Kissing on the lips.

[FanellaFidge]

I'm fairly conservative when it comes to hugs/kisses goodbye and hello, and so are my family which is why I want others perspective on this.

We spent some time staying with DH's family over Christmas. When it was time to leave it was the usual kisses on the cheek/hugs goodbye, until I come to my FIL. He intentionally kissed me on the lips. Is this weird? I thought it was weird, and was definately not comfortable with it. AIBU?

I find it VERY wierd but I know lots of people that do.

What nationality are they?

My DF kisses me on the lips but I would be extremely uncomfortable about my FiL doing it TBH

my nan always ALWAYS kisses me right on the lips.

I'm ok.

I wouldn't want to do it! (FIL, not you i mean) - there was a big discussion about it last week here

Think you need to turn your head very firmly next time!

i think it could be a generation thing as my nan and grandad always kissed on the lips.

I am more an air kiss/hug person.

I offered my cheek, but he grabbed my head with both hands.

I had a friend that did this.

One evening she announced to a whole group of us that she found it weird that people kissed her on the lips and we all simultaneously said, but it's you. No one else does it.

Poor thing was mortified. hee hee

He's British and thoroughly irritating

Stick your tongue down his throat and make his day

Watch it. Next thing he'll slip his tongue in.

Think it's time to say 'no kissing on the lips! I have a coldsore!' in a loud and thrilling accent.

Thanks for that. I was already a little bit sick in my mouth without the tongue.

I haven't mentioned it to DH as I'm not sure if he'll be offended that I'm offended, IYSWIM?

Grab his head and keep your lips locked to his, looking straight in his eyes, until he breaks free. That'll put stop to it.

If you think that's bad listen to this. When I was first married I had to go to my H's Grandparents' anniversary dinner thingy. Anyway, when I went into the kitchen to get another drink his Grandad was in there and he chatted a bit about how much he was enjoying himself and then he PINCHED MY ARSE, only he didn't really pinch it, he more sort of felt my arse and then did that...oh, God, I don't know if I can type this...that sort of fingery fanny thing.

OH GOD. I JUST WROTE THAT ON THE INTERNET.

It was really bad. Really, really bad.

ShirleyKnot i hope you delievered a quick kick to his balls

He touched your fanjita?! The grandad did?! Ha ha ha ha ha! Now be honest Shirl; if it happened now, you'd be grateful wouldn't you?

Shirley, PMSL.

It's called goosing and someone did it to me when I was 14 on New Year's Eve in Trafalgar Square. It took me MONTHS to get over it.

If it had been my DH's grandad, stretch that to years...

Fanella I feel your pain. FIL is equally horrid and yes, I mean horrid. Gives me the creeps - it's not just the prolonged kisses (picture two hands squeezing my head while he does it and squashes his face on my cheek ... very very very thankful that he's never got me on the lips although he has tried) it's the following around and having no idea about intimacy boundaries - not just personal space but his topics of conversation [way too much information shudder].
It got to the point where I refused to go and see him and had to say NO!! when he started asking for the kisses. I had no problem telling DH about my reasons though. Thankfully he completely understood.

Oh God

Shirley.

I'm not so bothered about lip kissing anymore. I shall just recall your post and count myself lucky

I know, right?