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to bank on getting bursary whilst earning £70k?

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Leafysuburbia · 15/01/2011 23:41

We have enrolled our child at a fabulous pre prep. We could afford the fees at the time but after job changes it just is no longer an option once the 15 free hours nursery provision finishes and DC has to enter Reception.

When I spoke to the head she was non committal but told me that all financial circumstaces are looked at and although salary figure is too high to normally consider bursary that things like excessive mortgage (tick), very high overheads including debt (tick) would all be taken into account. Tbh every month we are struggling, really struggling to save even £450. She also told me that generally once a child has started the school she considered it negative to their education to have to let them go so she would usually recommend a bursary be approved.

Said child has not yet started pre prep.

We have another younger child and my concerns are partly that if we can't afford one we certainly can't afford two.

How many people have managed to get bursaries while earning well in excess of the usual low income expected and has this continued to work when two children are in attendance?

Am I being ridiculous in even trying? Am very concerned as DC1 is considered exceptionally advanced in terms of development (genuine concern please do not flame) and needs a high level of attention/stimulation (no idea about DC2 yet, very very little indeed!). Local state schools said to be good but HUGE class sizes and very oversubscribed, hard to get into.

Anyone? Is it fantasy to start pre prep with no realistic hope of remaining? Or do we really have a hope - is it possible, is it reasonable to consider successfully claiming bursaries?

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A1980 · 15/01/2011 23:48

I have no idea but do bear in mind that you will potentially be taking away a bursary from people who really are on low incomes, probably less than half yours.

It doens't seem right that a family with a £70k income should benefit from a bursary for a good school becasue they've spent beyond their means on other things. Your income in about 3 times that of the average UK income.

Struggling to save £450 a month? Most people I know can't save anyhting!

But go for it. You've nothing to lose!

A1980 · 15/01/2011 23:50

"Am very concerned as DC1 is considered exceptionally advanced in terms of development (genuine concern please do not flame) and needs a high level of attention/stimulation (no idea about DC2 yet, very very little indeed!)."

Sorry I missed that bit, if DC1 is so amazingly gifted surely he'll be fine at a state school?

wayoftheworld · 15/01/2011 23:51

You might start with the hope that things will change- I can't quite see what damage it would be having to change school at later times- my dad was an army officer and I changed primary schools nearly every year for the first five. I do think it is important that you are happy with it as well- would you be worried about the stigma of having a bursary? if other parents at school were to hear about it, how would you feel to their reaction? Well, some of the questions you might want to ask yourself..

huddspur · 15/01/2011 23:52

YANBU to try but I wouldn't bank on it

hidingmytrueidentity · 15/01/2011 23:54

If you earn 70k you cannot afford to privately educate 2 children.

By secondary it will be 25-30k

You need to get realistic- earn more or go to a state school.

Sorry but being honest. You also need uniform, trips etc etc

cat64 · 15/01/2011 23:56

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hidingmytrueidentity · 15/01/2011 23:57

Cat64 on 70k you only take home 4k a month.

cat64 · 15/01/2011 23:58

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pinkteddy · 15/01/2011 23:59

Would you be better spending the money moving into the catchment of a really good state school? Then all your dcs could benefit.

A1980 · 16/01/2011 00:00

I'll third the only shocker!!!!

Oh dear how hard it must be to only have £1000 per week to live on Wink

hidingmytrueidentity · 16/01/2011 00:00

Only yes- school fees for 2 would be up to 2.5k a month.

charliesmommy · 16/01/2011 00:01

awww "only"... Wink

jessikart · 16/01/2011 00:01

You are fucking joking. Look at your life, look at what you spend your money on, rethink. Struggling to save £450 a month? We don't even have £4.50 to spare a month. Stop being so bloody precious. Do you think it's reasonable that your child is entitled to something free when you earn three times the average wage?

bibbitybobbityhat · 16/01/2011 00:02

Yabu. Tis just the way of things.

My best friend and her dp have a household income of less than half mine and dh's. She has a chance of getting a full bursary for her ds to go to private school because their income is so low and he is a bright boy.

We have no chance of sending our dc to private school (not that we would want to) despite the huge difference in income.

Best friend and I have laughed about this together!

I just wonder why you think your child should go above others?

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hidingmytrueidentity · 16/01/2011 00:04

I don't think that 70k is a big enough income to privately educate 2 children. Half your income would go on school fees.

I meant the only in the context of how much she would be paying out in fees.

A1980 · 16/01/2011 00:04

^ Then she can't have private schools for both from day one in that case.

I know alot of people at work who send their children to state primary and save like crazy for private at 11+.

£450 a month ought to help that.

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A1980 · 16/01/2011 00:08

Yes there are many ways to get a good education without private school.

Tutor them like crazy while at atate school and then try and get them into a selective state 11 plus.

The OP's DC1 is such a prodigy that I'm sure he'll be fine.

hidingmytrueidentity · 16/01/2011 00:08

Private schools start fees low to lure you in and then they go up as the children age. If you can't afford it for a 4 year old no way can you afford it for an 11 year old.

MissAnneElk · 16/01/2011 00:10

If you can't afford it you can't. Your DC has been declared bright. Well done. A bright child doesn't need a private education. They need encouragement and parental involvement.

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