to think that if a man gives you his number

[garageflower]

and asks him to text you to arrange a date, as he's liked you for the last two years and now you're finally single....he should reply to the text you send.

I wasn't even that bothered before.

yes but this is a man and they are simply odd

Yes, they are bloody weird. I have reached that conclusion after --much- a suitable amount of research

maybe he's taking his time formulating a reply that will make him seem debonair and swanky?

What's frustrating is that I only sent a friendly message to say have a good holiday etc and happy new year.

Possibly complicated perhaps in that I'm good friends with his older brother (which is how I know him) but I also know that aforementioned man is not a bastard or a player and I would have thought he would at least be polite to me, bearing in mind we will cross paths from time to time.

It's just so weird. He contacted me, for God's sake!

They are odd though. Unfathomable really. I think we just have to accept that before they drive us mad.

You shouldn't have taken his number, but let him call you if he wants a date.

Ignore him now and try to stop thinking about it.

He might have been so pleased you sent him a message that he became so giddy and happy and while he was skipping across the road with a dreamy look on his face he didnt notice the bus and got knocked down
Have you phoned round the hospitals?

If you only wished him a happy holiday the poor bugger probably thinks that you aren't interested in dating him and are only being polite!

G'wan, send him another text and ask him if he's free on Saturday night. :)

Maybe he didn't get your text?

He might be psyching himself up to texting you back cos he's so gobsmacked that you agreed, you being the most amazing woman he's ever met, like.

Unfathomable they sure are. I hate scenarios that can't be logically explained.

Oh well.

Damn him being so good looking though

Oh crap, I have to see him at his brother's 30th next month. Friendly, yet restrained and dignified I will be.

When did you send him the text?

Its in 'The Rules'

Never take a man's number - give yours out (if you want to) then he can do the chasing.

Also never make yourself available for a saturday date after wednesday (as it's too short notice - you've other plans (apparently)).

YANBU for what its worth men are an odd species

Valhalla's got a good point. He might have thought you were just round robining him. Could you get someone discrete to drop a hint that it would be a good idea for him to call you?

No, I think I need to take the hint. This all happened on Facebook chat so I messaged him on Facebook a few days after.

Didn't hear anything so thought, one last go on New Year's Day. Still nothing.

So, I'm not going to contact again - I just wish I didn't have to see him next blardy month!

I am liking the idea your explanation, TheVisitor, that is clearly the correct one.

Either he didn't get it.

Or he's "playing it cool". I'd call him then you know for sure.

Ok, don't have the text I sent but I sent this on Facebook on 29th Dec. A few days after our chat but he is my mate's little brother, so I was a little cautious. My mate doesn't know there has been contact as of yet:

*Hiya XX - how's it going? Hope you've had a great Christmas!

Was going to send you a text to say 'hi' but am at work, so at least this way, it looks like I'm actually doing something.....

What are you doing for the dreaded New Year's Eve? Apart from getting really excited about going xxxxx of course?

xx*

Surely if he likes me as much as he says, he would have acknowledged it.

Yes, when did you text? Is this the reverse of all those threads where posters have to be physically restrained from texting someone until two days after they receive a text/go on a date?

mmmm interesting. has he definitly been on FB since the message? A lot of people have accts then barely use them

Text was sent on New Year's Day, in the afternoon. I sent it then as I knew he was going on holiday the day after that.

I don't think I seemed too casual, or too keen but I was definitely friendly and made sure to ask questions. Therefore, I can only presume he has changed his mind, but would rather say nothing than engage. Which is finem, albeit immature but then he is younger than me.

But would be a lot less awkward at his brother's party next month if he would acknowledge me!

Yes, he's been on FB since that message. He's made a few updates from his hols. He's been on chat when I've been on it.

So weird and what is weirdest is that he is a lovely guy and knows I'm nice too (as in one of his bro's oldest mates), so I know I haven't offended him and I'm not a complete stranger who he'll never bump into again.

You should only have messaged him once, if at all.

Now he thinks you are gagging for him, and he's gone off the prize, so to speak.

Next time, let the guy do some running.

BOF, maybe you're right. I just didn't want to be regretting not having sent the text and I probably wouldn't have even sent the text he not been going away.

Oh well, I suppose I can't be arsed with the messing around that some men require and I just really wanted a logical explanation.

So annoying that I look like the chaser, he couldn't have been any more flirty.

Thanks for all input so far folks

Yes, am resigned to the truth. But am now dreading his brother's party, as I feel a bit silly. Even though I haven't been silly.

Oh god, now I'm going to have to look fabulous which is going to be impossible.