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to send this letter to DS (Yr8) History teacher

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notapushy1 · 25/01/2011 21:31

Parents Evening is coming up and one teacher has said he doesn't need to see me.
OK, I know DS is doing OK, but that's not the point. AIBU to send this letter?

Dear X

I have been looking forward to Parents Evening for some time, and am therefore
pleased with DS' keen efforts to secure an appointment time with all his teachers,
almost all of whom are different to those he had last year.
I was therefore very disappointed to learn that you did not feel the need to discuss DS
progress with me and chose not to allocate a time slot.

Of course I understand the huge pressures all teachers are under with targets and admin and realise they are overworked and underpaid.
DS enjoys your lessons very much and I am grateful for your efforts as he is clearly learning.
I can fully appreciate why you might wish to spend the limited time you have on Thursday night talking with the parents
of children who are having serious difficulties, whose studies may not be overseen by a doting graduate mum...

But given that XXXX is such an enormous office-like institution with precious few opportunities to talk to teachers
I am keenly anticipating the Parent's Evening as a chance to disabuse myself of the notion that it might be an impersonal
exam factory, concerned with more the punctuality and attire of future wage slaves than nurturing pupils and individualising
learning so that each pupil is stretched and intellectually challenged.

I welcome Parent's Evening as a two-way process and a valuable opportunity to:
-Put a name to a face,
-To have greater insight into the nature of lessons by meeting the lesson-giver face-to-face
-To ask questions eg how is he doing in relation to his peers, does he contribute to discussions, recommendations for homework websites etc
-To reinforce the notion that there is partnership between parent and teacher and that both sides take their roles seriously

I look forward to being able to talk to you

OP posts:
StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 27/01/2011 09:34

I'm a graduate mum, but I seriously doubt I have ever doted on my three. On the contrary, I am the vicious old bag who does utterly unacceptable things like insisting they tidy their rooms and making them empty the dishwasher and do their homework. It's a tragedy for the poor loves, I tell you!

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 27/01/2011 09:57

SDTG - you have children who suffer like that too? Shock I thought mine were the only ones to live Dickensian lives, whilst I lie on the chaise eating violet cremes and shouting for DH to beat them harder.

LDNmummy · 27/01/2011 10:05

If you think the school is that cold then why do you send your DC there? Be glad the teacher has no reason to see you.

Merrylegs · 27/01/2011 10:13

Ha ha good bit of backtracking OP!

(Imagines notapushy rugby tackling the postman outside DS's high school this am. "NOoooo! Give me back my DGM letter!")

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 27/01/2011 10:42

We should be ashamed, Maisie - perhaps your dc and mine should form a support group? Though that would imply giving them free time in which to associate - and that simply would not do, would it! [bgrin]

Ormirian · 27/01/2011 15:39

I showed this to DH last night. He teaches. it cheered him up a little after West Ham had been beaten by Brumingham - and it takes a lot to do that. Many thanks.

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 27/01/2011 16:06

Grin SDTG!

They've just arrived back from school, which is when the bleating about the unjustness of homework/setting the table for dinner/not being able to watch television for the next 6 hours solid from the comfort of the sofa usually starts....oh joy. I'm sure I was never like this as a child Hmm

janajos · 27/01/2011 17:20

Please, you are having a laugh, this cannot be serious?! I am a teacher and we would so take the piss in the staffroom if you sent this - what a total idiot, poor child to have such a neurotic mother!! I teach, for your information at a top grammar school!!!

52Girls · 27/01/2011 18:10

''Please, you are having a laugh, this cannot be serious?!''

I think the op has said it isn't serious.

jenga079 · 27/01/2011 20:53

"I think the op has said it isn't serious" but we don't believe her and are still hoping it turns up on our staffroom walls ;-)

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