Dh swearing at me infront of dc

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Long story short, I am a sahm of 3 and usually knackered by the time dh comes home. When he got home tonight I asked him to make me a coffee and he called me a "cheeky B". I know he abbreviated it but my eldest ds is 10 and knew what he meant. Am I over reacting to be cross with him?

Yes yabu. He didn't swear.

was he being 'funny'

depends how you asked.

if he set foot through the door and before he'd got his coat off, you said "make me a coffee love", I think I'd call you a cheeky B! I wouldn't be too impressed, actually.

No, but ds knew he meant I was a bitch

How did your 10 year old 'know'? You can't read his mind

YABU.

Coffee is bloody horrible

He'd been in for about 10 minutes. I was juggling the baby on my hip, was cooking dinner and trying to help ds with his home work.

I could tell from his expression

Your eldest is 10?

Ask him to swear for you. He might teach you a new word or two.

In my opinion he was out of order but your over reacting

It's not the word that's the problem. It's ds thinking that calling a woman a 'bitch' is acceptable

oh well, in that case it wouldn't have been unreasonable for him to stick the bloody kettle on!

Plonk the baby on his lap, tell him the dinner's in the dog, make yourself the coffee and sit down and MN for an hour!

I take it then that your DS doesn't go to school or mix with other children of his age?

Sorry - X posted.

No more unacceptable than a man (or a woman for that matter) being called a cheeky bastard/arse/twat/whatever.

I think you are being unreasonable to be honest, because I read your post as cheeky bugger.

To be clear I don't have a problem with my son hearing swear words! I object to him being led to believe that a man calling his wife a cheeky bitch for is acceptable.

But he didn't call you a bitch

No but that is what he meant! How do we bring up our dc to treat each other with respect if they don't see their parents treating each other respectfully

And I was struggling with baby and dinner etc and dh made it look like it's wrong to ask for me to ask for a drink. And after all I was making his dinner!

I make you right OP. I think it's the disrespect...not the word itself.

I thought he would have meant bugger as well.

YABU

Did he make the coffee?

You should have made it worth your while and asked for a glass of wine. Coffee? At this hour??

Exactly mutz!

And no he didn't make me a coffee, he went and had a shower while I had to carry on seeing to 3 kids on my own while making his dinner!

I think when my DDs were that age they would have thought he meant cheeky bastard.
If he'd been really angry and actually said bitch you might have a point, but he didn't.