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Dh swearing at me infront of dc

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 19:07

Long story short, I am a sahm of 3 and usually knackered by the time dh comes home. When he got home tonight I asked him to make me a coffee and he called me a "cheeky B". I know he abbreviated it but my eldest ds is 10 and knew what he meant. Am I over reacting to be cross with him?

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GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 20:26

Agreed - he does sound like a twat, now you've said that - used up all your favours, indeed!

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Syxx · 27/01/2011 20:30

Nah its probably just me tbh, I know I over react to stuff, You all said that and he tells me that all the time too, you can't all be wrong

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winnybella · 27/01/2011 20:57

We said that you might have possibly overreacted to him calling you a cheeky b.

If you've been in a hospital, are still on painkillers and are obviously exhausted by the end of the day with 3 kids to take care of and you're making him dinner- well, only aa arsehole would refuse to make you a cup of coffee.

If DP gets home before dcs are in bed, he gladly gives dd a bath etc. He would definitely make me a coffee if asked.

Tbh, I feel like there's more going on in your marriage than you're letting on.

swanriver · 27/01/2011 21:08

YANBU at all. Hate it when dh swears.
I think sometimes they don't realise how aggressive it is - if that's any excuse for him..I'm sure he didn't mean to upset you, but just was in a bad mood himself - and had a foul day himself....
still hate it though

porcamiseria · 27/01/2011 21:36

agree bitch is hardly a swear word, if he called you a cheeky fucking cunt well that would be annoying .....

winnybella · 27/01/2011 21:38

Bitch is hardly a swear word? Really?

GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 21:40

Winnybella I agree. This whole scenario has only come out in bits. At first I thought OP was being unreasonable, but now that I know the whole story, I think her DH is a complete arsehole.

I've spent all evening trying to convince her that he's ok, and now that I realise what a complete twat he is, she is saying it's not him, but her!!!

winnybella · 27/01/2011 21:58

Yes, Gorgeousx, same here, I thought she was overreacting, but now am not sure. Not sure at all.

Are you ok, OP?

princessglitter · 27/01/2011 22:01

My dh told me to f* off today - count yourself lucky.

porcamiseria · 27/01/2011 22:03

actually its a swear word lite

if my boss called me one I'd be not amused

anyway sense OP upset so will tottle off.....

oranges · 27/01/2011 22:05

christ on a bike, is it really acceptable to allow your other half to call you bitch or bugger? really?

GORGEOUSX · 27/01/2011 22:07

Syxx I'm sorry if that sounded harsh - don't want to upset you any more than you already are! It's bloody hard being at home with little ones and I just think, it's not much to ask.... a cup of coffee..... hope you're ok.

porcamiseria · 27/01/2011 22:09

oranges, chill! light hearted banter can use the word bitch and bugger, get over yourself!

but I sense maybe OP has ishoos and I dont want to make her feel worse

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