Ok, please don't pelt me with {biscuit], I'm not meaning to come accross as wondermum or trying to polish my halo, I'm just confused:
A friend of mine and I were chatting about what our LOs had been up to (her DS is almost exactly the same age as my DD). The conversation turned to LOs fave food (and the often amusing eating antics of 20m olds). I mentioned that I'd been making cakes with DD as a treat and she said that homemade cakes could never be treats to children, only 'shop bought ones with cartoon characters, like their friends have'.
I was a bit 
and she continued to say that she made sure her DS had fruit shoots/character-endorsed yogurts/cheese-strings etc 'the same as his friends' so that he wouldn't feel left out, and for me not to do that with DD was depriving her and she would feel left out by her peers.
"THEY AREN'T EVEN TWO!" - my mind screamed
When my DD is older - an example, if she is at a birthday party at McD's, or Pizza Hut, she will have the same as her friends (i.e. I won't be there with the organic carrot sticks and wholemeal-stoneground-homemade-bread saying she isn't allowed), but at 20m the need hasn't arisen for her to have these in her diet, and I'm not causing her to feel 'uncool' cos she hasn't had them yet?
DD hasn't had a Fruit Shoot, she loves watered down apple juice (asks for it all the time) and didn't like cordial when I gave her some to try. I love baking so we usually have homemade cakes in the house, therefore I don't buy them.
I came away from the chat feeling that either I was a mean mother (my first time around so I'm not very confident as a parent) or some kind of crack-pot who restricts her daughters diet..... am I?