InPraiseofBacchus You are absolutely right, Gay adults are capable of behaving politely and respecting other people. My only quibble would be with those who seem to delight in causing trouble to people who choose to live their own lives in a different way.
I have already said that there are gay only hotels/guest houses where heterosexual couples are made, at best, to feel totally unwelcome and, at worst, are refused access. Personally I wouldn't want to stay in such a place but not because I don't want to be around gay people. As a polite and respectful adult I would not attempt to stay in any place where I didn't feel welcome and, if I attempted to book into one inadvertently, without being forewarned, I would beat a polite and hasty retreat and think no more of it.
I am irritated by the campaign, led by Stonewall, to target B&Bs who wish to adhere to a strict Christian married couples and family policy because of their religious beliefs with numerous abusive phone-calls and applications for double rooms for gay couples with the express goal of "outing" and prosecuting them. That is neither polite, nor respectful; but it is a minority of militants and I find militants, of any persuasion, abhorrent.
I think if people want to let out a room or two in their own homes for B&B they shouldn't, necessarily have to adhere to the same rules as large hotels as it is their home, often housing their children as well. They should have the right to be "picky" about who they let rooms to, for whatever reason and without giving a reason if necessary, in a way large commercial hotels shouldn't simply because they are "sharing* the accommodation with their own families.
I haven't seen one article where a gay couple were refused accommodation because of their sexuality, which, as you say, is not a lifestyle choice, and would be blatant discrimination. I have only seen incidents of gay couples being refused a double room in which to sleep together for a night. They are perfectly capable of making the choice to accept separate rooms for a night or find alternative accommodation.
To turn for a moment to children's "rights"; my DS is 17 and his gf is 16, it is perfectly lawful for them to have sex, would you have me then, taken to court for refusing to allow them to share a room in our home? Surely by doing so I am infringing their human rights?
I am irritated by the fact that, because I hold this view, some would seek to label me homophobic.