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AIBU?

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Original poster

Dh swearing at me infront of dc

63 replies

Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:07

Long story short, I am a sahm of 3 and usually knackered by the time dh comes home. When he got home tonight I asked him to make me a coffee and he called me a "cheeky B". I know he abbreviated it but my eldest ds is 10 and knew what he meant. Am I over reacting to be cross with him?

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Clytaemnestra · 27/01/2011 19:30

Yep, you're being weird.
He DIDN'T call you a bitch. He called you a B.

If he calls you a mad bitch when you tell him all about this though, I'll be totally on his side.

Original poster
Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:30

Yeah thanks for that reality, must up the anti-d's

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saffy85 · 27/01/2011 19:30

YA Overreacting. Seriously. Also did you say please? Coz you know you should have, it would set a good example to your DC, asking your OH nicely to do something....

And lets face it, he didnt actually call you a bitch the B could have stood for anything really. My DP calls DD a cheeky blighter, my mum calls her a cheeky little bugger.

GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 19:32

LOL at Clyt In this house if my DH called me a cheeky B, it would mean cheeky bugger which is perfectly reasonable, IMO. Are you sure he meant bitch?

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:34

So I'm working my arse off, still sore from cs, trying to do everything while he swans off to take a shower and I'm being unreasonable to be p'd off that he won't even make me a drink?

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Annpan88 · 27/01/2011 19:34

I think your just knackered! while the disrespect is understandably annoying, a long day of childrearing/cooking/cleaning added to your annoyance! It would also depend on the tone I suppose. :)

unfitmother · 27/01/2011 19:34

YABU
Have a glass of wine now.

GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 19:36

Nagoo I don't think we're going to get an answer to our question. Would you like a Biscuit Grin

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:37

What question?

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GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 19:38

The question is, are you sure he meant 'bitch', because I read your post as being 'bugger' and in this house if my DH called me a cheeky B, it would mean cheeky bugger - which I think is playful and reasonable.

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:39

He definitely meant bitch

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winnybella · 27/01/2011 19:41

How do you know?

saffy85 · 27/01/2011 19:41

Ahh now if you'd asked "AIBU to be pissed off at DH swanning in from work, having a shower, ignoring the DC and absolutely refusing to help in any way whatsoever with anything at all?" I'd have absolutely said YANBU. My DP seems to have selective sight/hearing for the first half hour aleast when he comes in from work. Drives me potty.

However you asked if you were being unreasonable about a total non-issue. And YABU.

bubblewrapped · 27/01/2011 19:42

I think he was right too... Grin

MarioandLuigi · 27/01/2011 19:43

It totally depends on tone I think.

GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 19:44

Honestly Syxx your DH didn't actually call you a bitch. If he'd said "you cheeky bitch", I could understand you being upset, for all the reasons you give; but the fact that he said "you cheeky B" shows that he is trying not to overstep the mark in front of your DC.

It sounds to me as if you've had a bad day, you're definitely tired, and who can blame you, but don't get upset with your DH over this. Have a glass of wine and explain that you'd rather he didn't say that again, and drop it..... 'cos it's just not worth having a shitty evening over.Wink

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:48

Can't have wine Sad only got home from hospital yesterday and still on strong painkillers

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GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 19:51

Oh, sorry! I'm sending you a cyber hug. Hopefully DH will take over when he gets out of the shower. . . . . maybe he meant, "you cheeky Beauty" Grin

bubblewrapped · 27/01/2011 19:53

Ahhh we seem to have an AIBU by stealth here...

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:54

By stealth?? how?

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GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 20:02

I'm sure your DH has absolutely no idea what it's like to be home with 3 kids all day, every day, otherwise he definitely would have made you a coffee, happily.

Suggest you leave him to it, on his next day off and I'll bet you won't have this problem again.

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 20:16

I'd try that but there is no way he'd have them on his own, he was pissed of enough at being on his own with the eldest 2 while I was in hospital. Think I've used up all my favours

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winnybella · 27/01/2011 20:17

He sounds like a twat, tbh.

TrappedinSuburbia · 27/01/2011 20:19

I would have stopped making his dinner and made myself a coffee!

TrappedinSuburbia · 27/01/2011 20:20

And told him to 'F' off.