to ask for the money back

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I sent DP round to drop some stuff at my brothers last night. He stayed and talked for a while, they then decided to play cards and DP in his twattiness then gambled £200 on a card game which he lost. We needed that money and can't afford to be without it, I'm not sure how I'm going to pay for the food shop tomorrow now. I know DP was a cunt and fortunately has gone out before I strangle him. AIBU to ask my brother to give it back because we can't do without it.

Is your DP facing up to the consequences of this?

Your DP should be the one that asks for it back not you, he has created this mess and so he should try and sort it out. I would be seriously questioning your DP to gamble so much money is highly irresponsible.

popelle I was going to ask my brother because I think I'll have a better chance of getting it back.

He doesn't normally gamble, they normally play with chips. Although I'm fuming about this

I think you're directing your anger at the wrong person here.

As SGM says, your brother having your £200 is the least of your worries.

YABU - That's the nature of gambling,

I'm not angry with my brother at all, I'm angry with DP for being such a fuckwit

If I'm being honest I think you have bigger problems than £200.The fact that your DP thought it was ok to do this.The fact he is now gone out and avoiding the situation.

I think you may get the truth from your brother.Though I wouldn't expect the money back.He can say no especially if money has been gambled before.

YABVU I agree with Huddspur, if your DP had won and had got an extra £200 would you be offering it back to him? I doubt it so why should he even think about giving it back to you.

I'd expect your dp to talk to your brother and ask for it back. What on earth are family members doing gambling money from each other? they are both irresponsible imo.

Seriously, StewieGriffins? You would pack the bags and change the locks? Blimey.

OP, he's been a dick. Everyone knows that - but it's not your brother's problem - just ask him and see what he says, it's all you can do. Fwiw, I would be incandescent with rage over this too - but I think throwing him out without even discussing it may be a little harsh.

I don't see the harm in asking, your DP is an idiot for doing it though. Could you suggest that you split it

was it just the two of them or a group of people playing?

Agree since it's your brother, who presumably knows full well you can't afford to lose this money, you are well within your rights to ask for it back. And if he quibbles, tell your parents.

But the main problem is your dp - highly irresponsible and can't believe he went to the cashpoint. What an idiot. Are you sure it's the first time they've played for money? £200 is a lot to lose, I doubt it is something new. Maybe he's only lost £20 before and got carried away.

Double or quits?

Only kidding, your dh is a todger.

I would make your h sort his shit out.

You can appeal to your brother's good nature to give the money back, and then put it straight into a bank account with your name on it, and only your name.

If I were you, I would put all of your savings into your own bank account. Your dp cannot be trusted.

edam- Tell their parents , how old are the OP and her brother

I had to laugh at 'tell your parents'!

So did I Belgo.

I laughed as well belgo
"Mummy db got dp to gamble away his money, can you get him to give it back"

If it was me and I really needed the money I would borrow it from your brother and then pay him back at twenty per week.

Better still I'd get dh to borrow it so that he had the consequences of what he has done for ten weeks.