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... to think that most MNers live in a bubble?

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frgr · 16/01/2011 01:13

Seriously, the amount of times I read on here about "oh we earn 70k a year but we're really struggle to provide for little Jacob's polo lessons this year" (or some other such shite).

In real life, the average income of my family and friends is probably circa the national average. I know for a fact that my BIL is on around £6/hr and works 42 hours a week, I know that my best friend's total family income is about 22k because she was talking about mortgages a month ago... I'm talking about hard working people who go out come rain or shine and do their day's work, to provide for their families.... and then I log on here and find out MNers are posting trivial shit about being unable to afford XYZ and feeling hard done by on their incomes of "only" 3x the national average.

I don't know if I've become more sensitive to this crap since starting re-posting on here last year (after a break of about 3 years), but it seems to me that certain members of MN are totally and utterly oblivious as to what the average family is having to endure during this recession.

It's fucking unbelievable, it really is.

In your opinion, why are so many MNers out of touch with reality? Does this site cater to a different class than me? Are avg MNers just generally deluded - do I even belong here any more, with our 21k combined income, worrying about where the next school trip fee is coming from despite the fact that both of us work?

Christ.

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Deciduousblonde · 16/01/2011 15:38

Same here LeQueen.

I think we are heading down that road again very soon too :(

noddyholder · 16/01/2011 15:40

I don' think any of us are here or found MN in the hope that someone in the same income bracket could give us advice on being a parent!It is inverted snobbery at its worst.i have had nothing and have also had more than I have now and my problems that I need advice and guidance with are mainly the same.My health will always be shit no matter how much I earn.

sarah293 · 16/01/2011 15:41

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SoupDragon · 16/01/2011 15:42

I do get somewhat pissed off with how, on MN, the better off aren't allowed to find things tough and are simply there for the amusement of others.

MadameCastafiore · 16/01/2011 15:43

Add being without a mother before my first birthday, having a sister who is certifiably insane, an abusive stepmother and father who couldn't give a shit about what she did to us and a violent XH I think I have done enough of the real world thing for a while - I wish there was a little bubble for me actually!

LeQueen · 16/01/2011 15:45

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sarah293 · 16/01/2011 15:48

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SoupDragon · 16/01/2011 15:54

Yes, but imagine this thread was started complaining about people on benefits...

germum · 16/01/2011 15:55

Have you heard the saying -

"money doesn't make you happy but it sure make the unhappiness more bearable!" Wink

I think when some posters feel skint on a high salary it is due to lifestyle choices. I could move to a similar house 3 miles down the road and halve my mortgage and have massively more disposable income. However, I want to live in my safe village with excellent schools. But if I wanted my kids to go to private school, I would downsize my house.

You can't have it all!!

wizardora · 16/01/2011 15:55

I don't really get this 'living in a bubble' thing. As if someone who has a lot of money somehow has a less 'real' life than someone who doesn't Hmm

Agree salary has little do with motherhood either.

We are on a low income and it does make me feel a little Envy when I see people posting about which thousand pound handbag/dress to buy which is why I now avoid the fashion/beauty section of mumsnet Grin

Nancy66 · 16/01/2011 15:57

Money makes life so much easier - totally naive to think it doesn't.

I've been massively in debt and piss poor and very comfortable - and I know which I prefer.

but the notion that higher earners are all stuck up tories does piss me off

SoupDragon · 16/01/2011 15:59

The thing is, it is seen as perfectly acceptable on MN to slag off/ridicule/whatever those who earn more. If you dare to complain about it, it is apparently fine as those with more money can take it Hmm

wizardora · 16/01/2011 16:00

Inverted snobbery at it's finest!

tinierclanger · 16/01/2011 16:00

I have never seen a thread here where the better off have been ridiculed for non-financial issues. I think it sounds a bit silly to say you're not allowed to have problems on mumsnet if you're in a higher income bracket.

TorcherQueenie · 16/01/2011 16:00

I agree, I posted a topic in in the news about the people who run the national grid going on strike figuring it would be a censorn for most people since they have voted 98% in favour of strike action and got 2 replys.

Dragonhead · 16/01/2011 16:00

I'm fairly new to Mumsnet ( was recommended by someone on a disney forum I am on) but have followed a few threads and there seems to be a mindset from a group of posters that if you have done well and aren't in a minimum wage job then your opinion doesn't matter or you must be miserable or your marriage is on the rocks -sorry to report not in my case....

Maybe I'm being a bit harsh but am astounded at the bitterness. When I see people do well I am genuinely pleased for them.

NonnoMum · 16/01/2011 16:03

Agree with the earlier poster that said it is quite feasible for two teachers working full time to bring in around 70 grand.

They're reet posh all these teachers.

noddyholder · 16/01/2011 16:03

I think money can deal with things like bills etc but it does nothing to help when you are in real despair and distress.When i was on dialysis nothing made it better I wasn't interested in anything and had little life.It deals with the practicalities thats all

BitOfFun · 16/01/2011 16:04

Can you point me to any examples of that, Dragonhead? I really can't say I have ever noticed that, and I've been here a while now.

SoupDragon · 16/01/2011 16:08

"I have never seen a thread here where the better off have been ridiculed for non-financial issues."

So, it's OK to ridicule them for financial issues??

Dragonhead · 16/01/2011 16:09

It was on the bursary thread and another one about the relocation programme -I can go back and get quotes if you want Bitoffun but there were posts along the lines of people who had money were twats and their husbnds were probbly shagging their secretaries.

BitOfFun · 16/01/2011 16:10

Ah- I missed that. I think I did post, but I was already a bit pissed by then and didn't read much of it.

tinierclanger · 16/01/2011 16:11

No, I don't think it's ok to ridicule anyone for financial issues. But I was responding to that post implying they get mocked for any problem. Which isn't true.

LeQueen · 16/01/2011 16:12

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noddyholder · 16/01/2011 16:15

I agree lequeen So sorry for your loss it seems a bit off to tslk about that in relation to money.Money does not make the hard times easier it just doesn't

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