Kissing on the lips.

[FanellaFidge]

I'm fairly conservative when it comes to hugs/kisses goodbye and hello, and so are my family which is why I want others perspective on this.

We spent some time staying with DH's family over Christmas. When it was time to leave it was the usual kisses on the cheek/hugs goodbye, until I come to my FIL. He intentionally kissed me on the lips. Is this weird? I thought it was weird, and was definately not comfortable with it. AIBU?

That's what I should have done, screamed! Missed a trick there!

Thing is I think I had a sort of feeling he would do it, I feel like he's attempted it in the past.

I'm not touchy feely at all. I rarely even hug my own Mother!

How do I avoid it next time?!

duplicitous. I'm crying with laughter ... Please tell me you are not joking

duplicitous are you serious?Do you grab his balls back?
My pil prop their door open when they stay and fil always taps on our bedroom door for some reason when we are in it.When im no longer heavily pg i am going to make sure im giving dh head as he comes in.

DB - hahahahahahahaaaaaaaa

I feel like next time i see fil i will be on high alert for shocking or amusing stories to tell on mumsnet.I will be quite disapointed if nothing happens.

Someone please tell me how to avoid it next time...?!

I did tell you! You kiss his cheek before he goes in for the frenchie.

Sorry...must have missed that in amongst all the smut!

Do you think I should tell DH?

YES!

bleurgh at all these stories of unwanted kisses on the mouth - do any of you have DDs? what would you tell them? that they have the right not to be made uncomfortable and that its Ok to say NO to something, I hope?

Shirley! Eek! :(

Dh might think there's nothing wrong with it.

I think it's a bit weird tbh. Can't imagine my FIL trying something like that.

Has he aimed for your mouth before!?

DHs unpleasant grandfather did this to me around the time we were married . Sure it wasnt an "accident".

Fanella, my FIL always goes for the lips too. I try to avoid by doing an exaggerated lurch to one side to give an air kiss, but it's not always possible. Quite revolting. He also sometimes touches my hand at the dinner table. My DH finds it hilariously funny. Which is not helpful.

LeQueen and !

How utterly vile all these stories are.

Come on women, show 'em your balls and tell them to sod off.

Loudly and embarassingly.

I hate these sorts of greetings kisses. Not because I object to being kissed, am happy for a peck just about anywhere on my face (not keen on the idea of gropes!), I am just never sure of the appropriate etiquette. Is this an air kisser, do we do cheek kissing, how many times each side, which side first, should kiss be accompanied by a hug?

When I see people I have affection for, I like to give them one proper 'lips on cheek' kiss and a friendly hug but get v stressed when we bump noses and glasses because they do 'three-way air kiss'!

My FIL and BILs always grab me and give 2 enthusiastic kisses then a big cuddle - they know I hate it and am just not a cuddly person but they still do it.

They chortle as they stride towards me saying 'now for the bit you hate, hahaha'. I hate it so much I am actually put off seeing them because of it which is a shame as otherwise they are nice if not terribly sensitive people.

Fucking huggers.

LeQueen - marvellous, thanks for that image

LadyoftheManor - I think he may have, but I always offer a cheek, perhaps that's why he grabbed my head. With both hands God, why would he do that? I'm clearly not a very touchy feely person.

NimpyWindowmash - that's probably how my DH would be...do I risk it and tell him? I might never hear the end of it.. on the other hand he might be defensive of his old Dad and it could make things difficult.

Bigtillymint - I'd be worried I'd look like a mad woman if I did that!

SanilWhaleTail - "Fucking huggers"