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to send this letter to DS (Yr8) History teacher

135 replies

notapushy1 · 25/01/2011 21:31

Parents Evening is coming up and one teacher has said he doesn't need to see me.
OK, I know DS is doing OK, but that's not the point. AIBU to send this letter?

Dear X

I have been looking forward to Parents Evening for some time, and am therefore
pleased with DS' keen efforts to secure an appointment time with all his teachers,
almost all of whom are different to those he had last year.
I was therefore very disappointed to learn that you did not feel the need to discuss DS
progress with me and chose not to allocate a time slot.

Of course I understand the huge pressures all teachers are under with targets and admin and realise they are overworked and underpaid.
DS enjoys your lessons very much and I am grateful for your efforts as he is clearly learning.
I can fully appreciate why you might wish to spend the limited time you have on Thursday night talking with the parents
of children who are having serious difficulties, whose studies may not be overseen by a doting graduate mum...

But given that XXXX is such an enormous office-like institution with precious few opportunities to talk to teachers
I am keenly anticipating the Parent's Evening as a chance to disabuse myself of the notion that it might be an impersonal
exam factory, concerned with more the punctuality and attire of future wage slaves than nurturing pupils and individualising
learning so that each pupil is stretched and intellectually challenged.

I welcome Parent's Evening as a two-way process and a valuable opportunity to:
-Put a name to a face,
-To have greater insight into the nature of lessons by meeting the lesson-giver face-to-face
-To ask questions eg how is he doing in relation to his peers, does he contribute to discussions, recommendations for homework websites etc
-To reinforce the notion that there is partnership between parent and teacher and that both sides take their roles seriously

I look forward to being able to talk to you

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RumourOfAHurricane · 25/01/2011 21:51

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Ladyofthehousespeaking · 25/01/2011 21:51

I would just send a photo of my tits, with my phone nu
ber on the back

(lady, 20m in front crawl, 4rth in egg and spoon race 1990)

Shallishanti · 25/01/2011 21:52

ahh, yes, that's where I've been going wrong, clearly, not doting enough!

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 25/01/2011 21:53

No wonder, he didn't give you an appointment. With an agenda like that to get through, last year's victims teachers were probably there till midnight.

Blu · 25/01/2011 21:53

Just use shorthand:
"Oi, you lazy git, look up from your target-tick sheet and pay attention for 5 mins"

I think that is a fair precis of your epistle.

gordyslovesheep · 25/01/2011 21:55

pmsl - seriously send it - I double dog dare you - no come backs

what a very silly letter - you do sound like a bit of a dick - sorry!

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 25/01/2011 21:55

Does anyone dote on their kids? I mean, I quite like mine (it varies from day to day, obviously, depending on the lunar cycle etc) but I can't say I actively dote on them

pagwatch · 25/01/2011 21:55

Top thread.
Thanks op. V funny
Grin

Will look forward to see who owns up tomorrow.

Night .......

jenga079 · 25/01/2011 21:56

Just seen OP's name...

containher · 25/01/2011 21:56

Ha ha Love it, exactly the sort of diatribe I would write- and then be persuaded NOT to send. But would REALLY like to send. Do let us know whether you send it. Tee HEE{grin}

MadamDeathstare · 25/01/2011 21:57

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exexpat · 25/01/2011 22:05

Hold on everyone - I think I see where the OP's misconception comes from that her DS's teachers should be at her beck and call - she thinks it's a parent's evening for one parent only. Unfortunately, there are usually rather a lot of them jostling for attention, which is why it is actually a parents' evening and the teachers don't have time to talk to everyone.

(Wink apologies for the pedantry but she was really asking for it)

PatPending · 25/01/2011 22:06

Hahahahaha! ............ I have a parent's night coming up soonish.
Unfortunately, although your post is obviously a wind-up, I'll bet there is a "clone" of your ilk actually attending. [bwink]

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 25/01/2011 22:08

Did she forget the bit about being a taxpayer, and therefore his employer?

TheFallenMadonna · 25/01/2011 22:13

I had a parent say that to me once in a meeting maisie. I was Shock, as, to be fair, was her son...

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 25/01/2011 22:17

Did you tell her that she needs to up her tax contributions, because at the moment you're not really being paid enough to deal with muppets like her? Grin

Lizzywishes · 25/01/2011 22:17

Good grief! I would read it out in the staff room to make my colleagues laugh. Just send him a 2 line email saying you appreciate he's busy, but youd like an appointment. But assume yore joking?

Lizzywishes · 25/01/2011 22:17

Sorry, you're - typo!

GloriaSmut · 25/01/2011 22:19

It'll definitely entertain the staff room. Which is a kind and thoughtful gesture.

BaronessBomburst · 25/01/2011 22:19

PML Grin

Violethill · 25/01/2011 22:21

Yes, it'll definitely provide some staff room light entertainment.

If you're being serious about it, just be careful not to hideously embarrass your son. I've had pupils actually come and apologise on behalf of their parents sometimes - it's a big burden for young shoulders to carry Smile

herbietea · 25/01/2011 22:23

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TanteAC · 25/01/2011 22:29

Brilliant. There are some parents' letters laminated in our office! Grin

I didn't know this was a wind up because letters like these are not uncommon Shock

troisgarcons · 25/01/2011 22:30

crying laughing

Just having had the misfortune of parents evening and a mother who asked to make a further appointment to discuss the option (what option???) of her Little Emperor sitting his GCSEs alone in a room, due to his most recently diagnosed ADHD .... I merely suggested she bring her cheque book to pay for all the extra invigilation staff, or he managed his behaviour in school as he does in Air Cadets.

A 'selective' child at the best of times with his behaviour - still if she wants to nedically cosh him so be it ... otr I could possibly ask one of his Cadet Sergeants in to stare at him. Works a treat, that does.

catinthehat2 · 25/01/2011 22:33

This is serious isn't it?

And the OP hasn't got back because he thought everyone would take this seriously as well.

I love every misguided word. He should send it, it would become legendary.

yes yes yes I know it refers to a "doting graduate mum", but that is certainly not the author.