To decide not to send gifts to niece and nephews next year

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Because they never acknowledge nor thank me for them? It's not because it's too early I'm still waiting for a thank you for last year's presents

They are adults by the way (21 and 23) - their 17 year old sister did thank me by text so she's getting next year.

AIBU?

A good reason for having small, personal parties,Jenai.

Go readywithwellies!

coldtits - the OP isn't about thankyou notes though, and many other posters, me included have said that any form of thankyou would suffice

right, but your first post made yourself sound like you see saying thank you as pointless - full stop. that is how you came across!

I never wanted thank you cards from my nieces and nephews, but even a bloody text to let me know the stuff had arrived would have been something - it is the total lack of acknowledgement at all pissed me off - as that is also what is getting to the OP. NOT a lack of a card.

Thank you Normanshormones he has extremely severe speech delay and cannot form a sentence yet but recently he has just started to string some words together. The other day I had cleaned up after our new pup and he came in and said "clean........(big gap) now, hmm hoo (thank you) Mummy" I do not know where I got him from I can tell you! But he makes me very proud.

that first part was to readywithwellies btw!!

Everyone I know swamps us with thank you notes, even if they have already texted us or handed it over in person. I find it a bit much because it is the already busy adults doing it (dc too young). When they can write and organise themselves great, until then I would prefer to make a quick phonecall, or say thanks in person

I think the issue here is that these are adults so are perfectly capable of emailing / using FB etc; I would expect a thank-you in these circs. I would not expect a thank-you from younger children, I give the presents, they enjoy them, job done and so on this point I agree with Readywith. I try and secretly ring round on Xmas day to thank others for DCs pressies, but I'm sure I make mistakes. It's also a bit much at assume that Readywith's kids are generally rude etc (and imply she is a bad parent) because she doesn't agree with you. My Dcs don't say thanks for pressies but their lovely manners are often commented on.

Oh no. I really like sending thank you notes especially to the old dears in our family who love getting them apparently. It seems I am nasty and bourgeois.

Winky - it's not so much the cards that are nasty. It's the ill-feeling they (or rather the lack of them) cause.

A verbal thank you is plenty, but there are some (not the OP) who get ridiculously shirty when they've not received a fecking card.

They're nice to send - as long as you don't get pissy if you don't receive any.

Oh no, I don't mind not getting a thank you letter or card - I just want to know that the gift was received - I don't trust Royal Mail really I suppose.

I went shopping, spent money, chose gifts (well, vouchers) and need to know they reached their destination.

I don't see my nieces & nephews as they live at the other end of the country - if I did, I'd hope that they would thank me in person.