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Original poster

I might be being unreasonable

91 replies

Catnao · 03/02/2011 18:15

Kid has been to our house for tea. Declined to eat said tea because he didn't like it. Told his mum on pick up he had not had tea becausE wouldn't eat the tea. She said "Well did you not make him something else?". No. I didn't because there was nothing wrong with the meal and he has eaten the same thing here before (SPAGHETTI BOLOGNESE). AIBU?

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cakeywakey · 03/02/2011 18:16

YANBU. You are not a restaurant. I bet he won't do that again at your house Wink

sloggies · 03/02/2011 18:16

Your house, your rules. She might pander to him. You don't have to!

Underachieving · 03/02/2011 18:18

No you are not being in the least bit unreasonable. In fact I think in your shoes I would have been really quite annoyed with her.

atmywitssend · 03/02/2011 18:19

You are not at all unreasonable! How rude of the mother.

onceamai · 03/02/2011 18:20

YANBU - if she wants him ot have something, she can make him something.

gobbledegoop · 03/02/2011 18:20

YANBU
Well done you! I would have done the same.

KangarooCaught · 03/02/2011 18:20

cheeky mare/cheeky kid

did they say thank you, btw?

saffy85 · 03/02/2011 18:20

YANBU I'd have been really annoyed. Wouldn't make my own child another dinner in the same situation so wouldn't bother for someone else's fussy little so and so.

Vallhala · 03/02/2011 18:20

Shock Cheeky bitch! YANBU.

That would be one less child welcome in my house... and one less adult too.

Original poster
Catnao · 03/02/2011 18:21

Oh, I'm glad I'm not - I expect my son to eat what he's given, or if he really hates it to be polite and try a bit, and say "thank you", not "I don't like it" -I can always give him something else at home.

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 03/02/2011 18:21

"No. I'm not a cafe."

or is that needlessly confrontational Grin

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 03/02/2011 18:22

YANBU

coldtits · 03/02/2011 18:22

YANBU

I would present this is very kind, slightly patronising terms to his mother ... ie "Oh no, it would have been awful for my children to see such dreadful parenting, don't you think?"

L0ST · 03/02/2011 18:22

If hes such a fussy eater she should have warned you in advance and you could have cooked something acceptable. She didn't, so yanbu.....

Seona1973 · 03/02/2011 18:24

I would maybe have give him a slice of bread and butter but that's all (I have to do that for ds when we have pasta as he doesnt like pasta and never has - he still gets some pasta on his plate and has to eat some of it too)

Original poster
Catnao · 03/02/2011 18:26

I did give him some bread and butter Seona - but not a different meal.

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IvaNighSpare · 03/02/2011 18:33

YANDBU
My own DCs don't get offered an alternative so why should our guests.
Had a similar situation when some little shit child not only refused to eat but also demanded to be taken home. Despite my efforts to negotiate, he plonked himself on the stairs and refused to budge.
I called his mother and sent him packing with a boxed-up portion of the refused dinner.

And a promise to myself never to invite hom back again.

BuzzLightBeer · 03/02/2011 18:35

I would have just done this Hmm

hairyfairylights · 03/02/2011 18:40

Yanbu.

But am a little bit :0 at people who don't offer an alternative to their kids if the kids genuinely don't like it.

Kids are allowed not to like stuff just like adults are.

Original poster
Catnao · 03/02/2011 18:44

But hairy fairy lights - I would not say "No, I won't eat that because i don't like it" at a dinner party. I didn't cook something horrid - and he has eaten the same meal here before - I said "But X, you ate this last time you were round" and he said "I've gone off it".

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FabbyChic · 03/02/2011 18:46

Ive always asked my sons friends before I even cook if they will eat it, I would never presume to make a child food without checking with them first that they would eat it.

Hate wasting food.

proton · 03/02/2011 18:46

OP - i think the mothers response says it all - he probably gets what he wants at home so is used to being waited on. it's not a bloody restaurant, i'd not allow dd to try it on and she does try - if she doesn't like what i have cooked she'll not get anything else so she eats it (eventually). there is a big difference between him not liking it to just not wanting to eat it, his mother should have been more specific with you if her ds had special food requirements. i hope you told her to get bent :)

Original poster
Catnao · 03/02/2011 18:48

Would you have made something else fabby chic? In my house the alternative would have been difficult to make. Unless he fancied frozen peas with pineapple chunks and mince! Wink

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ChippingInSmellyCheeseFreak · 03/02/2011 18:50

What he means is, I don't fancy that tonight - what else will you make me??

Nothing.

Little bugger Grin

The mother was really rude though!! If I was his Mum I would have apologised for him being a little shit fussy tonight.

I think 'No I bloody well didn't' would have slipped out before I could muzzle myself!!

proton · 03/02/2011 18:51

i love frozen peas with pineapple chunks and mince infact that's what we are having tonight

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