To get really pissed off with the media making me feel bad for losing baby weight quickly?

[jinglebelly]

I gave birth to DC3 2 weeks ago and I am back to my pre pregnancy shape. I eat a good balanced diet, indulge in chocolate daily and don't work out, it has just happened, as it did after my other pregnancies. I am sick of the media making out that because a woman gets her pre-pregnancy shape back quickly she is somehow less of a 'real' woman, unhealthy and a bad mother

I don't recall any articles slating women for losing the baby weight too quickly either. Odd that...

However, a week after I had DD I was a stone lighter than when I started...but I was a size 20 so no bragging allowed :o

really? you don't see all the snide comments about the time spent at the gym, (subtext - not with your baby, you horrible mother) and how the baby is with the nanny or whoever while the mother is out pampering herself (subtext - well, see above)

There are many subtle ways that they are kicked if you read between the lines.

example - spending hours in the gym when the baby was only days old.

I know I've read that more than once and it sure as hell didn't read like a compliment!

The media are making you feel bad for losing your pregnancy weight quickly?

Are you sure the media aren't making you feel bad for not losing your pregnancy weight quickly enough?

It is the job of the media to make you feel bad. If they made you feel good you wouldn't want to buy all the things in the adverts to make yourself feel better.

I agree with HEC. I think media stories used to commend the slebs for losing weight quickly, now there is much more of an undertone to it, that they clearly weren't spending enough time with baby etc.

To me, what the media say shouldn't have an impact on an ordinary persons (i.e non-sleb) day to day life. However, its when RL women (including on here) subtly or unsubtly imply that you must have an eating disorder or have gym bunny issues or that you can't love your baby enough if you went back to the gym that it feels more real. That's where I say that one needs to have the confidence to rise above it all.

oncwe i have this baby, literally as soon as he arrives, i will be lower than my pre-pregnancy weight./ Hg is a bugger!

Its all woman-hating nonsense. Some women naturally lose weight very quickly, some never lose it, most of us find it a bit of a slog.

There is no right or wrong. The only 'wrong' is women being made to feel shit about themselves whatever they do.

How old are you OP ?

The simplest answer to this is to stop reading "the media". It's surely only crappy celeb magazines and the DM that are filled with such rubbish in any case, so not particularly hard to avoid. Most of that stuff seems to be written with a huge amount of envy, or as a way to sell stuff, so it's not surprising that it's very negative, plus the sexism that underpins a lot of that world. If people didn't buy the magazines they would quickly fold.

Of course individuals may snipe too, but on the whole being thin is seen as a bonus, and unlikely to get the same sort of negativity as being fat. I'm thin and have got a bit of the feed you up type comments (until they actually see me eat ), but far more positive than negative comments really.

Yeah yeah. I had a washboard stomach and size ten topshop jeans 3 months after having DS.

Then, as soon as he was walking(no buggy to push up and down hills)plus the comfort eating for having no sex life.. BAM size 14, and counting.

As has been said, don't be too smug

Yep I've always lost it pretty easily straight after and then WHAM its gone back on again.... waiting to see you on the shredheads thread!

Personally think you're just showing off!

Did ' the media ' knock at your door to tell you this ? Did they call or text you their verdict ? Am puzzled. If you are an adult woman you can decide whether your size is reasonable or not.

Sorry, but slightly guffawed at the thread title.

I think you are boasting but trying to pretend you aren't.

I'm not jealous btw - I lost my baby weight really quickly after dd1 (with dd2 it was a different matter though ), but it's true what many have said above: enjoy being skinny now as the weight has a tendency to creep back on once you've stopped bfing / pushing a buggy / running around!