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... to start ranting when I see someone posts "title Ms = can't get or keep a man" on here?

72 replies

frgr · 24/01/2011 16:20

Hmm.

Come on, tell me it's trivial and I should get over it.

I know, I know.

OP posts:
LittleMissHissyFit · 24/01/2011 16:25

[bshock]

YANBU

(but this is a thread about a thread.. terribly bad form..)

frgr · 24/01/2011 16:27

it's true Blush but i didn't want to derail that thread too much by keep posting Grin

OP posts:
TheMonster · 24/01/2011 16:30

I have no feeling either way about Ms, except it's hard to say.

FancyALittle · 24/01/2011 16:31

I got married last year, I changed my name (I never really liked my old surname...) but I remain a Ms. I've always been a Ms. I don't get many people questioning it though.

BettyCash · 24/01/2011 16:44

I'm a single Ms, never married and wearing the title with pride.

NotEnoughTime · 24/01/2011 16:46

Im (very happily!) married and I use the title Ms. As you say it really is no one elses business as to whether you are married or not.

Trifle66 · 24/01/2011 16:59

I'm a Ms dont want to be anyones Mr's

Nagoo · 24/01/2011 17:05

I was MS from about 20, just chose to be.

I did go to Mrs once I got married and mums-ified though. I think I lost my feminist principles down the back of the sofa Hmm

chipmonkey · 24/01/2011 17:43

I have managed to "keep"Hmm dh for 24 years now and am still Ms.
Of course, if all that is important in life is whether you keep a man or not, regardless of the quality of that man, that will carry it's own problems.

hatwoman · 24/01/2011 17:49

YASOOOOOOOONBU. Shock Angry

GrimmaTheNome · 24/01/2011 17:49

Its worth doing a PhD just to avoid the issue Grin

DilysPrice · 24/01/2011 17:52

Funnily enough I remain a feminist even though I was able to entrap a man into matrimony, (seventeen years and counting). Nobody told me I should turn in the badge when I signed the register.

chipmonkey · 24/01/2011 17:55

Grimma, not even a PhD would prevent my MIL from calling me Mrs dhsurname. Grrr!

weedle · 24/01/2011 17:56

Surely everyone knows Ms is only for lesbians?

chipmonkey · 24/01/2011 18:02

Whaaaat! I'm a lesbian?Shock Someone coulda told me before now!

weedle · 24/01/2011 18:08

Chipmonkey - I agree. It's completely irresponsible. If more people would pop in to bedrooms and scream "you're doing it wrong!" titles would be clearer ergo the world would be a better place Wink

WhereYouLeftIt · 24/01/2011 18:19

Grin GrimmaTheNome

reelingintheyears · 24/01/2011 18:24

I'm a Ms and have been all my life despite having managed to 'keep' DP for 25 years this month.

Can't wait to tell him i'm really a lesbian Grin

reelingintheyears · 24/01/2011 18:26

It's our 'not' silver wedding this month.

MinnieBar · 24/01/2011 18:29

I once stayed in a B&B for work and when he asked what title for the receipt I said 'Ms'. He said 'Ah, so you were married and are now divorced then?' (which, as it turned out was exactly the case, but I was rather ashamed of it all at the time). I went Blush Blush Blush and told him it was none of his business. Later I phoned up to complain about his cheekiness, but ended up speaking to the same guy (without him admitting it was him!) and he was unsurprisingly not very helpful and would not admit it was an overly-personal question to ask of a total stranger.

So yeah, people will either assume you can't keep a man, or you're a lesbian, or both.

And no, it's not trivial.

gordyslovesheep · 24/01/2011 18:31

I am a MRS and a single mum - i got me a manz but he walked - i am a big fat fraud!

TrillianAstra · 24/01/2011 18:31

Never ever seen that before.

TrillianAstra · 24/01/2011 18:33

I agree with Grimma!!!

AlistairSim · 24/01/2011 18:40

Why do we have to have titles anyway?

Why can't I be just be Alistair Sim? (name used for illustrative purposes only)

GrimmaTheNome · 24/01/2011 19:54

Titles do often seem to be omitted now though, don't they?

ChipMonkey, for a short while my own mother would address things to my identically qualified DH and I as 'Dr and Mrs' Hmm but desisted when I pulled her up on it.

And of course you do occasionally get 'Dr' being reinterpreted as 'Mr' though that can be quite amusing if, for instance, its on a prescription for the Pill