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I think my boss is actually....

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bupcakesandcunting · 06/01/2011 22:27

I texted my boss this afternoon to give her a heads up that I will be calling in sick tomorrow as I have been diagnosed with gastroenteritis this morning. Explosive shits, projectile vomit and now dry heaving, the lot.

Four hours later I get a reply saying basically she wants me in as she is sick and she wants to go home when I get in! Bear in mind she had a lot of random sick hours off over Xmas and the fact that I covered her last week even though I'd started feeling ropey by then. I sent her a reply saying that unless the diarrhea stopped, I wouldn't be going out anywhere. She relied then saying she will need a doc's note?! WTF?! Oh and she threatened me with a phonecall to my area manager ( common practice for her when she can't get her own way) I am so annoyed. On top of feeling like death I am now feeling shit about work.

Have posted about her conduct before, BTW...

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pooka · 07/01/2011 09:44

Ring area manager.

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 07/01/2011 09:59

Is there anyone else who works there so you can leave a message, say it's cause you been trying to get hold of her and they might speak to her first.

monkeyflippers · 07/01/2011 10:04

I would call your area manager and make a complaint about your boss stating company policy over stomach bugs etc (as others have said) It will piss her off but better you going to the AM then her.

Also liked "I would keep the texts and tell her she is welcome to contact the area manager and you will have the texts from her as proof of her harassment when you have informed her you are ill" that someone wrote.

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 10:06

I've finally got through to her. She was v-e-r-y pissed off. Too ill to give a shit though,tbpfh.

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piprabbit · 07/01/2011 10:13

Hope you are starting to feel a tiny bit better.

Your company should also have a policy for dealing with bullying.

As you say this is not an isolated incident, I think you should look into this further. It is not acceptable in the work place.

ShirleyKnot · 07/01/2011 10:14

Such. A. Malingerer.

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 10:20

Oh you can piss off, Knot.

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altinkum · 07/01/2011 10:25

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 10:40

I think Shirley is just being her usual sarky self, bless her.

Next time I do an explosive shit, I will photograph it and post it in my profile pics, just to silence the doubters.

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nickelbabyjesus · 07/01/2011 10:57

too late, Shirley - sea's been harrassing cupcakes since the start of the thread Grin

maybe hsirley's the boss? it would just be typical of the wench to demand her sickness be more important than anyone else's.....

cupcakes - definitely talk to your area manager. your boss is being rather itchy . (oh, and completely going against any health and safety rules that have ever been laid out)

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 07/01/2011 10:57

Good for you for staying off - but do not let her get to you when you get back. She was the playground bully who has now moved onto the workplace. If any of your kids were being bullied you'd be down on it immediately - so deal with her in the same way. Caaaaaah

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:01

I need to admit to something of which I'm not proud... Bear in mind I slept for 3 hours last night and my stomach is spasming like nobody's business...

She text me at 7am this morning to see if I was up to going in. I lost it a bit and text her back saying "I will not be in. I have not chosen to be ill. I would much rather be doing my one day at work and getting paid than shitting my insides out and dry heaving every ten minutes. Will call at 9 to officially notify you of absence."

oops. Blush

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nickelbabyjesus · 07/01/2011 11:06
Grin

fool! Grin

at least you didn't insult her personally.
she can't hold that against you.

JosieRosie · 07/01/2011 11:07

Good for you bupcakes. She needs putting in her place. Hope you feel better, D&V is hell on earth x

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 07/01/2011 11:10

She texted you at 7am????? This woman is a bully, and needs stopped. How awful for you having to work with someone like this Sad

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:11

I really did feel genuinely provoked into doing it, tbh. How dare she invade my sick time like this?

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:13

If I say something now, it will sound genuinely mad after all I've said about her. But, a lot of the time she is genuinely nice. She bought DS and I nice xmas pressies, she's laidback at work and you can have a laugh with her and lets all kind of things slide IYSWIM? She's just very, very unsympathetic when someone is sick. She's a hypochondriac. I have a story to trump all stories if anyone is interested?

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:14

She text me going "hi bupcakes jst wonderin hw u r feeling 2day as i am not well at all n want 2 go home when u get in if ur coming in"

Grrrrrrrrrr.

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:15

Actually, my reply probably sound quite acid in retaliation to what she wrote which was inoffensive. However had I simply said "i'm still ill, sorry" it wouldn't have stopped there so was nipping a volley of texts in the bud by being curt, IYSWIM?

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Maisiethemorningsidecat · 07/01/2011 11:19

Ah, OK - her text was pretty innocuous really....I take my hat off to you, you certainly preempted any further texts from her!

GooseFatRoasties · 07/01/2011 11:21

Nasty sounding boss. OP you have my sympathy.

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:25

The best one happened when I was 8 months preggers with DS. I got on the bus to work one morning and it dawned on me that I hadn't felt baby kick for three days. I don't know why it took so long for me to realise but was very sleepless/ill with SPD by that point. I called my MW in tears and she told me to go to the maternity unit immediately. My bus was almost at work so I walked in to let my boss know what was happenning. By this time I was in floods of tears and a boss from another department wanted to drive me to hospital. My boss said that I couldn't go because she had a cough and wanted to go home! At this point, I was still her deputy manager so I told her to get a life and went. This is her finest hour yet.

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monkeyflippers · 07/01/2011 11:32

That is disgusting! She said you coulnd't go to the hospital when you were concerned about your babys life! She needs reporting!

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 11:35

I took no notice of her and went. It was the talk of the workplace for a week afterwards. Everyone was disgusted with her.

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