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it's my birthday tomorrow and I HATE it.....

58 replies

NannymcDeb · 31/12/2010 13:30

Really, really hate it!!
Does anyone else have a crappy special day their birthday falls on?
I have hated New years day forever, when i was younger it was because EVERYWHERE was closed, then as a teen/young adult it was because everyone had a hangover and basically forgot!!
I've tried to be like the Queen and have one in the summer too, but it didn't really work Wink

Now I think I hate it because so much is expected of me, "oooooh it's your birthday on new years day!! How fab!"

Humph.
AIBU? Or am I just a big sulky dumpling?!

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onadifferentplanettoday · 31/12/2010 13:38

Mine is on 27th December, as a child no one could come to parties as they had visitors and as I got older people were always too tired or hungover from Xmas to want to do anything. There's rarely a post delivery on the 27th so nothing exciting in the post either. Know exactly how you feel.

fluffygal · 31/12/2010 13:40

My daughters birthday is NYD too, she's going to be 4! I am sure when she is older she will be a big sulky dumpling too!

bloomingnora · 31/12/2010 13:40

Happy birthday for tomorrow! My cousin's birthday is also tomorrow. She hate's ot too. DS2's birthday is on Sunday. Not quite as bad....

HarlotOTara · 31/12/2010 13:41

Nanny it is mine too and totally agree although most people forget about mine as hungover or fed up with celebrating. We can sulk together!!

bloomingnora · 31/12/2010 13:41

And DD's is 27th december but currently she likes that because everyone seems to make more effort. She hates having her party early/late though - if we don't none of her school friends are around.

stillbobbysgirl · 31/12/2010 13:44

Happy Birthday for tomorrow - it is indeed a rubbish day to have a birthday. Why don't you throw your own daytime party/brunch type thing? Make it clear to everyone that its your birthday party aswell as a NY Day party.

You could make more effort with the Queen birthday idea and just pick a date you like and tell everyone that that is the day.

We stopped going out for our wedding anniversary a few years ago, it is on the 29th Dec and everywhere is empty and boring.

thefurryone · 31/12/2010 13:46

Poor you, definitely not BU.

I can only imagine how annoying it is, does everyone say they can't come out later in the week because they're now trying not to drink/ do anything fun in January too?

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Smile

Vallhala · 31/12/2010 13:46

It's my ex "D"H's birthday tomorrow and I hate him... does that count? :o

purplefeet · 31/12/2010 13:48

Really hope you do have a nice birthday and get some lovely gifts and are spoilt. I do see what you mean about it being a rubbish day to have a birthday though.

My birthday is in the middle of June, which should be the best time, however when I was young every year we'd go out for a family meal and were told in no uncertain terms that this meal was for Purple's birthday AND FOR FATHER'S DAY. Always had to share a cake too.

TheFallenMadonna · 31/12/2010 13:54

Mine was yesterday. It is what it is. I would have liked to have gone away for the night with DH, but of course it's all News Years Eve mallarkey. You have to manage your expectations I think. I had a lovely day (have thought about starting a 'DHs can do fab things' thread, but worried about accusations of boasting Sad). Were my birthday in April say, I dare say I would have celebrated differently, but Dec 30th is the day I was born, and that is worth celebrating for sure Grin

tethersend · 31/12/2010 13:59

DPs is boxing day- the shittest for sure. Everything is shut, even pubs. No trains, everyone forgets and is away.

Does he win £5?

biggirlsdontcry · 31/12/2010 13:59

Its my daughters birthday today , she's 5 and loves having her birthday on NYE so far Smile

Happy Birthday for tomorrow op .

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NannymcDeb · 31/12/2010 14:04

Thanks all for your kind words....Thought i'd get flamed for being sulky and ungrateful!
My hubby and kids are great on my birthday, they really go all out to make me feel special,but when hubby and i first got together he didn't bother with my birthday, and i cried!! (pathetic) So he knows now to go the extra mile!
Doesnt help that my mother bangs on about how awful her new years day was 41 years ago as i was breech and the birth was horrendous (all MY fault, of course) but me and my mother have issues anyway Wink

To those of you with birthdays around now, I salute you and wish you the very best.
Happy new year everyone x

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JaceyBee · 31/12/2010 14:05

Mine is on 3rd January so this year will be the monday bank holiday before we all go back to work.

I totally get how you feel, I rarely bother to do anything much as everyone is skint/exhausted/detoxing/back at work. Sucks.

The one saving grace is that it's my good friend's birthday on that day too, so we always get pissed together at least!

stleger · 31/12/2010 14:09

Happy Birthday - my ds is 19 today and doesn't like it! My dd2's birthday is 22 December. Ds was due on 25th, dd2 on 8th! Dd1 is in August, much better, according to her.

