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Original poster

To think if your children are 9&12 you should have a job??!!

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stoppinchingthedummy · 06/02/2011 14:47

Ok i dont want a flaming and this is more about a family member than anyone else but i need to ask

Ok my aunt and uncle live in the same town as me ..we dont see each other much mainly because were busy BUT my auntie drives me mad ...She is about 42 ,hasnt ever worked since her dc were born and im not sure if she did before that tbh ...Her dc are 9&12 and she just spends her whole life busybodying in other peoples lives!! Petitions,letters to various mp's about one thing or another ,standing outside the school gate from 2.45pm every day usually with some kind of clip board about something or other!!

It gets my back up more because she seems to think everything is a competition , i run an after school club and all of a sudden she decides she will write to all parents at her local school about starting one there Hmm then when the response is low she keeps a low profile for a couple of days then all of a sudden when we have a new enquiry she makes a new poster for the school one and tries to encourage the children from our club to go to that one Hmm(no encouragement needed as school one is always going to be cheaper) It wouldnt bother me if it was someone directly involved with school attempting to set one up but why is she always involved in everything.

Then the latest thing is childminding ...but not registered as far as i know (although ive no way of finding out) she just gets the parents to pay her cash then if anyone asks she tells them she does it as a favour or to play with her dc!! AIBU to be feeling like she needs to get herself a job that occupies her mind ??

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mutznutz · 06/02/2011 22:52

this week its about my brother moving to the school her ds is at and her imediatte reaction was "oh he wont be in xx(cousins) form its already too busy" i dont get why she wouldnt be going out of her way to encourage school to put them in the same class

I'm guessing it's because she clearly knows that school classes are made up of mixed ability children, that if the class is full then it's full and that most schools are reluctant to place families in the same class...so they learn to be independent.

Of course if she were a busy body, she'd probably think she had the right to 'go out of her way to encourage the Head Teacher to do things her way'...but thankfully it seems she knows to butt out and let the school place pupils where they see fit Hmm

MadamDeathstare · 06/02/2011 22:58

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skiphopskidaddle · 06/02/2011 23:07

yabu. My youngest is 3m. If I could stay at home until she's 35 I would. I'm dead jealous of SAHMs. Perhaps the OP is too.

Violethill · 07/02/2011 06:48

Lol at the idea of staying at home with your kids until they're 30!!

Do you want your kids to not be employed as well, so they're home with you !?!

skiphopskidaddle · 07/02/2011 09:19

bless you Violethill - you need this

brass · 07/02/2011 09:31

YABU

You sound terribly insecure and threatened by her tbh.

Totally none of your business whether she works unless it's directly impacting you which it sn't is it?

deepheat · 07/02/2011 09:31

So she doesn't work. She doesn't whinge about not working. She uses the free time she's been graced with to organise after-school clubs and takes an interest in the local community?

COW!

brass · 07/02/2011 09:33

'I think she should get a job where you work and sit in the desk next to you.'

LOL@Madam hilarious!

LIZS · 07/02/2011 18:39

Why does it matter so much to you ? You come across as more than a bit chippy tbh.

ThePosieParker · 07/02/2011 18:41

There's lots more to this I think, but YABU.

twopeople · 07/02/2011 18:52

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stoppinchingthedummy · 07/02/2011 19:01

I have said more than once YES I WAS BEING UNREASONABLE...thanks for continuing - nothing to be jelous of its simply she annoys me continuously moaning about one thing or another thats all ..a bit chippy?! is this mn slang?! ive no idea what it means ...Im not a horrible person despite what some of you horrible people feel the need to say thank the lord ive been on here long enough to read some of the horrible things you say to other people and will just close the laptop and ignore your comments. Thanks again Hmm

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stoppinchingthedummy · 07/02/2011 19:03

Oh and madamdeathstare if you read the thread you will see my job doesnt in any way involve me sitting at a desk so that would be impossible!

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LIZS · 07/02/2011 19:47

chips on shoulder - as if you have other reasons to dislike your aunt.

northerngirl41 · 07/02/2011 20:12

YABU - it's nothing to do with you what she chooses to do with her time.

However, if the copycat actions are annoying you, just don't tell her anything!!!!

(Either that or have a field day making stuff up and seeing if she'll be daft enough to copy you!!)

Mumcentreplus · 07/02/2011 20:19

another YABU...tis her business

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