To think it's not remotely weird to have a shower at a next door neighbour's house in an emargency?

[Catnao]

Our boiler packed up last week (fixed again and I am disproportioantely delighted), and as a result, we have had no heating or hot water.
So - we have been relying on little electric heaters, and having showers at our next door neighbour's house. We are friends with her next doors - I go to a gym class with her once a week, and we often have a glass of wine and a gossip round each other's houses. and supply one another with run out things, eg calpol and washing powder, (and wine ).
Anyway, I was telling a friend of mine about how the boiler has been fixed and mentioned the showers -round -neighbour's situation, and she was horrified! Said she would never ask to have a shower at someone else's house, and would say "no" if someone asked her, and think it was really weird.

Is it weird? I thought it was a perfectly normal favour to ask in the circs!

OMG I am laughing so hard at this thread esp the " as long as you know the neighbour" and the perv comment

I think my partner might LIKE to have had the neighbour offer to wash his back, mind...

It sounds fair enough to me; I don't know my neighbours well, but if they asked I would agree .

Perfectly normal.

As long as you either know the neighbour or there is a lock on the bathroom door!

How depressing that neighbours might NOT be the people to offer such help. We're obviously v lucky with ours, which we knew. And I'm godmother to a child/grandchild of the family who I grew up across the road with. Always swapping cups of sugar we were!

I think your friend is weird about bathrooms.

You should let her know that she is not normal.

Maybe my friend should do some sort of aversion therapy and force herself to shower at as many people's houses as possible - whether she knows them or not?

Oh god I had to crap at my neighbour's house while our drains were being fixed. It took three days!

Glad she wasn't like your friend - or is pooing okay?

it took you 3 days to do a crap tallwivglasses

Lol at the 3 day crap

You are friends so of course it is fine!

It would be weird if I knocked on my neighbours door who I don't really know and said "Hi It's Tragic from up stairs, you wouldn't be so kind as to let me have a shower please?"

Cue

Oooooh I think its weird!!

but i'm not neighbourly at all!

tallwivglasses

Very normal. Our neighbours currently have no kitchen and are currently letting themselves in to do their washing (we both have each other's keys - actually we live on a cul de sac of 8 houses and more or less everyone has everyone else's keys) and heat up random stews etc in our oven. Fine with us!

Now you say it, I do avoid showering at other people's houses most of the time. Not sure why.

But, I definitely would if our hot water packed up, and have no problems with other people using ours if they are round.

its normal!

No I mean...oh never mind

Was going to recommend plenty of prune juice tallwivglasses

YANBU except I am far to straightlaced and would rather struggle with strip washes boiling a kettle of water into the bathroom sink, than ask to use a neighbour's shower (even one I knew well). I hate to impose in any way or feel I owed somebody something. I would probably ask a friend if one lived nearby though.

It's perfectly normal, if you know and get on with your neighbour. When our boiler packed up, we worked our way around the close using neighbours' hot water and heaters!

And I'd happily return the favour (especially to the hot guy down the end of the close!)

Utterly normal, when our neighbours were having their bathroom fitted they used our shower

its cool - and it would turn me on a bit if they were a couple

Simmylou - I think you are my friend! She said the strip wash and kettle thing! Nope - I had a lovely hot power shower next door! Hurray!

We are a couple and a child - but we all showered separately and did not wander round nekkid afterwards!

Perfectly normal - we had neighbours do this for a few days a couple of months ago - didn't think anything of it and was happy to help. Might be us in need sometime!

Have used friend's washing machine in the past when ours was broken - they offered, cos I was too shy to ask, but I would now, and would hate to think friends/neighbours were struggling with everday stuff when we could help.

I think its lovely that most people think its normal - you see we ARE al lovely neighbourly friendly people, whatever the media might like to portray!