Lynli · 31/12/2010 14:13

I would love my birthday on new years day, it is so nice and neat the start of another year in both senses.

madangelhaironchristmasday · 31/12/2010 14:26

My birthday is today, so I feel your pain, although NYE possibly better than NYD for a birthday in terms of party day. The worst thing growing up were the joint presents and my brothers all having birthdays in the summer. But it's not so bad. Happy bday for tomorrow anyway. :)

mollymole · 31/12/2010 14:29

mine is 24th december and my DS is 1st january !! - when i was a little kid my parents always made sure i had a gift on my birthday so i didn't really know any different from kids who had a more 'convenient'birthday - when my DS was little he thought the whole new years day thing was celebrating his birthday !!!!! we always made a big thing out of his special day and still do something special on his birthday day

PlanetEarth · 31/12/2010 14:49

It's my DD's birthday tomorrow. She rather likes it - a special day, and always a holiday. It's rubbish if we've bought her something faulty that needs taking back though lol (has happened a couple of times).

brimfull · 31/12/2010 14:55

tis my dd's birthday today , she's 19 and enjoys the fact there's always a party on her birthdya.

I had the choice of being induced on NYE or NYD and chose eve cos of hangovers Blush

yanbu nyd is crap day for birthdya

InMyPrime · 31/12/2010 15:05

I can sympathise, NannyMcDeb, because it's my DH's birthday on December 29th and he was a breech birth too, apparently a bit of a nightmare delivery - and a month premature so it shouldn't even be at Christmas anyway...he hates his birthday too Grin. He was complaining again this year about how when he was a kid there were always a few leftover presents under the tree in Christmas wrapping paper and no-one could ever be bothered to celebrate it properly because they'd just recovered from Christmas and were gearing up for New Year's Eve. I tried to cheer him up by suggesting we move his birthday to January 29th which is when he should have been born but he said that would just be weird.

It is a hard time of the year though because everyone's away and everything's closed and even booking holidays away is difficult because Christmas is a bad time of the year to travel unless you have to. I'm at my wits' end thinking up ways to distract DH from the awfulness of his Christmassy birthday! I've pretty much run out of ideas now after my 'move it to January 29th' brainwave...

panettoinydog · 31/12/2010 15:07

You need to flip over your attitude and make it more positive.

  1. Your birthday is always a holiday. Your family should make you a triffic breakfast in bed.
  2. You could have interestingly-themed little parties. Hair-of-the-Dog or New Year Sparkle or Baked-Potatoes-and-Leftovers or Fresh-Start-Temple-Food
  3. If you don't want a party there are in fact some pretty good places open on NYD. I always used to go to the cinema before kids. Great. Sometimes deserted but you're all cosy in teh dark watching a good film. There's a great beach not too far from me and a cafe at the end which is always open serving good coffee and strudel and cakes on NYD.

It is what you make it, my friend

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 31/12/2010 15:30

It was dds yesterday, every bloody year every bugger forgets and every year her Aunt (my sister) gives her last minute, thoughtless shit then gets stroppy when she dosen't look happy with it

This year she got a watch (suitable for a 5 year old and too small. She's 12 and has sn, can't even tell the bloody time even if it did fit)

Pyjamas, two sizes too small

A shower cap (dd has Autism and won't have anything on her head)

Some space dust (the best pressie)

They then spent an hour moaning because they'd forgotten it was dds birthday and had arranged to go to their friends, they REALLY wanted to go because they have a hot tub Xmas Hmm

They THEN phoned up to apologise for being late in front of dd Xmas Angry

Every year I say, if you must get anything, please just put a fiver in a card or don't bother, sis won't as no thought goes into that (obviously lots of thought in unsuitable tat then)

The poor kid only gets a tea party as it is and spent all day in her room yesterday upset because she thought everybody had forgot as usual Xmas Sad

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 31/12/2010 15:34

AND, AND THEY ALWAYS WRAP HER PRESENTS IN CHRISTMAS PAPER Xmas Angry Xmas AngryXmas AngryXmas AngryXmas Angry

Ave had enough, i'm booking her a lazerzone party for March, don't care if the younger members of the family can't go, and next year we're going away for christmas!

HannahHack · 31/12/2010 15:40

Its my birthday on Sunday and this year I have decided it is just me and DP. After years of excuses from people who just can't be arsed I have just said sod it and I am under the impression DP has organised a lot of surprises/things he knows I want to do.
Both my grandfathers had bdays on the 1st and hated it, one died years ago but the other one only died a couple of weeks ago and used to empathise with me loads on this point! Sad.
So this year, I am just having fun and have loved not hearing all the, sorry I will still be in the outer hebrides/skiing excuses!