To dry my hair while my DH sleeps?

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I get up before him in the mornings, and like to wash, dry and straighten my hair before I go to work. Obviously the hair dryer is noisy and wakes him - causing some grunts, sometimes moans, and always an attempt to smother himself with a pillow. I have nowhere else I can dry my hair other than our bedroom. Should I leave him sleeping and go to work with wet hair, or wake him up with the racket?

Mixed views on this. Was going to say YABU intil I saw the times, then I was going to say YANBU he is a lazy fecker, but then you say he is up until 2am. Shift work or TV watching? My DH often stays up late watching the TV and if I have to leave early to catch a train I would do my hair the night before and get dressed in the spare room. At 8am I would feel perfectly justified in hoovering the bedroom!

I'm so happy to see all the YABU responses . Makes me feel slightly better about being in a foul, foul mood with DH this morning. He works away and normally leaves on Sunday evening. He decided to stay last night and leave ridiculously early this am. Only when his alarm went off at 3am it transpired that he hadn't packed a thing and he spent an hour having a shower, in and out of our room, in and out of drawers, lights on and off. I am 36 wks pregnant and not sleeping well anyway; have now been completely awake since 3.30am and could merrily throttle him if I had the energy.

lol my DH often works late, can finish anywhere between 6pm and midnight...then watches TV until he is tired, which im perfectly happy with...normally we will go to bed together around 1am.

I will give him the choice of me drying my hair in bedroom or getting a mirror in the dining room.

Will miss my bedroom setup where I have mirrors on 2 cupboard doors, so I can see the back and front of my hair at the same time

Oh yes... I like to have a lie in on the weekends, and he normally wakes me... so im not totally mean

yes yabu.

actually not sure why the solution wasn't obvious to you before posting. surely if what you do in teh bedroom wakes him, you move to another room. lack of mirror isn't an obstacle, it is an excuse. you just buy a new one.

I wouldn't dry my hair in the same room as someone sleeping. Portable mirrors are very cheap. Buy one and dry your hair downstairs.

Yeah I guess ILove....but everything is sorted how it is now, and I normally do my hair in my underwear to avoid getting hair on my clothes, which I cant do if doing it in the dining room etc so now have to change my whole morning routine! Plus the bedroom is normally warm, and the dining room freezing as has double patio doors and another undoored cold room going off it, without double glazing...brrrr!

But I will make the sacrifice for my DHs sleep!

tbh i wouldn't even entertain him dictating taht tehre were to be no mirrors downstairs, especially if he is teh one yapping.

you have no kids yet sure you don't OP

Is there any weirdy specific reason your DH doesn't want mirrors downstairs?

We don't have any either, but that's because the bigger ones are so bloody expensive.

I thought that too bluddy, but I was far too polite to ask

You can do it somewhere else. Get a mirror - you can put on a table. They sell them in shops, I believe.

He gets up between 9.00 and 9.30 and works at home?!!

YANBU at all but he is.

He should be up making you coffee and breafast.

why should he korma? he doesn't have to clock in and i presume no dcs to care for. why should he work to a 9-5 schedule when he doesn't need to? surely one of the benefits of working from home is that you get to set your own timetable.

Bluddymofo Thanks for the 'bluddy' tea I just splattered all over my screen!!

She's not her DHs mother korma, I'm sure he's perfectly able to choose what time he goes to bed and gets up.

Why do some people feel the need to get others out of bed in the morning?

I get up before my DH at the weekend, I couldn't care less what time he gets up, he's a big lad now and can read the clock and everything.

Korma... I like you!! You seem to think like me

I dont know why he doesnt like mirrors downstairs, never asked really. Nah he aint ugly!

And have SK's - but they are teenagers so not sure how they are relevant

"He gets up between 9.00 and 9.30 and works at home?!!

YANBU at all but he is.

He should be up making you coffee and breafast."

beenbeta would you say the same of a woman who worked from home? should she be getting up to make her husband's breakfast even though she doesn't need to and he is a dully capable adult?

"8am there is no reason he shouldn't be up"

So if someone brings in enough money that their partner is happy with their contribution, and has organised a working day which doesn't fit the 9-5 template, they should just get up anyway?

Just to be extra good little worker bees?

Whatever happened to mutual love and respect? I love letting my DH have a lie in when we can organise it, just as i appreciate when he arranges things so that i can too. our work week is staggered so that is 2 days where i am up before DH, he is up 2 days before me - why would i want to wake him up before it's needed? Spite?

Think of it the other way, if you went to be "early", say 10pm. Then hubby came upstairs at 10:30 and started showering, drying hair, generally making a noise, turning lights on etc. would you feel that was OK? Or would you expect him to perform these nightly routines elsewhere?

Obviously a one off is a different matter, but on a regular basis...

And i like the idea of him being up making me coffee and breakfast, but thats never gonna happen! Its me making him the brew every morning.