to ask people playing music from their phones without headphones in public spaces to turn them off?

[Stangirl]

This happened to me this week sat waiting in a hospital for my 12 week scan. The person next to me was playing music off their phone so everyone could hear it. I thought it was extremely rude but didn't say anything as I was anxious about my upcoming scan and thought the conversation might take a turn for the worse. I've had this several times recently - particularly on buses. Am I BU to ask them to turn it off, or put headphones on?

YANBU at all. So relieved MN generaly is a bastion of considerate people! I find being very friendly and polite when asking people to rectify anti-social public behaviour, as well as implying they are probably doing it inadvertently and wouldn't normally dream of annoying others, is pretty effective. "Excuse me, you probably didn't realise but your music is a little bit too loud and everyone else can hear it" or "Excuse me I think you accidentally dropped your crisp packet on the floor" - however I am a secondary teacher used to speaking to young people who seem scary to others, so maybe I do it as a kind of professional reflex...
Like the idea of "Mozart right back at ya!" though...

YANBU.

There's a word for it- it's called 'sodcasting' Here's the definition from the urban dictionary.

" Verb - The act of playing music through the speaker on a mobile phone, usually on public transport. Commonly practiced by young people wearing polyester, branded sportswear with dubious musical taste.
Delia was exposed to hip hop for the first time last Wednesday, when, on the 75 bus to Catford, a youth was sodcasting from the back seat."

My God. I would definitely ask for them to turn it off.
Even music played loudly through crappy earphones is too much and I do ask for it to be turned down.
I've had some lovely teen responses and some blank refusals but I'd never consider it to be a dangerous thing to do....

YANBU - but then if it were up to me, I wouldn't even allow ringtones on the bus.

[old git emotion]

Sodcasting! Brilliant!

YANBU

I was on a bus with my friend a few weeks ago when a girl sat near us playing loud music from her phone. Friend and I exchanged looks and rolled eyes, a few seconds later my friend realised it was a song she knew and started singing along at the top of her voice. The girl plugged her earphones in and moved to the front of the bus

Some buss here have signs saying headphones must be worn. Enforcing that, of course, is much harder - the drivers are too busy to do much unless it's a serious incident.

I was on a packed bus & had to take the only seat left upstairs. It was mostly full of kids, and no less than 4 phones were playing different kinds of music while they all screeched at each other. It was 45 minutes of sheer hell. How was that fair? (I have asked people to turn it off loads of times, but didn't in this case as I felt outnumbered & intimidated.) It's at times like this that I wish we had a car!

BTW, i have an iPod that I use on public transport, but I also use a good pair of bud earphones so no one can hear anything, even if I turn it up.

Its unreasonable to play your music without headphones. (why not wear headphones!)and yes, I'm going to say it. Really chavvy. Does anyone over 14 do this really?

xfirsttimemummyx- she was in a hospital?? That's a public space but it doesn't mean you can do whatever the fuck you like.

Err, buses not buss!

Ps - forgot to say I would have gone up to the person in the hospital and told them to do one. I have my 20 week scan in a week and a half, so far our hospital has been very busy at times, but nothing like that.

Urgh. It does my head in and im not old.
It's all part of the "look at me" generation. The people that play their music without headphones also have over 500 "friends" on facebook. Fact.

Playing music out loud in public is, IMO, one of the rudest things ever.

I don't care if I'm being judgey but if I see and hear someone doing this, I will assume:

They are thick

They are rude

They are uneducated and undignified

They are inconsiderate

Basic manners will tell you that it's not ok to play loud music on pubic transport or in a public waiting room. Really pisses me off - esp when I'm trying to read my book!

I also find it disconcertingly narcissistic. I expect it of twattish teenagers because they think it makes them appear cool (it doesn't) and they really do think 'It's all about me', but for grown adults it's embarrassingly crass, selfish, and frankly, slightly weird.

xfirsttimemummyx are you persuaded that you are at all wrong yet?

'Really pisses me off - esp when I'm trying to read my book!'

I once heard a story Maylee about somebody confronting an oafish teenager on a bus, who was blaring music out of his phone. His response was 'oi piss off man, I ain't tellin' you to stop readin' yo' book, innit' or words to that effect. Clearly a smart cookie as well as anti-social

YANBU. Most people do not want to listen to someone else's choice of music.

I have a fear of being trapped so I get really anxious on public transport and I've had to get off the bus a few times because people were playing music and I felt a panic attack coming on - it is actually psychological torture for me if I'm already anxious because the bus is stuck in traffic. Once I was sitting on the seat in front of the first higher one at the back, traffic was really bad so I was getting really anxious and the girl behind me was quickly flicking through the pages at the corner of her book right in my ear. I'm too scared to ask groups to turn their music off but she was on her own and I figured she probably didn't realise she was doing doing it so I didn't feel too intimidated and asked her nicely to stop because it was really annoying. She said something like "sorry, I need to do this when I'm thinking" which I thought meant she would stop but she kept doing it. I very nearly had a full on panic attack because not only was the bus stuck in traffic miles from the next stop but I also had to battle to keep myself calm because I was very worried that I would snap and try and beat her to death with the book. I'm actually getting really shaky just thinking about it.

In the OP's situation I probably would have had a panic attack or come close to it - I'm really not good in waiting rooms because you don't know how long you'll have to wait. If it's going to be an hour and I know it will be an hour then I'm not too bad but if I think it could be any minute and it goes on for an hour then I start to lose it a bit. The combination of a busy waiting room, not knowing how long the wait would be, an appointment I was nervous about anyway and someone being a complete inconsiderate cunt would have been far too much for me.

Before you all say it - I am on the waiting list for some therapy for it.

Why don't you just get a mobile phone jammer? Kills the signal and conversation/ racket in about 2 minutes. Couldn't cope without mine.

There are some cities where it is prohibited to talk loud on the phone or listen to music without headphones and I like this!
But I also have this with people wearing way too much perfume!

Why don't you just get a mobile phone jammer? Kills the signal and conversation/ racket in about 2 minutes. Couldn't cope without mine

She probably did. 7 years ago. When she first posted.

The kind of people that don't have any manners and would listen to music without headphones are the type of people that would probably kick off if you asked them to turn their music off or put headphones on. Same as the type of people that put their feet on the seats on the back of buses.