it's my birthday tomorrow and I HATE it.....

[NannymcDeb]

Really, really hate it!!
Does anyone else have a crappy special day their birthday falls on?
I have hated New years day forever, when i was younger it was because EVERYWHERE was closed, then as a teen/young adult it was because everyone had a hangover and basically forgot!!
I've tried to be like the Queen and have one in the summer too, but it didn't really work

Now I think I hate it because so much is expected of me, "oooooh it's your birthday on new years day!! How fab!"

Humph.
AIBU? Or am I just a big sulky dumpling?!

It must be a shit time of year for a birthday. Everyone is skint after christmas, your presents will always be bought out of the January sales......

My birthday is at the end of January and I don't even celebrate it anymore The dcs don't even know when it is. The only one who bothers is MIL and I've told dh to tell her I don't bother. Her card never goes up 'cos the dcs would then make a fuss and I just can't be arsed.

I just go so fed up with people being miserable in January and actively begrudging me my birthday because they were so cold/wet/miserable/skint etc. People don't want to buy presents after Christmas because they can't be bothered.

Mine is on a normal day and it's still crap...that's because I am now an adult and dont need, want or get loads of presents or a big cake. Time to move on OP.

DD's birthday is 30 Dec and has been fine so far but she's only 3. My Mum is 4 Jan and she has a close friend in Dec so they usually arrange some sort of joint lunch or something and do truly seem to enjoy it. Mine is in Nov and I usually try to arrange to go somewhere warm on holiday - works for me!

DS's birthday is new year's eve. Got a bit stroppy as he got a bit older and had to stay home and celebrate birthday with his family instead of going out with his mates.

Totally see where you are coming from, my birthday is on Valentine's Day with MIL's 2 days later and DH's the next day. When I was young and single it was crap as everyone was off having romantic meals and now it just gets lumped in with the rest of the familys' so I feel like I'm actually missing out on 2 celebrations. It's also rubbish because if we want to go out we're usually stuck with set menus - that's if we can even get a table. Apparantly my Dad was miffed when I was born as well because flowers for my Mum were twice the price!

I know as adults we probably shouldn't be so precious over something so daft in the big scheme of things but I don't think one special day just for ourselves should be too much to ask, if you are like me you probably put a lot of time and effort into other peoples' celebrations.

The only bonus for me is that the postman must think a complete stunner lives in our house because I get so many cards that day :)

My O/H's birthday is on 31st Dec, he's always hated it, at Christmas he only had to look at what his brother got that he didn't and he knew what he would be getting for his birthday, and it was always wrapped in xmas paper:(

Hi all, thanks for all the messages!
I survived it for another year, but I'm glad it's all over now.
I sympathise with anyone who has a birthday on a "special" day as you DO get overlooked, and whilst I can see that yes, as adults, we should "move on", personally as a wife and mother I feel that to be appreciated for just 1 day a year is NOT too much to ask?!

I did have a lovely day, but it IS overshadowed, but now after 41 years I guess i have to learn to live with it

Happy new year to you all, and happy birthday too, whenever it is!