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Original poster

What is with the DH/DS/DD/etc? AIBU

76 replies

youareallbonkers · 03/02/2011 10:09

Why do you all have to call your family dear/darling? It makes you all sound bonkers and if you have to keep telling everyone they are dear or darling it implies there is some doubt?

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needtohelp · 03/02/2011 10:13

Yabu

DD is easier/quicker to type.

cantspel · 03/02/2011 10:14

i dont use DH/DS/DD/etc as i cant stand them. Why can poeple not just type son, daughter ect. I will use oh for husband but that is it.

It also cracks me upo when people use DH/DS/DD/etc
and then proceed to post a long thread about how bloody awful they are. So clearly not much of a dear or darling there then.

softglowsandmaybes · 03/02/2011 10:14

I actually described my DD to DP as DD once, he looked at me like i was, well, bonkers!

Original poster
youareallbonkers · 03/02/2011 10:15

DH is quicker to type than H?

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GypsyMoth · 03/02/2011 10:15

It's not just here on mumsnet, it common on other forums too, so I'd say get out and about in cyberspace a bit more!!!

TrillianAstra · 03/02/2011 10:15

You need to stop rading 'dear daughter' and just see that DD = 'daughter' or 'my daughter'

DD2 much easier than 'my second-oldest daughter'.

needtohelp · 03/02/2011 10:16

We should change it to MH MD = my husband, my daughter.

Nothing darling about MD atm.

Yabu in a way.

Original poster
youareallbonkers · 03/02/2011 10:17

i'm on several other forums and have never encountered it. D2 is still easier than DD2.

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BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:19

'D'H (or S, or D) = no they'r enot really

D can also mean "damned"

Most people love their children even when they're being little sods.

You wouldn't saying by %$£(%£ £$%$£(%£$* child did xyz in RL.

"H" - is used for when they're being a prat/arsehole/wanker/git (or in the process of s plit but they're not quite "exH"

Can't use MH - as that's already commonly used (all over the internet - please remember that DD, DS, DH, DW are not a MN phenomena) for Mental Health.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:20

I've been on MN for 6yrs now - but online since the mid 90's - have encountered DD, DH, DS all over the place.

GypsyMoth · 03/02/2011 10:20

So we should change it then to fit in with the other forums you use???? Is that what you're saying??

How on earth have we come this far without you around to point out all these changes we need to make!?

scottishmummy · 03/02/2011 10:22

thats a winning moniker,ya ole charmer

Niecie · 03/02/2011 10:26

I don't think about dear/darling/damned when I write DS or DH. If I write 'DS is lovely/ being a PITA' or whatever, what I am thinking in my head is 'my son is lovely'. I don't call him dear son in RL.

It's just an abbreviation which is quicker to type than son/daughter/husband. Single letters by themselves just look a bit daft.

So YABU.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:29

oh yes - we can't use "MS" for my son either - far too easily confused with multiple sclerosis

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:31

and why would I want to type out "my oldest son, who is 10, hit my youngest son - who is 3, and my middle son - who is 7 - burst into tear"

When I could write DS1 (10) thumped DS2 (3) and then bizarrely DS2 (7) burst into tears.

Niecie · 03/02/2011 10:32

MS is also main stream too.

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youareallbonkers · 03/02/2011 10:32

no I'm not saying you should change it to fit with other forums. You should stop it because it makes you all sound crazy.

Scottishmummy - thanks, I thought so too :o

Do you really need to tell people that your children are dear to you? How odd

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ivykaty44 · 03/02/2011 10:33

would you rather FD, FS, FH, flipping husband may well be the way to go on the relationship board though Grin

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:34

but I don't read it as "dear" - I just read is as "son, daughter, husband, wife" - if I see the "H" or 'd'H then I know they're being a twat.

Oh yes Niecie - forgot about MS being main stream too.

It's ALL over the WWW - if you don't like it - go somewhere else where you won't find acronymns (hahah good luck with that Grin).

exexpat · 03/02/2011 10:34

I remember DS/DD/DH etc from American parenting forums when I was expecting DS back in 1998, so it's obviously been around for ages.

They use it on (shh) netmums too....

Original poster
youareallbonkers · 03/02/2011 10:35

Does anyone really need to know what ages the children are or which number child you are referring to? once again (perhaps it is not the use of dear that makes you all seem slow) s1 thumped s3 etc see all the typing I am saving you ;)

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marmynags · 03/02/2011 10:37

agrees with the OP

i cant be arsed with it to be honest, so carry on with the proper words :)

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 03/02/2011 10:38

sometimes - yes the age is relevant - I would be asking why a 3 year old didn't cry - but a 7yr old who wasn't hit did - and WTF was 10yr old doing thumping a 3yr old anyhow Grin

S1 and S3????? - that's Senior 1 and Senior 3 in Scottish Schools Confused

scottishmummy · 03/02/2011 10:38

im loving your selfless kindness to the afflicted and slow on mn.

you just give and give

mommmmyof2 · 03/02/2011 10:39

What a pointless thing really to argue about, imo it just shortnes everything and instantly everyone knows who you are talking about.

Not like I bog myself down with oh I must use it because they are so dear to me, (even if they are) I use it out of habit, can't see why it would really bother anyone to the point of AIBU!