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Original poster

I really hate the term/label - precious first born.

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 21:52

Angry Angry Angry

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Eglu · 22/01/2011 21:53

Why?

BaronessBomburst · 22/01/2011 21:54

Do you?

I think it sums it up perfectly! Grin

NinkyNonker · 22/01/2011 21:54

I don't know really, dd fully is my pfb. But we're actually pretty chilled with her normally.

PaisleyLeaf · 22/01/2011 21:55

Were you a younger child then?

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 21:55

Because I have 3 children and all 3 are PFB's to me.

I see nothing wrong with deeply loving and caring for them.

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AgentZigzag · 22/01/2011 21:55

I think it describes it perfectly too.

I didn't even know DD1 was my PFB until I came on here, it explained a lot and made me unclench a tad.

You look very angry though OP, what's up lass?

mutznutz · 22/01/2011 21:55

I'd never heard it til I found MN a few weeks ago but I've got to say it's so true.

I think we all have PFB syndrome to a degree...til we have more babies and realise it really is ok to bath them in the sink (ok take the knives and dishes out)..and that they are truly amazing to us, but not necessarily to the rest of the world Blush

celebmum · 22/01/2011 21:55

but DS is precious... and he;s my first born....?!?! Grin

misdee · 22/01/2011 21:56

dd1 is my PFB. poor girl gets mollycoddled a lot, but is paving the way for my other dd's and ds

RamonaFlowers · 22/01/2011 21:56

It only becomes funny once you have a not-so-precious second born.

Do you have one of those? If so, YABU and should get the joke.

If not, you are still BU but you are forgiven because you don't know it yet Smile

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 21:56

Nope - I was an older child.

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PixieOnaLeaf · 22/01/2011 21:58

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Vallhala · 22/01/2011 21:58

It's perfectly reasonable to hate whatever term you choose.

I don't agree with you though. PFB is the best expression on MN and sums up certain people or situations so well.

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 21:58

I feel slightly less angry now after getting that off my chest Angry Wink

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lostinwales · 22/01/2011 21:58

Nothing wrong with deeply loving and caring for them all I know I do, but I think in PFB there is an inference of the slightly mad, over the top, things we do to care for our first babies that we've susequently calmed down on as the years go by. ( I am reminded of the lady on the thread about PFB's recently who admitted sowing a rectangle of silk on to her babies mattress cover to srop the hair rubbing off so much.)

RamonaFlowers · 22/01/2011 21:59

Ah, OP, then can I ask, genuinely, if you know exactly what it is getting at?

I can't be arsed to search my posting history (under diff name) but my PFB behaviour involved me sending my elderly mother back to Boots because she had accidentally bought non organic apple juice for babies. You know, the one Heinz make for babies.

She actually went back to swap it. I actually let her.

I would NEVER have done that with subsequent DC's. It was all about the obsessiveness of perfect parenting.

Of course all DC's are precious. But in context of MN, I always take it to refer to a certain type of behaviour usually (thankfully) only seen first time round being a parent.

GreenEyesandHam · 22/01/2011 21:59

Its piss take term isn't it? Gentle ribbing of those who go OTT with their first child.

Kinda like how I have a lovingly collected baby box, full of cards, notes, red book, locks of hair, first shoes from my eldest childs first year.....

I have three children. One baby box

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 22:01

Why didn't I think of that lostinwales, first thing tomorrow I'll give it a try Grin

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cantspel · 22/01/2011 22:04

when i was pregnant with my first my mum told me that your first child is sooooooo special and you will never feel like that again.

Thanks mumSad I am her second child,

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 22:05

greeneyesandham that makes me want to shed a tear - all 3 of mine have a memory box including first year books (although I'll be honest, I've never had the time to fill them completely).

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lostinwales · 22/01/2011 22:06

I'm just sad now I can't remember what my PFB moments were, I know I was over the top but it's all gone in the mists of time. I definitely didn't do a spreadsheet of how much he ate and how often

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MrsRigby · 22/01/2011 22:07

Actually cantspel, good news, my third is the one I love and have bonded with the most. My first was nothing special, though I did have 7 months of PND which got in the way.

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SmethwickBelle · 22/01/2011 22:08

The term doesn't bother me remotely. And how I wish I had seen the PFB thread, the square of silk sounds like the sort of thing I would have done (and still might on a good day).

I must have joined every preposterous baby activity invented in DS1s first four months - he just slept through hundreds of pounds worth of nursery rhyme time diddy yoga baby pilates aquasplash nonsense.

I had an eye injury shortly after DS2's birth and so his only outings were to the Eye Hospital. He also slept. It was cheaper.