Help me - what have I done

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IABU to be really angry and upset!

Told my MIL some "gossip" about a mutual friend. She then took it upon herself to impart said information to friend's mother, using my name as the source!! This has now got back to said friend, and not unreasonably she is very very very unhappy with me. I need to accept this, and deal with the fallout, I am upset that I have caused her upset and distress.

Now - I did not state that the information was confidential, but I also did not expect the information to be shared.

I take 50% responsibility, I should not have been gossiping. I totally accept that.

When I broached the subject with MIL, she stated that I had not said that it was in confidence, and she had no problem with passing it on. She then handed me my character on a plate stating that everyone knew that I was a gossip and that I needed to take full responsibility for it getting back to my friend.

However I feel she should not have shared the information especially with friends mum, and if she had to share she should have left my name out of it.

This is likely to have huge ramifications (esp at work). But I feel so upset by the way MIL reacted to the subject, and how it turned into my character being assasinatted.

I feel angry and hurt, but I also know that you lot will tell me the truth.

Thanks

OP has admitted from the off that she's fucked up. Cue loads of posters telling her she's fucked up. We all gossip. We all gossip unwisely sometimes. We all fuck up.

Yes. We do. And when we do, we accept full responsibility for it and try to dig ourselves out of it.

Like she's now doing.

And if we can't dig ourselves out of it, we have to take it on the chin.

This reminds me of that saying 'give them enough rope and they'll hang themselves'. You gave your MiL the rope, tied the noose and built the scaffold. But I guess you know that now.

Watch out for the urge to gossip and don't trust your MiL ever again.