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Original poster

to REALLY hope this man's partner joins Mumnset

413 replies

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 12:40

Why I hate Mumsnet

First, I would like to congratulate the blogger on the forthcoming happy event. I wish him and his partner all the best for the birth of their first child.

If his partner decides to join MN, she will learn:

The Vernacular
that we use abbreviations as a time-saving tool, so that we have more time for discussing banalities. These are not only common to Mumsnet (MN) but to almost all fora.

"My DH is working away tuesday til friday. DH rang PIL and asked them if they could come and mind DCs (x3)". Another example: "AIBU to be annoyed that PIL agreed to mind my DC and then went back on it??"

  • the first poster states that her husband (DarlingHusband = DH) is working away and that he asked Parents-In-Laws (PILS) if they could come and mind the three children (DarlingChildren = DC). She then asks if she is being unreasonable (AIBU = Am I being unreasonable) to be annoyed that my parents in laws agreed to mind my children then went back on it?

hth (Hope this Helps)

The Banality
If she looks a little further, she will certainly find posts about dishwashers, and pearl barley, but also intellectual discussions about feminism, foreign affairs, literature (and we are NOT talking chick lit here). Even the most highbrow of poster wants to slum it on AIBU sometimes though.

I would hope that blogger's partner never has problems with their children - since his response to a woman enquiring about her child's (DC) incontinence problems is to suggest that she spends less time on MN.

The Stupid Suggestions For Campaigns
she might wonder about the anti-JL MN campaign since most posters have never heard of it. Just because one poster has an idea, it does not mean that the whole board takes up the cry. There are always discussions about the merits of any campaigns, particularly the official ones.

Lack of Reply
If the blogger's DP (that is DarlingPartner, by the way) does post on MN she will hopefully be relieved that MN does not allow their posters to be spammed by companies. There have been a few instances where posters have complained about a product, and the company has posted a message apologising and requesting that the poster contact them. I have never seen these offers being deleted or discouraged by MNHQ (that is Mumsnet Headquarters)

The blogger's DP of course would never have to do this, as she has her DH available to ensure that she does not misunderstand the instructions of the product.

Lack of Moderation
The blogger's DP will hopefully enjoy the lack of moderation - or rather the advantages offered by self-moderation. There may be times when a poster gives out of date advice, but this is normally noticed by the other posters. And if not, anyone who relies on the advice of strangers on an internet forum in order to make decisions such as those posed by the nuchal fold test, they should not be in charge of a puppy, much less a child. Most posters will link to websites such as NHS24, or other sites that are checked for accuracy rather than spouting inaccurate advice.

I am very glad that he is not calling for the site to be closed down. His DP may well be in need of it in the not so distant future, when she starts a thread entitled,

"AIBU to think my DP is an idiot?"

OP posts:
Original poster
MmeLindt · 04/02/2011 08:12

thumbwhich
I think it depends how you link to a thread. If you flip a thread it says something about reverse (I think).

Val
:o

OP posts:
bigbadbarry · 04/02/2011 09:42

This thread is absolutely the best of MN. Starts with a normal chat, 12 hours later is all haiku and limericks :)

JulesJules · 04/02/2011 10:02

Yep. V enjoyable thread, well done Mme Grin

(WHERE is that new glass of wine emoticon, when you want to say 'Cheers'?)

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 10:07

There once was a young man named Gr'ame
Obsessed with relieving brand pain
He stormed on Mumsnet
In all of a fret
I don't think he'll do it again

Better late than never..

StuffingGoldBrass · 04/02/2011 10:09

But MN isn't completely unmoderated. It's a mix of light moderation and self-moderation. For instance, if someone were to suggest giving your colicky newborn a drop of gin in its bottle to shut it up, 500 posters would scream in contradiction but MNHQ wouldn't remove the post (and why should they? Laughing at idiots is fun! And if anyone's dim enough to take really bad advice despite the fact that loads of people have explained how bad the advice is, then that's just Darwinism in action).
ANd if someone posts something that's likely to be actionable (such as [sleb] is a nonce or a drug dealer or is in debt to the tune of billions) then the post will get reported and removed.
I won't use moderated forums on principal because moderaters are pretty much always pissy, officious little tyrants who protect their own sycophants and shut down debate according to their own bigotry.

piprabbit · 04/02/2011 10:24

Ladies, please, calm down and act with a little decorum (as befits your fragrant, if misinformed, state).

Graeme says in his blog that "I am not saying that the site should be closed down". So that's all right then - we should be grateful that MN is allowed to continue existing.

DaftApeth · 04/02/2011 11:27

Grin it was worth the wait Hully Grin

I wonder if Graeme is suffering from pain the the brand this morning?

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 04/02/2011 11:36

So someone who works with major children's brands decides to publicly "hate on" the most influential online forum for parents on the day that forum announces it is going to licence its logo for brand endorsement.

Isn't that a bit short-sighted? Wouldn't that damage a potential commercial relationship?

If I was still in my old job (head of marketing) I would not use this guy's agency.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 04/02/2011 11:37

license

Bad Tondy.

Also brand pain reminds me of that twat Alex from the last series of Apprentice. That's a phrase he would use.

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 11:41

I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for the old twat now.

JamieLeeCurtis · 04/02/2011 12:11

whenever I see brand pain I think of "bran pain", which implies something else entirely.

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 12:13

Where is little Gray Gray today?

I hope none of his clients have seen how silly and amusing we find him. That would be embarrassing, wouldn't it?

caramelwaffle · 04/02/2011 12:14

And there was me confusing Brita and Britax

JamieLeeCurtis · 04/02/2011 12:14

I imagine he's drowning his sorrows Wine

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 12:15

I don't know what any of those brands are. It causes me pain. Does that mean little Gray Gray is succeeding or failing?

DaftApeth · 04/02/2011 12:21

I think it must mean that you need his help Hully.

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 12:24

I do! I do!

Help me, Gray Gray!

Valpollicella · 04/02/2011 12:29

Do you need some Graemecol Hully? You sound like you're in pain, what with the whimpering

BeenBeta · 04/02/2011 12:39

Jamie - how did you do that wine glass?

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 12:39

Wine Wine Wine Have one on me, BB

JamieLeeCurtis · 04/02/2011 12:39

Beta - It has replaced the pom-bear emoticon - see right.

Valpollicella · 04/02/2011 12:41

Bear is still there

BeenBeta · 04/02/2011 12:42

Oooooh!

I must remember to scroll down more often. Grin

JamieLeeCurtis · 04/02/2011 12:44

Bear oh yeah. Not listed on my screen, though Hmm

Miggsie · 04/02/2011 12:46

Mumsnet is in a botheration
As a blogger has got above his station.
You can't change a site
Just for one little shite
For it totally satisfies the rest of the nation.