Does Mumsnet represent motherhood at all?

[DontKnowWhat]

I'm not a troll but an exceptionally confused eighteen year old girl after reading mumsnet.

I'm aware that parenting is very demanding and hard-work even at the best of times, but can somebody at least tell me that they enjoy it? Reading this website has put me off the idea reproducing permanently if all I've got to look forward to is parental competition, a crap husband, a huge mortgage, school catchment areas, celibacy and the only sense of self-worth I'll have is whether I breastfed, co-slept and cloth nappied my children until three and forced them to only eat Waitrose food, dress in Boden and play with wooden toys.

But this forum (maybe for the benefit of society) is making me think about getting myself permanently sterilised and whacking my head with a frying pan until I turn asexual. I don't want to only be proud of my parenting methods but more by my offspring or myself as an individual. Nor do I want to use my husband solely as a sperm and money donor and some guy I constantly whinge about.

Yeah, I have the common sense to realise that this is mainly because people complain about their problems instead of enthusing about their lives. And I know maybe many mumsnetters will not meet any or some of these criteria and have a lot more genuine stuff to complain about. But this place feels really ranty and snobby about everything - I'm not just talking about this section btw.

Please can somebody at least tell me that they enjoy parenting? Or that they don't portray this ridiculous ghastly stereotype I've seemed to get into my head?

Doh!y'all so outraged at potential troll but still post?

I am quite prepared to believe that an 18 year old could write like this btw - I have many achingly pompous examples of my own teenage oeuvre to inform me on that one - but WHY would they bother on THIS forum unless they were exceptionally sad and achingly lonely?

scottishmummy, have you not just identified the ENTIRE POINT of internet fora??

Hi,

If you really aren't a troll and are interested - what you see on Mumsnet is what no-one tells you when you are pregnant. Everyone talks about how wonderful it is without telling you the reality, the hard work and the sleepless nights. (they all know - they are always parents themselves) Oh, they will admit it after your baby is born, and leave you thinking why, why, why did you not tell me before (and this is not casual acquaintances, this is your mother!!). But you have to think why don't they tell you - are they really that evil?? No, they are parents, and despite all the hard work involved with a child when they hear of a new baby all they think of is the love and pleasure that a new baby brings.

Do people on Mumsnet moan, of course - moaning between mothers is allowed. If you said to any of them what is the best thing in your life the answer would be my child(ren). The joy of having a child is something you can't describe, and we all love our children more than anything you could imagine. But, it's hard going at times and sometimes you need to let off steam.

I love my son more than I could ever have imagined.

Alison

Hi Don'tKnow

I ignore parental competition, I have no crap husband, catchment areas don't bother me, celibacy (? - don't get what you're saying exactly...)

Breatfeeding/co-sleeping/cloth nappies - glean from it what you want and ignore/laugh at the rest.

Waitrose? that's just a few snobby ladies who are generally happy to take the piss out of themselves.

Boden - never heard of it before I joined and I'm not that impressed, even with the discounts.

Wooden toys? DS likes musical lighty-up toys which are invariably plastic. (who gives a shit?)

Oh, and having kids? I've had lots of achievements in my life but having kids was the best thing I've ever done. Should have done it earlier! (I was 31)

'I'm...an exceptionally confused eighteen year old girl after reading mumsnet.'

I get the feeling you've been lurking for a while. Cut through the crap and there's amazing women who could help you here.

welcome and post more - you know you want to

OP hasn't come back then

words on a screen,its all a leap of faith.all this who said dat?is it a troll?is a digression for hard of thinking.makes em feel busy and/or important

I'm the opposite to that Alison.

When I fell pregnant I thought omg - all those sleepless nights, no money, lack of social life, kid driving me crazy, isolation, the screaming, the demanding, the shitty nappies...omg omg omg.

Actually - it all turned out to be FAR nicer than I imagined and had been warned about.

cough.sofuckingwhat.public forum.get over it

Perhaps SM is a troll

maybe we are all trolls in postmodern narrative

oooo SM! Maybe!

I really must go to bed now, but shall thrill to reading this in the Daily Mail next week.

conspiracy theorists are so dull

Trolls are grumpy...

Do you have pink spiky hair scottish mummy?

do you have tendency to talk shite about hair

only when in the company of exceptional hairstyles

maybe it's green

you are full of it in a bawbag kinda way

thanx

Eh?

exactly