to expect replies to be somewhat polite in getting their point across

[scuzy]

reading so many threads and see so many one line very rude answers ... why as adults cant we have a debate and get our opinions out there without name calling swearingand down right rude? is it because your brave behind a pc screen or are you like that in RL? honestly some replies are awful.

deal with it

I say it as it is & ajm the same in RL. Call a spade a spade.

i agree

i think its because this site allows swearing and whatnot to a certain extent

but just because you can doesnt mean you should

lol perfectfather oh i'm dealing with it alright. just dont see why is necessary!!

I agree.

It really shocks me sometimes that people will say things to a message on here in a way that they would never dream of doing in real life! Thats not to say that everyone should be fluffy and agree with one another all the time, but there are ways of saying things!

I dont think that the fact that a question is posed on a message board as opposed to real life suddenly negates the need for basic manners and consideration for someones feelings!

And I put my hand up and say that I have done it, but bitterly regretted it afterwards and really do try not to now!

Just avoid AIBU then. Everywhere else is fine with fantastic advice, support and debate.

oh god no dont want everyone agreeing with each other and know some topies are very passionate and heart wrenching or close to home. but some just i feel want to be just down right rude because they can.

why avoid AIBU?

If you want people to be friendly and sweet and adorable, the internet is not for you.

lol perfectfather where did i say i want it like that? that would be boring. i guess it says more about the poster. its called a deabte and the way you word your opinion is all.

Because that is where you will get snappy responses. Try posting pretty much anywhere else and you will get far more reasoned responses. You may wish to avoid politics as well....

Because some people are twunts and they get a kick out of being rude/patronising/making people feel bad.

I thought it was just online but look round there are people like this IRL too.

IRL tho they tend to be avoided because they are online being vile or they would get a punch in the face.

Its easy to say rise above it cause even with the thickest of skin it get to you sometimes.

so AIBU has a rep of being ignorant and rude then? its the same as chat as far as i'm concerned only ye start threads with AIBU ....

thats the thing tho babypickles i genuinely DONT thing some that are ignorant or rude on here are like that in RL. they "grow a pair" and get brave behind the screen i think. not all ... but some.

people forget that there a RL people here behind the posts. some dont give a crap others are more sensitive and take things to heart. so does that mean they should stay clear??

So wait, you don't want people to be nice because that's boring, but you don't want them to be "rude" as you put it, because that's too far?

Tell people how you want them to post, I guess. See if that works (hint, it won't)

ok perfectfather i see my point is going waaay over your head. i'm saying its not the odd sarky rue comment its the "piss/fuck off" and realllly horrible vile comments i'm talking about. i mean are we adults here or what?

I don't think you see many posts where the only reply is "fuck off". I think you're making a problem where there isn't one.

Agreed - its easy to be tough behind the safety of your screen. Its like that on most debate forums. I can deal with opinions and debate and understand that people dont agree on subjects - thats fine.

Its when people are just vile for the sake of it thats annoying.

I was bullied of another forum by a little bitch who thought she would follow me round ripping my threads apart. Not nice IMO.

Banter is one thing - being a twunt is another.

ive seen a few tbh perfectfather.

Perfectfather, I rather suspect that you are either goading the OP or being deliberately obtuse.

We can disagree with each other without being rude and/or insulting, and the OP is simply asking why people are rude and insulting when there is no need for it.

scuzy - AIBU is a topic where we get to shout and swearat someone - we don't have to be polite as long as we're not being deliberately abusive to the poster.

That's what makes it fun and that's why it's the most popular topic.

Don't take it too seriously, really.

nickelbaby i get you i really do. i dont take it to heart but others might. just dont see a need for it really ... and i mean aiming rude comments at other posts not in a venting post.

It's hard to write a long reply while DD is rampaging/dragging me around by the hand, tbh

oh tell me about it fanjo!!! lol