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To get really pissed off with the media making me feel bad for losing baby weight quickly?

64 replies

jinglebelly · 30/12/2010 14:13

I gave birth to DC3 2 weeks ago and I am back to my pre pregnancy shape. I eat a good balanced diet, indulge in chocolate daily and don't work out, it has just happened, as it did after my other pregnancies. I am sick of the media making out that because a woman gets her pre-pregnancy shape back quickly she is somehow less of a 'real' woman, unhealthy and a bad mother

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traceybath · 30/12/2010 14:49

Oh poor OP - this was never going to end well was it Smile

Bumperlicious · 30/12/2010 14:55

Really? I don't think I have ever seen an article slamming mothers for losing weight too quickly Hmm

TheVisitor · 30/12/2010 14:57

I'm still carrying my baby weight 11 years later - oh hang on, that's more likely to be wine and crap food now. :P

TheSecondComing · 30/12/2010 14:58

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theevildead2 · 30/12/2010 15:07

Sorry but I have seen loads of articles about how to get your pre preg body back, how some shit "celebrity" got their body back...

Never seen an article about women losing the weight too quickly!

Bit braggy i think

trixie123 · 30/12/2010 15:34

its not weight its the distribution. I was back in pre-preg jeans within about 3 weeks but I was about 2 stone overweight before I got pregnant so its not THAT good, also whilst my clothes size might be the same, I have a CS overhang and stretchmarks. Its the airbrushing of those kind of things that I think get people pissed off with the celebrity mummies. Emilia Fox was on Breakfast the other week about 6 weeks after she gave birth and she looked fab but had jean and a tunic top on, not skin tight dress or bikini.

independiente · 30/12/2010 15:38

The media isn't making you feel bad, you are allowing them to. Important difference. Know your own mind, be your own person.

peppapighastakenovermylife · 30/12/2010 15:41

If you feel that bad about it just eat more cake Grin

fallot · 30/12/2010 15:44

Are you worried that people may think you have an eating disorder?

KatieMiddleton · 30/12/2010 15:44

The media? Gosh do you have, like, the paps outside your house? How thrilling!

Can I suggest you contact the press complaints commission if it's getting too intrusive?

Or maybe this is all in your head and you have no media attention?

ValiumTinselton · 30/12/2010 15:46

oh for god's sake, that's not a problem.

the media don't make anybody feel bad for conforming to their stereotype. believe me, it's much worse when you don't manage to ping back into your size tens.

But anybody reading this with baby bulge, hang in there, it does go eventually..

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 30/12/2010 15:51

I went straight back to shape after my pregnancy, in fact with the breast feeding and time to exercise and cook from scratch my size 14 clothes were loose on me.

It was only a year later after going back to work, commuting all morning and eveing, using my lunch hours to get everything done, using my weekends to do all the cleaning and washing, and then coming home starving and shovelling copious biscuits and slices of bread into my mouth, scarfing down an "I deserve it as I've had a shit day" glass of wine/bag of crisps/Chinese takeway/chocolate bar that I found it a struggle.

Now I'm 16 stone. Don't count your chickens.

When I was a spritely bingo wing free size 12 I used to think it'd never happen either.

How wrong I was!

SheWillBeLoved · 30/12/2010 15:53

I'll join you in that Chinese Binfull - wouldn't want the media taking the piss out of me for having visible collarbones now would we Grin

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 30/12/2010 16:01

Yes but then the press will be at my door - calling me a "feeder"! Shock

Better if I eat it myself.....Smile

My last one - back to FatClub next week Sad

Want2bSupermum · 30/12/2010 16:08

I can sympathise with you. I will never forget being 17 and shopping in top shop with my Dad. I tried on some jeans in an 8 and 10 and they were too big so I asked the assistant if they had a smaller size. The shop assistants started having a go at me and telling me that I had anorexia because I was too skinny for my height. I am 5'6" and at the time I weighted just under 9 stone. The women were awful and didn't stop having a go even after I was reduced to tears. Luckily my Dad was with me and he stood up for me.

I learnt an important lesson that day. Never let anyone put you down for being yourself. I am no longer skinny. I filled out and am now a 12, have curves and huge boobies (helps that I am 13wks pregnant!).

usualsuspect · 30/12/2010 16:12

I lost all my baby weight very quickly after all 3 of mine .I was a right skinny Minnie and would have like to have kept some weight back then ...but now 18 years later Its a case of be careful what you wish for Grin

ISNT · 30/12/2010 16:22

Which media? I don't think I've ever read anything slagging women off for going back to their pre-pg shape quickly. When slebs pop back into shape there is admiration all round. Confused

NinkyNonker · 30/12/2010 16:29

Confused as to why you are pissed off, I was smaller than I was pre-preg by about 6 wks PP and certainly never noticed anything derogatory in the media...and if I had I wouldn't have cared, I lost weight! Anyway, I think any media commentary would be aimed at size zero slebs crash dieting and hitting the gym 1 wk PP not normal people like us.

igetmorelovefromthecat · 30/12/2010 16:45

Gosh you poor thing, losing all your weight so quickly, must be awful.

dickiedavismincepies · 30/12/2010 16:46

OP, unless you are off the telly I can't for the life of me see how the media are making you feel bad.
Come back to us when Heat have put you in the Circle of Shame.

Chandon · 30/12/2010 17:00

go find something else to feel smug, oh no, cross about

MardyBra · 30/12/2010 17:03

I saw the OP and jumped into the thread to say YABU for being a smug cow (but I see you've already had a pasting). You really didn't think this was going to end well did you?

GMajor7SwansASwimming · 30/12/2010 17:03

Definite boasting.

I'm bf my 11 mo DD and I still weigh over a stone more than I did pre-preg.

Envy, Envy and Envy again.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 30/12/2010 17:03

Why are you pissed off? Who is making you feel pissed off? I got nothing but compliments when I got into my size 8 jeans 10 days after giving birth.

MumNWLondon · 30/12/2010 17:46

Am very Envy - despite breastfeeding for 6 months, and going to the gym, by the time DS2 was 6 months old I was 3 stone overweight - almost a stone more than I was when he was 2 weeks old.

By the time he was 6 months old was getting lots of comments, esp from my parents that it was time to loose the weight.

I have now lost 2 stone of it, but still have another 1 stone to go. For the past 3 months I have only eaten 1200 calories a day PLUS have gone to the gym 3-4 times a week, including running at least 2.5km each time PLUS do EA sports active on wii on days I'm not in the gym.

Who cares what the media say, I wish I didn't have the hassle etc of being on this boring diet for what seems like forever (am guessing will be dieting until his first birthday so 6 months in total).