I thinking some breastfeeding mums are attention seeking weirdos who seen to need constant breasty attention and pats on the back for getting their baps out ??

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Woohooo for you, you're getting your baps out in public and feeding your child, same as I did for two years, Without any hassle from anybody.Public or otherwise. The main difference being the whole world didn't have to keep being told about it.

I can just imagine them, sat as predominantly as possible, glaring over their babies head if somebody dares to even look in their direction...

And don't even get me STARTED on the competitive extended breastfeeders.....

NO ONE FUCKING CARES !

OK ?

LeQueen I think "Shh, be discreeeeeeeeeeet" in a stage whisper. I agree with you about the "So what" approach to feeding- I have also done both, with no real hassles.

lovemy2babies i also resent people painting negative images of formula feeding but a couple of weeks ago there was a thread about how it makes babies die! I shit you not, that is what someone said! It's not breast feeding that people are against it's the smugness that SOME people seem to feel about it!

People talk this kind of shite about special needs???

Wow what kind of low life does that???

Newmum I get people feeling proud of bf, I do. It's been bloody hard.

However I do judge others for ff.

I wish women could support each other instead of becoming competitive bitches.

Is smug= proud on here?
Or smug= general bitchiness?

I DONT judge

My baby was admitted to hospital at 6 days old having lost 20% of his birthweight and was dehydrated whilst I had struggled trying to breastfeed.
This had not occured because I was BFing of course, but because I wasn't BFing effectively. Once DS out of danger after being fed by NG tube a wonderful MW sat with me for the entire feed and gave me plenty of tips.
DS was BF for a year and is a strapping teenanger now.
To suggest that babies become dehydrated due to BFing is the biggest load of shite I have heard in years! Mothers just need more BF support not this rubbish

Damn, was trying to position the bear inbetween the (ahem) "Baps" to see if I could make a torso.

Ooh and I forgot to say - I judge people for FFing too. Especially if they don't even try to BF, or say 'ooh I would have done but my milk ran out'. I don't say anything but deep down I think bad things....

I agree unfitmother.
Support is needed

Yes Love step out of your bubble and you might just spot one.

On a far more important subject tho, if breasts produced alcohol i'd have set up an illegal 'human farm' by now

I'd pat them daily and feed them of course, discretion wouldn't be an issue when cheesey comes for 'bitty'

what does the mean, and the for that matter, ive been away for a bit.

I would get my tits/norks/baps/breasts out at the drop of a hat before i had DD so was never shy about wapping them out after i had her!

I think there is a tendancy towards breast snobbery - some mums can't bfeed, and it is pants that they are made to feel inadequate for it.

I think we need to make a distinction between being proud of bf and being smug about it.

Bf is bloody hard work and people do feel proud, especially if they have battled with problems and overcome them. That is fine imo.

However, when people turn their pride into smugness and turn it on others, that is NOT ok.

I have bf both my DC and yes, I do feel proud. To me it is an achievement and I didn't suffer the huge issues some people have to overcome. But, I don't use it as a stick to beat others with.

FGS, can we please have some mutual support and understanding on this issue. There is not one person on here who is trying to do anything but the best by their baby. We are all trying to do the same thing!

My bubble?
Ah I forget that this is a forum and people are always free to spew crap :)

I do know that there are amazing posters who give invaluable advice and support when most needed.

I bow out of such a shite thread

moomoo i formula feed my baby, i never tried to breastfeed, i didn't want to and didn't have to. Judge away!

Youve obviously read my thread then

This is such a transparent dig at last night's glut of breastfeeding threads. Whateveeeeer.

And my thread was about how I felt wierd about extendded braestfeeding because I couldn't be bothered to wean dd off before now. Not smug at all.

but what do the bear and biscuit mean???

I completely agree! Breast feeding is a COMPLETELY NATURAL thing to do and i breast fed both of mine till six months but...... Don't make a song and dance about it FFS!
We get it.... You breast feed... Your an amazing mum/ Pat on back a million times!
I know someone who actually does the looking to see if someone is looking in there direction just so they can bang on about how amazing they are
Seems to be all i hear about lately!

i live in a place where there are quite a few breastfeeders (compared to rates in the rest of the country) i have been to lots of breastfeeding support groups, most mums i know have breastfed etc, and i have never encountered any smugness from anyone, interesting description... i think it says more about people's insecurity for not breastfeeding that they get so angry with the supposed 'attention seeking wierdos'

i know a few ff mums who have never hesitated to tell me how easy ff is, how much freedom they have, how they could never breastfeed as they found it gross/wierd/tiring etc etc. i never 'rant' about the benefits of bfing or why ive chosen to do it as i know they dont want to know, and besides they'd prob think me smug for doing so. i dont care how they chose to feed their baby and find it odd that they behave so defensively towards breastfeeding.

Bfeeding is something to be proud of because for many women it's really fucking hard. I had 6 weeks of agony the first time I tried, worse than labour, so am I proud of myself fr persevering? Most certainly.

Also, not everyone who gets negative comments is making it up/ is guilty of thrusting her udders at all and sundry in unseemly manner. I was once talked in to feeding my baby in a charity shop by the ladies who worked there (long story, DH's dept were doing team building there, I went along to support them). The ladies who ran the shop gave me a chair to sit on out of sight of most of the shop but where they could still see me. I thought it was still a bit public but thought I had better sit where I was put, reasoning that no one could see anything anyway (DD was only a month old and I was covered up with a muslin). Anyway they had clearly been expecting me to whip out a bottle, as one of the women ran over and asked me to move into the changing rooms, saying 'it's not that we object to breastfeeding but it might offend our customers'). It was mortifying. Whilst I was gathering my things she stuck a piece of dirty curtain over DD's head. I gathered
my things and left the shop in tears as, weirdly, she physically tried to stop me leaving the shop.

It was awful. Luckily I am a stroppy cow and experienced bfeeder so it didn't put me off, but if that had happened with my first baby I might have stopped.

so far as i can tell the is for being blindingly middle class - check classics for the pom bear dinner party thread? The biscuit is instead of an 'oh fuck off I don't care'.

"competitive extended breast-feeders"

Are there a vast majority of people on here who feed beyond five or six years then? I'd consider that to be extended in terms of worldwide weaning age.

I mentioned my DS still occasionally nibbling feeding at 3.5 on the other thread but believe me it isn't my choice. He's autistic with bowel and gut issues, severely limited diet and it happens to be crucial for him. Competitive?