or is 13 degrees a warm enough home.

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DH does n't feel the cold. So we have the Spring duvet (8 tog) on the bed and never the whole thing.

The kitchen thermostat is 13 degrees and the woodburner get the sitting room up to 16 sometimes.

The children run around and don't seem to feel it. The cold makes me sluggish, irratable and depressed. If I'm running around tidying up it's ok but once I sit down at the lap top or to read a book I feel like my brain is grinding to a halt during the winter time.

DH is a DIY kind of person but tends to ignore all advice to fit extra radiators or get a proper plumber in to get the ones we've got work properly.

AIBU to want a warmer house.

13 degrees is bloody cold. You need to be in bed under duvet and blankets with your head down low to feel ok in that temperature.

yanbu. Too cold. There are health problems trying to over-winter in cold houses.

Our thermostat is set to 15, and we only turn it on in daytime when we're at home.
I am wearing:
2-3 prs sox
leggings under jeans
3 thin-medium layers on torso plus a Helly Hanson turtle neck wool jumper
fingerless gloves

Fine, but I couldn't go any colder.

I sleep under about 20 tog duvet (if by myself, I massively overheat if with DH, but that's another problem).

I am quite fit btw, stay trim and eat like a horse, not a lazy sloth at all.

My friends keep their houses around 12 degrees. I love them dearly but they are completely insane re lack of heating, I have to wear my coat and hat in their homes, too.

OMG I'd faint in all that Peanut!

It is the bottom end of what is acceptable for a workplace, and only then for physical activity. it says here "The temperature in workrooms should normally be at least 16 degrees Celsius unless much of the work involves severe physical effort in which case the temperature should be at least 13 degrees Celsius. These temperatures may not, however, ensure reasonable comfort, depending on other factors such as air movement and relative humidity."

I'd tell him you are calling a plumber on Monday morning, if he wants you to use a particular one, then he has to sort it by Monday lunchtime. But it's not acceptable to work in those conditions, so it's not acceptable to live in them. The other compromise would be if he wants to live in the cold, you can go stay in a hotel until the weather improves.

I think I need to drop mine down a few degrees. It's only on a few hours a day.

Downstairs is usually 14 C but I treat myself to 16 C a few hours a day. Bedroom's usually 12 or 13 C. It's not so bad, cos I'm more mobile and have better circulation these days - and thermal undies.

But I did a couple of winters at 12-13 C all day, with poor mobility and circulation. Sodding miserable. Makes your heart sink when the clocks go back.

The supermarkets are filled with cheep duvets at the mo, get down there and buy one for yourself, even a single one to snuggle under on your side of the bed

Get some quotes for fitting extra radiators
then get them fitted
Or get some oil filled radiators or panel heaters
If DH is too hot he can strip off

That seems win- win to me

I could have it that cold!! Ours is on from 5am-11pm everyday usually around 18 whilst I'm tidying in the morning and then up to 20 in the afternoon when I sit down. I never have it on overnight as I can't sleep if it's too warm.

anything below 22 is freezing!
I would have packed up by now and gone to my mums!

I'd recommend getting yourself a 15 tog single duvet for yourself and letting DH sleep under the spring one - DH and I have slept much better since we've acknowledged our different thermostats and got a duvet each.
What's wrong with the radiators? At the risk of stating the bleeding (terrible pun, sorry) obvious, are they cold at the top? in which case you can bleed them yourself.

But YANBU, 13 / 16 degrees is Too Cold, and bad for your health, and also miserable.

It is only the british upper and middle classes that insist on freezing themselves in this manner. I don't know anyone on my whole estate (band a housing) who would dream of having such a miserably cold house.

YANBU

Ours is just over 15 at the moment and I've just lit an open fire. Before we got our chimney swept and got heavy lined curtains with added thermal liners, it was regularly 12 degrees in our lounge. Heavy curtains and draft excluders definitely help.

You lot are fast Thankyou

Thought I was going mad here. There are blankets for when you sit down on every sofa.

A hot bath in the evening warms my core temp up. Thermal socks from September onwards - best xmas present ever was a huge pile of warm socks. Chilblains every year!

It's now become a real issue for me because when ever we stay elsewhere I end up drinking so much water due to the unaccustomed heat that I've actually made myself sick (3 litres carbonated spring during one evening ohh that was messy).

Unfortunately I don't seem to lose weight, the body just puts on a protective layer of blubber.

Glad am not being unreasonable I shall tackle this

I cant believe how cold your homes are! my heating bounces around 25 plus, i wear the same clothes year round in the house, its as warm in winter as in summer!

Aw I think that's sooo mean!!
Ours in 16 until I break at about 4pm and whack it up to 24!
I'm really naturally cold and dh is naturally hot so I feel your pain!

The only thing you have been unreasonable about it putting up with it for so long!!

Oh and get that big duvet on!
I had three -and six pillows, dh calls me princess and the pea

We have ours at about 15. It's warmer than that upstairs though, and it only comes on twice a day. In March we turn it off altogether. We don't have an other sort of fire.

If it gets cold I turn the thermostat up a bit and certainly wouldn't stand for telling me to turn it down. It's not on that you are so cold you get chilblains FFS!

H has a habit of turning it down to about 12 but fuck that, I just turn it back up again. He gives up.

I couldn't live like that. Our thermostat is normally at 20ish, sometimes a little higher if we are sat about doing not a lot like today.

OP - what is the issue with your husband? Does he approve of the temp you have the house at currently or is it just that he hasn't done anything to make it warmer?
Not sure why you haven't phoned a plumber yourself but there we are!

abouteve - your house would be warmer and it would be cheaper for you to have the heating on for much more of the time on a lower temp. Ours is on 6.30am-11.45pm, and we turn the thermostat down to 17 before we go to bed so that is the temp it comes on at in the mornings.
Not blazing hot, because I can't stand that stuffy feeling in bed, but enough to take the chill off the rooms (especially the bathroom!) before we all get up.

Ours thermostat is set to 15, BUT it is in a very cold area of the house so the rest is definitely warmer. Oddly when the temp falls outside we have to turn the thermostat down , otherwise the house turns into an oven!

Pre double glazing DD1's room used to go down to about 14 at night and it was cold . Now with the double glazing it is 19 or 20 which is probably a bit warm.

Pfft - surely at 12 it wouldn't come on at all most days? I don't think our house gets that cold, even if we've been away for a few days.

When we go away we set it to 13 degrees, to stop the pipes freezing. It definitely does get colder then that if there was no heating at all.

Our house in the UK was set to 12. Often lower.

However, if the cold effects your well being then YANBU. People run at different temperatures and you can't accept that people won't be cold just because you are (provided your wearing same number of layers etc.)

I quite like a cold house, but 13 is a step too far.
Our heating is normally max 18, prob more like 16 in the day in the winter. But 13 is uncomfortably cold surely!