To get really pissed off with the media making me feel bad for losing baby weight quickly?

[jinglebelly]

I gave birth to DC3 2 weeks ago and I am back to my pre pregnancy shape. I eat a good balanced diet, indulge in chocolate daily and don't work out, it has just happened, as it did after my other pregnancies. I am sick of the media making out that because a woman gets her pre-pregnancy shape back quickly she is somehow less of a 'real' woman, unhealthy and a bad mother

shut up and be grateful

i dont give two shits what the media say, you cant win

oh and congrats on the baby!!!

Ignore the media. Simples! :o

Well you could be on the other 'side' and feeling immense pressure to shift post=pregnancy weight to emulate celebs who manage it with apparent ease.

You can't win I think. Either you lose weight to quickly and are branded unhealthy or you don't lose weight quickly enough and are seen as having let yourself go.

Is ridiculous.

Point taken! Just feeling a bit sensitive about the subject

Too not to. Blardy keyboard.

My wallet's too small for my $50s and my diamond shoes are too tight. [/Chandler]

I've lost my pre-preg weight (and then some) but wouldn't start a thread bragging comiserating about it under the guise of AIBU.

bragging by stealth

But congrats, it's nice to get your shape back

No, I'm not bragging. It bothers me that the media (and people) can be so shitty about the whole subject

The fact is that simply being a woman means that you can do nothing right in the eyes of the media. Double that for being a mother.

Lose the baby weight fast - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Don't lose it fast enough - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Don't lose it at all - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Go out to work - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Stay at home - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Stay in a relationship that isn't working - wrong, bad and damaging to society
Be a single parent - wrong, bad and damaging to society...

I could go on.

And sadly - on and and on and on and on and on.

Why on earth is the OP perceived as bragging by stealth? FFS, I am sure there are other boards to post on if that were her intention.

Agree with HEC - tis a case of "damned if you do, damned if you don't"

Congratulations on new baby OP.

Come on - the don't-lose-it-fast-enoughs get way more of a hard time and suffer much more from sub-conscious pressure than the lose-it-quicklies.

jingle do you feel as tho those around you have been judgey? Or just feeling crap because of what's in the media?

Whether former or latter, just ignore. You are who you are. Don't let others shape your self perception. Only you can know what kind of person you are irrespective of weight or any other aspect of the self.

Your being way oversenstive.

Do you usually loose weight so quickly?
It just my sister (always fairly slim) lost all her baby weight as quickly as you did but it turned out to be a health problem.

Well I suppose it depends what your pre-pregnancy shape was doesn't it? I got back to my pre-pregnancy weight quickly but I am a size 12 so hardly compare myself to the stick thin celebrities the media are generally complaining about.

oh I don't know, 5dollar.

If you lose the weight quickly you -

are more concerned about yourself than your baby
aren't focusing on your child
are you breastfeeding? - if you are then losing weight means you are not giving your child enough nutrients. If you're not then you're harming your child and putting your weight above their feeding needs, but if you are then it's disgusting and you shouldn't be doing it, breasts are for page 3.
you're trying to make other people feel bad by losing weight
you've got some sort of eating disorder...

I think there's plenty to beat a woman up about.

There's always plenty to beat a woman up about.

Who gives a chuff what the media say? As long as you know you're healthy, why take it to heart?

I've personally never seen a woman slammed for being back in her size 8's a few weeks after giving birth. Only ever read negative things about women who dare carry some extra pounds for longer than a few months.

Honestly, I wish I had enough energy to give a flying feck what the media thought about the size of my arse 2 weeks after giving birth.

Don't agree with that 5 dollar. I spent over a year shifting post baby weight after DS1 and yet it dropped off quickly second time around. HV comments with DS1 were al centred on avoiding obesity with DS1 and yet were focused on nagging me to make sure I was eating properly with DS2. In neither case was I either obese or too thin but I was treated as though I were.

Stealth bragging.Feck off.

Well, I'm 4.5 months post-natal and am 2 dress sizes smaller than I was before I got pregnant (gotta love breastfeeding), and I haven't been made to feel bad at all. Rather, congratulated on losing the weight and looking good for it.

On the other hand, I see loads of post-natal selebs looking like they've never been pregnant, let alone 9 months pregnant. That must be way harder for women who have struggled to shift the weight through no fault of their own.

LOL at 5dollar.

And having taken ages to lose weight after ds2 and then it going quickly after dc3 - well I know when I got the most compliments

I agree with HEC :)

First pregnancy, I put on just under 2 stones in total and people around me seemed to be mildly hysterical and convinced I hadn't put on enough weight. I was back in pre-pregnancy clothes within 5 months, although took me another few months to tone up. Again mild hysteria from people around me. I am pregnant again and funnily enough I haven't put on any more weight than first time round but it looks like I have because I am carrying the baby differently. Less hysteria around me! My conclusion..... I don't give a toss what the media thinks and also importantly, don't give a toss what the people around me think about my weight gain or loss. It keeps me happy/sane!!

Is there an actual spread about you in the Daily Mail/ Heat/ Closer?

If not why let it get to you, unless you did just start this thread to let us know how lucky you are

My sympathies.

Between my supermodel figure and stunning good looks I am frequently made to feel like a second-class citizen.

It sickens me.