Had my first appointment with a new consultant gynaecologist yesterday and still feeling tearful and like my skin is crawling.
Basically, for health reasons I've not had sex for a few months (which isn't unusual and myself and my very lovely understanding DP manage this pretty well interms of maintaining a close relationship), but when this came up in appointment Dr starts going on about how if I don't ''take his energy'' (i clarified - he means have sex) my DP's going to leave me and I should be making more of an effort to ''pretent there is no pain and you are enjoying it and this will make him happy'' !!!
Then told me during an internal exam that he wants to make me feel glamorous and confident again!!! OMFG I know I'm not looking my best right now but worst timing ever!!! I normally grit my teeth until these things are over but this time I cried so much he started me on anti-depressents, which my GP threw in the bin and replaced with an epic bar of chocolate (bless him)! TBH i felt ridiculous because physically it was no different from any other.
This is the first male gynae (of many) i've seen, and i genuinely think there was no real malice and he was trying to put me at ease but just doesn't have a clue about how to talk to women.
Usually i'd ask to see someone else but he can do an operation in the next month that i waited two years for with my last hospital. And i really need ASAP.
AIBU to think this guy is a total creep or is this just how male gynaes try to talk to us and I should stop putting it off and lay back and think of England?
Ps. My DP thinks that Dr ''isn't getting any'' and wants to thump him.