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Original poster

To wonder why female mastibation is still such a taboo subject?

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HenriettaPeck · 16/01/2011 17:22

I even name changed to post this!

My female friends and I talk about anything and everything, similarly on here there seems to be few topics that are not discussed and yet the topic of woman mastibating never appears to be discussed.

I'm sure that the overwhelming majority of woman do indulge in a little diy from time to time, and tbh I wouldn't believe anybody who told me they never had.

So why is it still such a taboo subject ?

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FabbyChic · 16/01/2011 17:23

I do not believe it is taboo, it is however private.

I've not seen many threads talking about guys wanking either.

Maybe people like to keep it to themselves?

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/01/2011 17:26

I talk to my close friends about it...when the subject comes up, you understand, not on a regular basis! I'm not embarrassed about it in general.

Takeresponsibility · 16/01/2011 17:26

Isn't that the whole point of it?

tyler80 · 16/01/2011 17:27

I'm not sure I'd go as far as to say it's taboo, just not something that's often discussed. I don't think it's a bad thing.

I do think there's still a gender difference. Some of my male friends will make reference to 'cracking one off' or similar.

If you wanted it to be gender equal though, i'd prefer the men stopped discussing it rather than the women started.

ReshapeWhileDamp · 16/01/2011 17:28

I dunno, I had a bit of a chat with my MW about this the other day. DH was in the room, though we did tell him to pin his ears shut! I've talked about it to a few female friends over the years - depends entirely on the friend, really. I mean, I'm unlikely to strike up a female masturbation chat over coffee with the Yummies at DS's preschool art club!

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/01/2011 17:28

Isn't that the whole point of it?

what does that mean?

DuplicitousBitch · 16/01/2011 17:28

i can't imagine talking about it, nor do i bang on about having sex with dh. sex and the city isn't a documentary.

DuplicitousBitch · 16/01/2011 17:29

we should all try it at the school gate tomorrow 'how are you?' 'great i had a fantastic wank yesterday thinking about your husband'

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HenriettaPeck · 16/01/2011 17:30

I've read loads of threads on here over the years about how it's normal for men to mastibate even when in a healthy relationship but I have never once seen any reference to woman doing it.

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TotorosOcarina · 16/01/2011 17:32

I don't think it is taboo is it?

I mean life isn't really like 'sex in the city' for most women, i certainly don't sit around with a group of women talking about my sex life.

Masturbation is private, i don't talk about sex, oral sex or anything i get upto in the bedroom, doesn't mean I don't do it or I'm ashamed of it!

TrillianAstra · 16/01/2011 17:34

I doubt men chat about masturbating much either.

Male masturabation is probably talked about more - but only as a joke. Female masturbation isn't as funny, I guess. If you took away the jokes I expect you'd find that they are equally little talked about.

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/01/2011 17:35

we talk about it over here a fair bit

Maybe we don't have threads about it because it's not an issue for women? DH knows I DIY from time to time and has no issue with it...

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 16/01/2011 17:35

see the thing with masturbation is that you are the driver and you know your own body so very few people need advice on knowing how to please themselves. it isn't like sex with a partner where you mightn't be sure what they like or how to do it 'right'. so i guess that is why it isn't discussed as much, it doesn't need to be.

and i don't think it is taboo. i don't see wanking threads here either.

Takeresponsibility · 16/01/2011 17:36

EricNorthmansMistress .

Fabby Chic said "Maybe people like to keep it to themselves?"

So I replied "Isn't that the whole point of it?"

However I am terrible at typing and you slipped in between us

beedeeeye · 16/01/2011 17:36

I took the shower head off this morning and directed the warm fast flow over my lurve button.

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/01/2011 17:37

Ahaaa I get it

Yep, it ceases to be masturbation once you get someone else in on it I think!

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 16/01/2011 17:39

henrietta have you really never seen one reference to female masturbation here over the years??

i have seen quite a few, often in a jokey way or in a serious advice giving way.

Malificence · 16/01/2011 17:40

Op, you've obviously missed a lot of Friday night threads then.
Loads of "which vibrator is best" etc.

I agree that masturbation is so personal and individual that talking about specifics would be fairly useless, what gets one woman off wouldn't work for the next.

Chil1234 · 16/01/2011 17:41

To quote Professor Quirrel.... t-t-t-TROLL!!!

Malificence · 16/01/2011 17:43

mmm, mastibating does seem like a 13 year old boy is writing.

Chil1234 · 16/01/2011 17:45

You think...... [hmm}?

MooMooFarm · 16/01/2011 17:48

Henrietta what do you want to post about it then? Talk away and I'm all ears - my lips are sealed though

theevildead2 · 16/01/2011 17:49

All my friends do.. but then we're a bit skanky like that. I am wondering about the Op's motives!

MyBrilliantCareer · 16/01/2011 17:55

It's not.

ledkr · 16/01/2011 18:05

mastibating? is that what you do when you chew?

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