kids free meals

[Kitsichick]

AIBU to be surprised and upset?
In Morrisons this evening I treated myself to egg and chips and sauasages- it had been a b of a day. They have a deal where kids eat free for one adult price meal that is being bought. I don't have kids so was in there on my own. Standing just behind me in the quque was a lady and her (around) 8 year old daughter. Daughter said to Mum 'I'm hungry- can I please have some lasagne?'

Mum said 'No- I haven't got the money on me and anyway- I want to buy myself a cake. You can have some coke though'. I turned and said 'If you would like, I would be happy to order your daughter lasagne as I am buying a full price adult meal and might as well use the kids meal up too- I can't eat both!' (I said it to her very quietly while her daughter had run off to choose a coke)

She looked me up and down and then said 'Fxxx off you stuck up bitch!'
I said 'I take that as a no then' but I was really upset. Was I out of line unknowingly?
Is there some Mum etiquette I don't know about?

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I don't think ywbu at all, sounds like you were being helpful but maybe the other woman took offense because she thought that you thought she couldn't afford it herself.
Even so, she was extreemly rude and i can understand why your upset.
People can be very odd, maybe we're not used to strangers being kind. Pity.

Some people are so charming!

Bet u will never do that again. Lovely people out there aren't there....She could of just said nicely ' Oh thankyou for the offer, thats very nice of you. But my daughter will be fine with just a cola :) ' I recommend you shop at sainsburys in future. Asking for trouble shopping at morrisons I'd say. :)

I guess I am still laughing at being thought a stuck up b while I was eating sausage, egg and chips. Perhaps she was having a bad day. To make matters worse she is the Receptionsit at our local GP's so I will have to see her again sometime:(

That isnt mum ettiquette, you were just unfortunate enough to try and be generous to an ill mannered chav. :(

She's a twat, and you sound lovely. So what if you have to see her again, if shes anything less than uber-professional you can have the silly cows arse in a sling with her boss.

Yuck, she sounds vile !

sorry but i'd have said the same.

She was rude yes but i'd have been livid too.

Since when was it OK to evesdroop on someone else's conversation anyway?

YABU and need to learn to mind your own business.

see she wasn't nice to you and that was uncalled for BUT you where a bit interfeary and charity ish towards her - maybe she didn;t want her child to have a meal?

Harsh bubblOseven, harsh.

YANBU. What a horrible chippy woman

Oh God - since when is being thoughtful and trying to help something BAD?

how rude was that woman
a no thank you would have done

well someone had to say it so I thought I'd go first.

'she is a receptionist at our local gp's' - that might explain it.....for some reason unknown to myself alot of receptionists at gp surgery's are really frosty. i think she was bang out of order, sounds to me as if she has a chip on her shoulder and thought you were looking down on her by offering to buy her something, i guess people aren't used to plain old fashioned kindness/openess, good on you to offer, i would have done, same as if i am in a queue at supermarket and the person infront doesn't have enough money and is fumbling for odd change in their purse, nice to be nice :)

Crikey bubbleoseven, would you really?
I was hoping there was maybe only one of her in the world with manners like that.
As to 'eavesdrop' it would have been hard not to- I'd have needed to be stone deaf. She spoke in strident tones that would have had a cougar drop to its knees and slink away. And I waited till her child was away from us before I asked her so she could say yes or no without the child hearing and adding a plea.Do you really think I wasn't minding my own business or have you posted this to get a laugh? I am a bit staggered tbh. Perhaps I am too polite!

I would have done the same as you,OP. And I would have been upset and possibly quite rude back at her rudeness.

Unless they were wispering, it's hardly eavesdropping!

I can see that you were trying to be nice.

Clearly she felt judged by you.

tbh, I'd have judged.

My child is hungry - they eat! If I don't have enough money on me then I go without my cake! But I don't tell my child that I will eat cake and they cannot have food.

That's just wrong.

And yes, bad day, snapshot, great mum, loving, greedy daughter, probably already ate, judgypants, etc...

Don't care.

Hungry child beats your need for cake.

ok. ... so supposing the OP hadnt over heard any conversation, and on noticing a woman with a kid behind her, said "oh excuse me, I am getting an adult meal, it comes with a free kids meal, would it be any use to you?"

We are fast becoming a society where the decent folk end up too fearful to speak to anyone in case a kind gesture gets thrown back in their face with abuse.

We all know kids dont exactly whisper when they are asking for something. It hardly eavesdropping when they are stood right behind you in a fecking queue.

Nah - you did nothing wrong. Some people have perhaps not experienced much kindness in their lives so are suspicious when some comes their way. Sad really

She was unreasonable and so are you bubble. How could you possibly think it is right to verbally abuse someone like that just because they were being kind.

Shit I always overhear peoples conversations. Over 10 years in retail and I just cant help it. never had a response like that though.

OP she was a cow. I hope she shared her cake with her hungry daughter. (but im doubting she did!)

BubbleO, you sound common as muck.....