literally a few weeks ago my friend announced she was getting married the week after Christmas. Was oviously very happy for her (but was secretly also thinking oh S* thats going to be expensive right after christmas!)She initally said we would be welcome to bring along our dd and said several times it 'was up to us'.
We decided however to ask my Mum to have dd to give us a well deserved day together(due to dh job its been months since we've had any 'us' time) and she agreed.
Morning of wedding my Mum rings in tears saying she is really ill with flu, she was worried about it being swine flu etc and sorry but she couldnt have dd. Obviously was v short notice but these things happen and she is so good normally and never lets us down.
Text my friend (which I felt awful about on her wedding morning but didnt want to just show up with dd) and wanted to let her know situation: Said we'd have to bring dd along was that ok? and we simply got a 'no, sorry no children at wedding' x.
Was a bit ??? Replied that obviously we have no one else to have dd at such short notice (we truly didnt) and if that was the case i'd have to come alone and was told 'fine we'll contact the reserve list' .
To cut a long story short, went to wedding alone, sat alone as didnt know many of the other guests, and to add insult to injury there were several children including a baby. Felt pretty miserable and even had a little cry in the loos 
Went home just after first dance and havent heard from friend since, not even a thankyou for the present we gave.
As a mum I was gutted that my litle one was so obviously left out. I cant think its because she thinks my dd would play up as we've all been to weddings together before...some of my Mummy friends think I shouldnt have gone after she refused to have my dd there. What do you all think?
AIBU?
to be feeling a bit let down by my friend?
dipitydoyou · 03/01/2011 19:24
She may have meant that no other children could be catered for...as in no extra childs meal could be produced as if by magic.
You reply sounded a bit threatening tbh....if i can't bring my DD then i can't come....
yep...that's exactly what i would want to hear whilst getting ready for the biggest day of my life! {sarcastic}
Am I the only person who was really chilled on the morning of her wedding? Fat cooked brekkie with family and anyone else around at hotel followed by long bath and hairdresser. Then an hour or so of wandering with friends,greeting people staying at hotel, drinking champagne, sneaking the odd sneaky cigarette found the back (those were the days), telling florist where to put stuff before back up to suite to put make up and dress on with more champagne before leaving to get to church at 12 noon. Awesome morning! I'd have had more than enough time to reply to texts fully (even call a good friend back 
) and sort out last minute issues with no stress. In fact I had to sort a last minute guest after the ceremony en route to hotel but that is another story.
Is that so unusual? I hear tales of stress stress stress, rush rush rush and wonder what I had forgotten?
OP - YANBU, your friend sounds like a complete pita.
Ninky - your not alone. My Dad collapsed and was rushed to hospital in July. We were on our way to the church for my friends wedding when brother called and we rushed to the hospital. Not only did my friend phone me after the service to see how my Dad was but she popped round with flowers the next day 
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