To Want My OH To Grow Up?

[UKSky]

We're lucky and I should count my blessings. My OH works from home and we have a lovely, comfortable lifestyle, and we have a much wanted, and long waited for 6 month old DD, but......

Spoilt all his life by his mother my OH is a lazy bugger.

DD is currently teething and has a nasty cold and she's recently started weaning. So, good sleep has gone out of the window. She's waking every 2 hours from 11pm and needs comforting and/or feeding. She won't take a bottle so I have to get up to feed her, but I would like, just once a week for OH to get up, change her and give her breakfast and stay up with her until she has her first nap, just so I can get about 4 hours uninterrupted sleep. But he just won't. He's done it twice since she was born and each time he's been back in our bedroom with her within the hour.

If he's playing with her and she starts to fuss he hands her over to me. He says he "can't deal" with when she screams and finds it "too upsetting". The other day he actually put his fingers in his ears and said "can't you take her up to her room"?

So, that's it, I've had enough and today I'm going on strike. DD has just gone down for a nap so I'm not cooking, cleaning or doing laundry. The house can stay a tip today and OH won't be getting his freshly made coffee in bed and he can bloody well stay there all day for all I care. When DD gets up we're going out shopping. We're going to have a big lunch out and when DD goes to bed tonight so am I and he can get his own dinner.

AIBU or is he out of order?

Sorry Mrsmoo I see you mentioned MP as well.

The assumption from some quarters that op doesn't earn or wasn't earning is rather bizarre though.

Have you tried lacing the coffee with amphetamines?

Or arsenic?

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Nope, not seeing it with the OPs OH!

Reacting badly to being asked to get out of bed, yes! :o

UKstrike, It's taken me all day to read the thread (SAHMing has been time consuming today!)

I think that the best way to get your point across is the going to bed when your daughter does. I am aware it's falling into the passive aggressive trap of behaving slightly like a dickhead, but when you've tried to talk and just get shouted over, then there's not much point in being grown up about it.

It will get you the sleep you desperately need, and if when he misses you, you can try to explain that you need him to 'man up' a bit WRT looking after his own child.

I can get my DH to look after ours on a Sunday morning, he works very hard (for less money than me, Marantha) so he gets the saturday to recover from work. (he often feels burnt out through lack of 'me time' so on Friday nights he stays up playing playstation. I don't begrudge this, but I certainly would if it was every night).

I feed her in bed, then pass her over. He gets DS's breakfast, and I've explained that i would usually (so i expect him to) get them dressed and do dishwasher, washing into tumble, cat litter etc) by the time i get up about 10ish.

Have you asked him why he needs to stay up until 3am online? His hours are making no sense to your family life. Do you have one?

UKSky, sorry