths that some posters seem to think it is their right to go to to get involved in someone else's problems they've posted online.

As soon as i read that i thought of "R"

the shriekingharpy - that's really funny. ps: can i have some pencils please?

I agree with Wannabe and usual (although I did believe the Victoria Station troll Bloody idiot!).

I tend to steer clear of threads that are the 'crying out for help' kind as I cannot add anything other than call your GP/go to A&E/call the Samaritans/speak to x/y/and z professional type comments.

I don't do 'rescuing' on forums any more due to being sucked in by histrionic trolls in the past but there will always be several others willing to step up to that role.

I probably sound cold,I'm not-just very guarded.

And I always like to remind myself that my pc does have a off switch.

In all honesty i would never ever dream of going to someones aid id met on here, rather stay at arms lenght and keep my privacy. But then again i was stalked by a girl i knew from a dance class who went as far as to pretend to be a boy to try and lure me into meeting up with her, adding her on FB so she could copy my latest hairstyle/clothing purchases. It was all very "Single White Female"

BUT, i can completely understand those who do rush to aid. If i hadn't had the experience i'd had i would be more inclined to help those in my area.

As long as you are very safe and maybe take asomeone with you for safety (someone heavily armed of course) then it is ok.

Herecomes I can't comment as I haven't seen any posters on MN asking for cold hard cash.

Well I don't know what I'd have done without MN over the past 9 weeks or so, the advice and support people have given me is staggering and so meaningful to me. I'll never be able to thank people enough or convey just how much they've helped me.

I felt with the R situation people meant well but really should have asked her first before starting anything.